Everything seems to be moving so fast, friends getting married, moving away, just people around me getting on with life and I feel as if I'm just standing still, or worse slowing down. I want to keep up, I want to improve and achieve, just don't know where to start.
Let's start with a generally accepted fact: Long distance relationships are hard. Really hard. If you've been in one, you can understand what it means to love and long for from a distance; there's a piece missing, not of you, necessarily, but of what you love, of home, of belonging, and even though you know exactly where it is, you can't just go and get it and hold it close. It's frustrating and lonely and fragmenting, and only the strongest couples make it through. These are couples who have somehow lucked into the perfect trifecta of love, circumstance, and timing.
All I ever wanted was you.
I love you because you're kind.
The search for pleasure leads to excessive indulgence, envy, jealousy, emotional detachment, treating people as objects of desire. Feeding your insecurities, ultimately leads to bondage or unhealthy Soul ties. However, when the communion of two souls flourishes from the uninhabited passion of their awaken hearts, that is; loving unconditionally without fear, without limit, without reservations; Soulmates. Then there’s the Twin flame love.
So it's your partner's Birthday, your Anniversary, Christmas time, or Valentines Day... Perhaps you just woke up this morning and felt like your partner deserves the world, and you're desperate to give it to them, but you can't. Unfortunately, the world is difficult to obtain single-handedly, and I'll wager, way out of your price range. Still, you want to get your beloved something SPECTACULAR. The figure in your bank account, however, is less than impressive and the ideas you have are lack-lustre, used up, or non-existent. Not to worry. Here are a range of funky gift ideas that are sure to show how much you care, even when the money simply isn't there.
A brainwasher has genuine ill will towards you because they want to make you believe what they believe about who you are, which I learned from If You Had Controlling Parents, How to Make Peace With Your Past And Take Your Place In The World, Dan Neuharth. Many of them mean you serious harm because they want to strip you of what makes you, you. Cults do this for power and control over people who join them. Often, cult victims are lonely people who do not have solid friendships although personally, I’d rather be lonely than in a toxic friendship like I was in three years ago. Control over someone else is a ridiculous motive because no one can have total control over someone else’s mind, body and soul. Although to me, I feel that this occurs in my family, almost as if someone controls someone else’s spirit.
Brainwashing happens in cults when control of sleeping habits, and control of access to information can happen. (Neuharth p.100) It is why I didn’t know much about schizophrenia or psychic stuff growing up because my family didn’t provide me with many resources about it.
Not only being smitten with someone makes you feel happy, but it also makes you feel powerful. Alas no, none of you is going to turn into any Marvel hero, but many of you still feel empowered. The truth is, even if you all think and behave differently in general, you all show similar attitudes when it comes time to interacting with that someone that you like. Lets check this out:
Let's face it—you can no longer think everything has to be black or white nowadays. You need to accept that anything in the world we live in has gray areas—and so do your relationship. Is it scary? Fear not! It is actually a pretty good balance, but for it to be so, you first need to agree on that reality.