Cuddle Comfort

Cuddle Comfort, What’s That?

So, what do I mean by “cuddle comfort” exactly? If you take it literally, then it can seem like it is a bit obvious. However, it’s not always a physical act or state of being. Cuddle comfort is just an act, touch, or anything really that gives you that sense of comfort or security in the moment. These moments usually even bring some form of clarity as well. That’s the simplified explanation of what cuddle comfort is; or at least in regards to how I refer to it and what I refer to it as.

Cuddle Comfort By Yourself

Ironically, it is usually when we are alone that we most need cuddle comfort. Usually, it means that we have spent too much time by ourselves and are starting to crave human interaction in some form or another. However, it is not uncommon to be around other people often- usually the same ones over and over- and still need to have cuddle comfort that is provided outside of those same people.

In order to receive cuddle comfort by yourself, you can always try wrapping yourself in a blanket, or perhaps taking a moment longer to appreciate that feeling of the sheets and bedspread right after tucking yourself into bed at night. Maybe even go to bed earlier than usual in order to get to that moment sooner. Of course, you aren’t always in the situation where doing any of that would make any sense, so you do have to find other ways to go about giving yourself this gift. The most obvious and easiest would be simply crossing your arms and hugging yourself while you take deep breaths, but honestly, the physical touch of yourself isn’t really what is most needed. No, it is the calm and the feeling of “everything really is okay” that you are needing the most in these moments. Close your eyes and allow yourself to just freeze in time and place. Tell yourself that you’re good and you got this. Why? Because you are good. You do have this.

Cuddle Comfort From a Pet

One of the most innocent ways to get cuddle comfort, of course, is from a pet. Most dogs and cats will naturally want to cuddle up to you anyway, so it makes it convenient therapy for both you and your furry friend. Now, that being said, don’t be one of those pet owners that forces your pet to cuddle with you; that’s bad for the pet and for your connection with that pet. So, don’t do that. However, a quick or lengthy cuddle from your pet is a great way to help you feel comfort and security in the moment. There is even research that shows that petting and cuddling with a pet can lower your blood pressure and lessen anxiety in most people. Yes, you can Google it if you would like.

Now, not all pets are prone to wanting or even allowing cuddling with them. If you have a snake, lizard, bird, or any type of pet that doesn’t have fur, you may want to make a judgment call on that one… or maybe proceed slowly at least if trying to get cuddle comfort from them. Just a thought you may want to consider.

Cuddle Comfort From a Partner

Now we come to the most thought of and most common form of cuddle comfort for most people. Nothing replaces the cuddle comfort you get from cuddling with your partner. Of course, that person you are in a committed relationship with is amazing to cuddle with. Your person may also be a casual situation or a friend with benefits, though. Whoever they are to you and whatever they are to you; nothing beats cuddling with that person in an intimate embrace at just the right time. Yes, we guys love this too, even though a lot of guys won’t admit it. We love holding a woman in our arms and making her feel safe. We do enjoy her holding on to us almost as though she is claiming us at that moment. Cuddle comfort from a partner is generally the most powerful and sought after form of this emotional support. If you have it, stay grateful for it and don’t ever take it for granted. If you don’t have it… your time will come.

Cuddle Comfort After Sex

Nearly every woman in a relationship will tell you and her man over and over, they want the cuddles after sex. Little secret fact, most guys actually love cuddling after sex too. The difference is that she wants him to hold her tight until she falls asleep. He wants to hold her some-what tightly until he’s burning up so much that he needs to pull away and cool down. Also, it is a great idea for health reasons for both men and women to go pee right after sex; so try to do that first, then cuddle. However, nobody can deny that after sex cuddle comfort is one of the most entrancing and amazing experiences an adult can have. Again, a long term relationship or a friend with benefits… The cuddle comfort needs to happen.

That’s not to downplay too much the cuddle comfort that comes before sex oftentimes. However, the cuddle comfort after sex usually involves the gradual slide down of the post-orgasm sensation too. The security and comfort, paired with the post-orgasm rush; there is no beating that for either person (or multiple people sometimes) involved. Even aside from the joy and sensation of it all, after care is important for mental and emotional reasons too, so keep that in mind.

Final Thoughts on Cuddle Comfort

So, the main point of this post is to not only bask in the wonderfulness that is cuddle comfort, but to also simply point out that we all need cuddle comfort at times. It is a normal and human thing to want security, comfort, reassurance, and a general sense of knowing that everything is going to be okay. We want the feeling that our life is better than we feel it is and that we are, in fact, doing a great job at being a human being on this Earth.

Don’t worry… you got this. You are doing great and you’re only getting better. Stay yourself and try to give as much cuddle comfort to others as you hope to get from them. We all need it in our lives, but we each need to remember that others need it and it is something that we can give to them. You never really know how much of a difference it will make to that person or even how badly and deeply they may need it in their lives.