Heads bowed down, hands mirrored in unison, concentration not broken - no kids, I’m not talking about the Catholics kneeling in church. I’m referring to you, sitting on your phone. Oddly enough this soliloquy is being written by myself, a millennial and former social media/never-being-detached-from-my-phone addict. I too remember the never-ending and constant yearning of checking if Kim Kardashian really named her baby after a direction or congratulating Veronica (some girl I barely talked to from my 1st grade art class) and her engagement announcement. Even if I was in the middle of an in-person conversation, my mind would immediately falter when I heard the familiar ping of a notification. It was the same when I felt the buzz of my phone’s vibration - all concentration ceased to exist.
As someone who found the concept of a place where anyone can post their thoughts and feeling that differ from the cultural and societal norms intriguing, I was shocked to find that these pages contained large amounts of blatant hate speech under the guise of “unpopular opinions”. When you first look at these pages you see posts such as “Yellow skittles are the best flavor!!” or “Picasso is an over hyped artist and should not be one of three artists any person who does not know about art knows of.” Or even “Billie Eilish is an industry plant and was potentially created in a lab.” Even if you don’t agree with these you can think about it for a moment, shrug, and move on.
Buddha is very clear on that aspect of the Noble Eightfold Path which is Right Speech.
We all have something to hide.
I am about to release my 600th photo creation to my Facebook friends.
Have you ever wondered why some people ignore your Whatsapp, Facebook or any other messages? I don’ t mean cases when you write to a complete stranger with an intention to start a conversation and make friends, although that also counts sometimes! You text someone, often expecting just a short “yes” or “no” but get silence instead. The worst thing is that you clearly see that your message has been read and…. ignored! Familiar situation? It leaves a person on the other end feeling unimportant and neglected, in a word — devalued. It’s ok to read a message and answer it a few minutes later or at most a couple of hours later, but in many cases it never happens at all. First you think that they may be busy and will respond you later the same day, after some time you start thinking that you will be answered tomorrow, but tomorrow comes and goes with no reply. What makes the situation even worse is that you can see their online and “last seen” status. Though many people prefer to hide it,what does not excuse their behaviour by the way, there are still those who don’ t care and keep on talking to others being aware that the person who is waiting for their reply can see it. This kind of behaviour is beyond my comprehension. I am worried even when I have Whatsapp messages from a few contacts and start answering one of them while others can see me doing it and thinking that someone else is more important to me, so I usually answer in a hurry in order not to offend anyone and I am not going to hide my “last seen” status, as in my opinion it is a sign of dishonest behaviour.
“I have been to The Land of Happy — what a bore.” Shel Silverstein
Before i begin this post, i want to state that I am myself guilty, of most of the points i'm going to raise. There is a considerable amount of judgement and negativity surrounding the use of social media, in partcicular it's rather unhealthy side effect of paranoia, insecurity & that cute turned psycho behaviour pattern [guilty guilty guilty]. However, I want to stress here how if utilised in the correct way, this attractive technology can bring about change [for the better] and influence society on a large scale, especially highlighting issues that affect the younger audience which we have recently witnessed with the UK election campaign.
Social media is a great tool to communicate and find interesting new people. However, many people make them the meaning of their lives. What if this is about your spouse and your marriage is on the verge of a divorce?
The Wedding: Two people in love, coming together. The idea of fairytale-esque true love manifesting itself for everyone to see; The symbol of everlasting happiness. It’s all over our culture, especially in the movies we create. Everyone has watched that romcom (you know the one) where someone asks the bride, “are you happy?” And she replies, tears building in her eyes... “yes.” Or that quintessential scene where some secondary character asks the reluctant lover, “do they make you happy?” But have we ever stopped to ask what these characters mean by the word “happy”?
I'm terrible at replying to texts. I really am. Most people who know me know not to expect a swift reply. Some of my friends even have a running joke going that I'll get back to them in three to five business days. This does not mean I don't care, don't love the person who sent the message, or that I'm mad at them.
Hi, I'm a 31 year old girl. I just separated from my partner after five years and I've been single for a while, but I can not know anyone. I would like to start having a relationship with someone, but my life is very stable and routine, and I find it difficult to meet new people. I've signed up for social activities but I haven't met anyone either. I'm thinking about downloading some apps to meet people but I'm a little embarrassed and afraid that it's not for me. Is it good that I sign up for these apps? Thank you.