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I Lost Myself in My Relationship
A few years ago, I started what later would become the most toxic relationship of my life. At first, everything seemed great. The colors were brighter, the food tasted better, and I felt lighter. But a couple of months passed, and I realized that I had changed — and not for the better.
Lara HayesPublished about 6 hours ago in HumansRules for Repair and Re-connection
Love: The emotional roller-coaster Have you ever found your found yourself staring at a happy elderly couple that just seem to be grateful to be in each other's presence together? I'm sure the questions ran through your head like a freight train yet the biggest one of them all being, 'How did they do it?'. When we view these wonderful couples that seem to emit this wonderful symbol of timeless love, we easily overlook the possibilities they went through troubled times together and individually.
L.R. MarmorPublished about 8 hours ago in HumansNot your First Love
Like almost every female teenager, most women meet a guy at some point in their teenage years that they believe is “the one”. If you’re lucky, then that guy might be the one. First date, first boyfriend, first love, then comes marriage and you might even end up pushing a baby carriage. But the truth is, it does NOT happen like that for most women.
Caitlin BookerPublished about 8 hours ago in Humans
A Frozen State
You wake to a siren. Something small that passes by. You turn to your side to reach for your phone. Your alarm rings and it’s still early. Early enough to roll over and steal some time for rest. Your mind races as your thoughts begin to manifest. Morning thoughts and memory cloud the brain. Reminders of what is today and what is happening. Work, school or just another day to venture off an exploration.
Why Men Must Know Their Worth
Do you know your worth? Do you know your value? Every man should know his worth. Every man should know what he brings to the table. Every man must evaluate himself as his peers —and society— are constantly evaluating him. Every man must have a realistic evaluation of himself. He must also constantly re-evaluate himself to stay competitive. Fellas, we have to stop settling for less than what the market can provide for us. Gentlemen, we have to stop being content with what we have and stay competitive —and ambitious.
Christopher J. Banks, SrPublished a day ago in Humans
Breaking The Awkwardness
“This might make for an awkward situation. I have a talent for awkward situations.” ― Peter Davis Awkward. The 7-letter word which according to the Dictionary states, "causing or feeling uneasy embarrassment or inconvenience" or "causing difficulty; hard to do or deal with".
AV AnyVaysPublished 3 days ago in Humans
A Confronting High School Experience
This story is based on real events and may be triggering to some. All names have been changed to protect identities. Staring out of the musty classroom window, Antonia knew the chimes of the lunchtime bells would be blaring at any second. She could see the students from the higher math class had already been released from their numerical prison cell. All of her classmates started to pack their books away, expectantly staring at the teacher to be released for the day. Miss Lysa sighed, "alright class, that's it for today. Remember to read pages 47-68 and complete ALL questions before tomorrow. And next time, as iv said a million times, you don't get to decide when you pack up for lunch. You don't pack up until iv instructed you to." The students stayed silent, casting annoyed glances at Miss Lysa as they hurried out of the classroom before she could assign any more homework and eat into their precious time in the yard. "She says that every day, why can't she just let us out before the bell chimes like every other class gets to!" Jackie exclaimed angrily to Antonia as they walked through the dim hallway to their lockers. "I know right, once we've made it to our lockers, put out books away, fought the crowds at the tuckshop, and made it back to our meeting area, there's barely any time left to actually eat. It's so unfair, I swear she does it on purpose!" "At least the guys didn't get us kept in another 10 minutes like they did yesterday." "Yeah, I can't believe the whole class got kept in just because the guys decided to throw a tantrum about being separated in a seating plan." As the two girls reached their lockers they heard a familiar voice blaring over the crowds "seriously, don't be such a bitch!" Lisa bolted to the two girls, "can you believe this, those year tens are such BITCHES. Who do they think they are, stealing our spot, we're year elevens! We deserve that spot! Hurry up Rabbit, Jackie, put your stuff away! They've stolen our spot again, lets go get it back ." Antonia put her head down, slowly putting her books away as Lisa and Jackie ran to defend their spot in the yard. The tears welled up in Antonia's eyes, her mind dwelling on the fact that she could never escape the nicknames her so-called friends had given her all because of her crooked teeth. "Hey, what's wrong?" Sonia's voice cut through Antonia's depressing thoughts. "Oh, hey Sonia. Just Lisa being Lisa is all, what's up?" "Well, want to come and sit with my group for today?" "Sure," Antonia exclaimed happily, thinking about how she could avoid the daily turf war and name-calling for a whole lunch period. As Antonia and Sonia walked toward the small giggling group of girls, Antonia noticed the lanky, boy off to the side of the group, staring her down as they approached. "Hey Antonia!" the girls exclaimed happily in unison. "Antonia, this is Jason" Sonia declared. The two exchanged quiet hello's as the group giggled and debated which anime was the best, Naruto or One Piece. Antonia realised that she had never spoken to Jason before as she shifted nervously while he stared her down. As the lunch break started to come to an end, Antonia thanked the group and slowly made her way along with Lisa back to the lockers, back to see the outcome of the turf war. Just as the girls reached the stairs, they heard the sound of heavy footsteps running quickly toward them. Turning, both girls shrunk away as Jason ran up behind them, stopping inches away from the two. "Oh hey, you scared us!" the girls laughed, Jason simply nodded and followed them up the stairs. The piercing bell chimed loudly, followed by the angry groans of students being called back into their cells. Lisa and Jackie ran toward the locker, "where did you go? How could you just abandon us?" "Sorry, I was hanging out with Sonia." "Well just so you know, we're going to run to our spot at the next break, we have to get there first. Hang on a sec." Antonia winced as Lisa grabbed hold of her hair, ripping at individual strands. "Your hair is so disgusting Antonia, it's so full of split ends." Antonia yelled and pulled away "STOP, LET GO!" Everyone laughed as Lisa continued to yank Antonia's hair and rip out the split ends. To everyone else, every time Lisa did these things, it was just a huge joke. But to Antonia, not only was it painful, but it was also embarrassing. No one knew how much Antonia wished she could just cut her hair off, maybe it would stop them from hurting her. The second bell chimed and Lisa let go of Antonia's hair, the students ran to their classes. Hours of stressful, meaningless effort faded as the bell shrieked to indicate the students were free once again. Antonia hurridly snuck away as Lisa and Jackie sprinted to their usual spot. Antonia walked to Sonia and her group, noting Jason and Sonia standing off to the side, staring at the girls. "Heeyy" the group happily chimed in unison at her approaching. "Hey," Jason said, nodding to Antonia. The three started to chat off to the side, Antonia noted that the girls seemed to give pointed glances toward Jason whenever he spoke, but thought nothing of it as she had only just met him. Little did she know, it would be one of the worst decisions of her life.
Recovery: After the Storm
On Valentine's Day 2021 - it was supposed to be another day to celebrate another year of love. Instead, it was the beginning of the worst week one could imagine.
LaTisha GriffinPublished 5 days ago in HumansThe Art of Getting old
The journey to being old begins when you are born. The pace is so slow that it is difficult to measure in real time but easily measured by life events such as the death of a loved one, birth of children, birthdays, marriages and divorces, etc. The definition of old is not easily found but in general an old person is anyone who is 10 years older than you and therefore you are old to someone 10 years your junior. It turns out to be a relative thing that is continuously adjusting to who you are around.
William O'Neal StringerPublished 5 days ago in HumansHow To Solve 90% Of Your Relationship Problems
I’m not a relationship expert but I’ve had my fair share of misunderstandings and arguments. I’m not a perfect human either. I can be hot-tempered, easily annoyed, and completely miss the plot when it comes to understanding what the other person is saying.
Aphinya DechalertPublished 6 days ago in HumansTHREE LESSONS ON FORGIVENESS FOR THE STUBBORN AND THE HURT
If you clicked on this article, you’re probably someone who finds it hard, if not impossible, to forgive the ones who’ve hurt you. I can say the same for myself. During my journey with forgiveness, I stumbled upon the hard-hitting realization that forgiveness might be one of the hardest lessons I would have to learn. It’s true, forgiveness is not easy, and you shouldn’t guilt yourself for being unable to forgive. It’s hard to find the right reasons to pardon when you don’t believe that the person who has hurt you deserves it. It’s even harder when most advice revolves around trusting God or being the bigger person. Well, I don’t believe in God, and I think the idea of being the bigger person is overrated - you don’t get any rewards for that. It’s a painful choice that brings no profit. These have never been good enough reasons for me to forgive someone who’s brought me a lot of pain, so I took the time to make up my reasons. If you’re like me, stay and let me share with you my findings in hopes that it becomes at least a little easier for you to let go of the unnecessary weight on your heart and finally move on.
You Can Help Me by Being Considerate.
“How can I help you through this?” is probably the most frustrating question to hear during a moment of helplessness. Imagine you have undergone a medical procedure that will create some formidable barriers to get through for a period of your life, not just for you but also for those who interact with you. The healing process involves giving up some everyday necessities and having to alter others. People are always telling you, “you’re so strong,” “you’re so brave,” “if anyone can do this, it is you.” After hearing this so often, it begins to root this feeling of being unable to tell people what you need to get through this difficult time. The inability to find the right way to ask for help stems from the fear of not being as strong or brave as everyone says you are.
Kayla AdamsPublished 7 days ago in Humans
