Tinder, Match.com, Bumble, Hinge.... the list is seemingly never ending.

During the pandemic and shutdown I began seeing things a lot clearer with relationships. The interactions the reactions to others actions. Funny was having my own relationship problems of leaving a very unhealthy relationship. Felt so depressed seeing Facebook stories and people sharing and couples so happy. Have had a lot of relationships in my lifetime that was always missing something, just always ok but never feeling the true inner connection and intimacy when you find yourself in what I would believe love should feel like. Often wondered why I always felt drained in a relationship instead of feeling alive and happy. Have used the term not on same page many times to explain problems when in the relationship. Felt like I always was explaining the differences that were keeping it drained instead of alive. Then I did the constant checking on exes Facebook page and was so hurt. After 8 years together and a child together his page consisted of pictures of his children, brother, and sister, and dog. Just random pictures not of doing things or going places. Read through the feeds and conversations that his circle of friends and family were discussing. As I reviewd my circle of discussions and pictures of vacations people enjoying life. Again was blind at first just so hurt that he didn't want me and lacked respect for my needs and felt awful that he had nothing on his page that even acknowledged we were ever together. Then it finally clicked and hit me..Was like a rush of how we were not on same page and realized if he has a Facebbok page in the beginning of our relationship I probably would have identified sooner how different and truly not in same circle or page. Realizing times when relationships become toxic and exhausting and draining is due to not being on the same page which has an enormous effect in every level. My normal, my friends, my life was the way I wanted to be treated and what I wanted to hear and see. His circle was not at all where I wanted to be was not what I even wanted to hear or see. Realized missing someone who was never on the same page was a true blessing. Now I will make sure the next time I want to date that I dig deeper and make sure his Facebook page is alot more like my Facebook page so I wont have to feel drained wanting what was never going to happen. Actually gave me a way to truly define that whats normal to me is not normal to all.

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As if we are not already significantly restricted in our day-to-day lives by necessity of living under virtual quarantine, in a cruel display of sarcasm the novel coronavirus also has its say in how we die. Danish philosopher, Søren Kierkegaard, was quoted as saying, “Marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way.” If the coronavirus could speak to the impact it is having on our human population right now, it might say something along the same lines: “Live or don’t live, you will regret it either way.”

Heads bowed down, hands mirrored in unison, concentration not broken - no kids, I’m not talking about the Catholics kneeling in church. I’m referring to you, sitting on your phone. Oddly enough this soliloquy is being written by myself, a millennial and former social media/never-being-detached-from-my-phone addict. I too remember the never-ending and constant yearning of checking if Kim Kardashian really named her baby after a direction or congratulating Veronica (some girl I barely talked to from my 1st grade art class) and her engagement announcement. Even if I was in the middle of an in-person conversation, my mind would immediately falter when I heard the familiar ping of a notification. It was the same when I felt the buzz of my phone’s vibration - all concentration ceased to exist.

As someone who found the concept of a place where anyone can post their thoughts and feeling that differ from the cultural and societal norms intriguing, I was shocked to find that these pages contained large amounts of blatant hate speech under the guise of “unpopular opinions”. When you first look at these pages you see posts such as “Yellow skittles are the best flavor!!” or “Picasso is an over hyped artist and should not be one of three artists any person who does not know about art knows of.” Or even “Billie Eilish is an industry plant and was potentially created in a lab.” Even if you don’t agree with these you can think about it for a moment, shrug, and move on.

We all have something to hide.

I am about to release my 600th photo creation to my Facebook friends.

Have you ever wondered why some people ignore your Whatsapp, Facebook or any other messages? I don’ t mean cases when you write to a complete stranger with an intention to start a conversation and make friends, although that also counts sometimes! You text someone, often expecting just a short “yes” or “no” but get silence instead. The worst thing is that you clearly see that your message has been read and…. ignored! Familiar situation? It leaves a person on the other end feeling unimportant and neglected, in a word — devalued. It’s ok to read a message and answer it a few minutes later or at most a couple of hours later, but in many cases it never happens at all. First you think that they may be busy and will respond you later the same day, after some time you start thinking that you will be answered tomorrow, but tomorrow comes and goes with no reply. What makes the situation even worse is that you can see their online and “last seen” status. Though many people prefer to hide it,what does not excuse their behaviour by the way, there are still those who don’ t care and keep on talking to others being aware that the person who is waiting for their reply can see it. This kind of behaviour is beyond my comprehension. I am worried even when I have Whatsapp messages from a few contacts and start answering one of them while others can see me doing it and thinking that someone else is more important to me, so I usually answer in a hurry in order not to offend anyone and I am not going to hide my “last seen” status, as in my opinion it is a sign of dishonest behaviour.

“I have been to The Land of Happy — what a bore.” Shel Silverstein