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  • Keturah Wicks
    Published about 3 hours ago
    Overcoming the Past

    Overcoming the Past

    The first time was supposed to be the last time. This is what I told myself after I lost count of how many times I had been knocked up side my head. This time was different; he left bruises. For the longest time, it had been verbal abuse. He'd say things like, "You're not good enough!", or "you're too skinny", and the one that stung the most, "That's not my baby!" I did not understand how someone who claimed they loved me could say those things, but for some reason I just could not let him go. This time it was different; I believed everything he said. He was not drunk or high, he said these things in pure anger.
  • Vee's Voice
    Published about 5 hours ago
    The Fundamentals Of Unconditional Love

    The Fundamentals Of Unconditional Love

    Acceptance That lifetime inner feeling of emptiness, the feeling that something always seemed to be missing or something not being quite right. A yearning for "the one" all left me once my twin flame and I connected but a feeling of suppression replaced it. All of my relationship needs and desires got pushed to the side. Every time I felt the urge to get close to my twin I got shut down by the brick wall that reminded me this was my desire but not necessarily his.
  • WhatsNew
    Published about 8 hours ago
    How to Deal With an Emotionally Unstable Partner

    How to Deal With an Emotionally Unstable Partner

    1. Step Back and Observe Ask yourself if you did anything wrong. Because they tend to gaslight other people (see above), emotionally unstable people have you question your actions and sanity. Be objective, and observe them and yourself. Did you really do anything wrong? Probably not.
  • Michael Keck
    Published a day ago
    Why People Matter?

    Why People Matter?

    As 2020 comes to a close. I have been doing some reflection on this year, personally and looking at the events of the world. This year has been a unique one with the Covid 19 Virus, another controversial election period, and division surrounding issues that should bring us together.
  • Chanel the matchmaker
    Published a day ago
    Your guide in getting quarantine bae

    Your guide in getting quarantine bae

    “Dear Chanel: how do I get quarantine bae?” Be creative, be bold and don’t be too late! If your reading this your one of three things
  • Aryan
    Published a day ago
    Men, Anger, Masculinity and Stress

    Men, Anger, Masculinity and Stress

    It’s November, a month which celebrates Movember, an annual event involving the growing of moustaches during the month of November to raise awareness of men’s health issues, such as prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and men’s suicide. Men, a gender less discussed and often stays at the hard side of self-image without sharing much leads a life of lonesome hay-wire sides. So, today’s blog is especially dedicated to the fact that the built is never to be alone….. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines anger as “a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism.” Psychologist T.W. Smith agrees, saying it is “an unpleasant emotion ranging in intensity from irritation or annoyance to fury or rage.” But being angry is different for everyone at different times. Tiny Things that ignite some people don’t bother others even a tiny bit. Yet we all experience events that makes us angry. Some of them are as follows : Frustration and powerlessness. Hurt and Bullying. Harassment . Injustice. Exhaustion from stress . Threats to the people, near ones, things we care about. Extreme anger is a highly issue causing on multiple events. When someone reaches extreme levels of anger, they are unable to control themselves. This type of anger can also be a sign of a issue such as a mental health disorder, emotional issues, etc. While women are more likely to direct their anger inwards and blaming themselves, men are more likely to lash out extremely because it helps them feel in more control of their emotions, as well as controlling the people around them. The way men experience and express anger may be informed especially from societal expectations to behave. These notions of male masculinity tend to favour strength, dominance and control. These could result in a negative impact on men’s mental health. Also, men may be less likely than women to seek help from mental health professionals. As these behaviours are very much linked to our culture, parents and teachers have an important role to play when boys grow up. Identifying the causes behind behaviours among boys perceived as problematic, may go a long way towards nurturing healthy adult men in the upcoming society. Anger Management for Men Tips Exercise regularly. Men are by default inclined towards more physical exercises and fitness regimes due to levels of testosterone. Exercise helps in release of chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin into the body, which can improve your state of mind and make one less prone to anger. Find some quiet time. Often ignored by majority of men, these are one of the most fruitful techniques to apply. Practice relaxation techniques. Mindfulness can help to relax and cope better with stress. Avoid alcohol. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, and can make angry outbursts more likely. Express emotion. A total ignorance by all the boys and men which in their thoughts reduces a sense of masculinity. Talking about feelings with a close friend or loved one, and keeping a journal. Theses simple things can often keep you away from a lot of issues. Assert yourself. Assertiveness is not aggression. Learn to get what you want while taking account of others and respect their feelings. Recognise yourself in anger You think that your wife/girlfriend likes talking to her friends rather than spending that time with you. You feel anger when your wife/girlfriend brings work home with her and you envy her success. You are angry that you are always being criticised by your wife/girlfriend, to the point that you can’t ever seem to get it right. Once you begin to recognise some of the deeper fears underlying your anger, you might consider the truly intimate act of talking with your wife/partner about some of your fears. This act of loving vulnerability may be very frightening to consider, but the rewards often far outweigh the risks. After you recognise your fears and reasons of anger, talking intimately with your partner or resolving issues just by easy sense of understanding with anyone around you really helps. This vulnerability is not to be frightened of but to be faced with the masculinity you have. So, next time you feel your anger rising upwards, just take deep breaths, think twice, is it really needed and then see the moment you might have missed….
  • Get Value Daily
    Published a day ago
    Relationship Advice For Women - Tips on How to Get Your Spouse to Love You More

    Relationship Advice For Women - Tips on How to Get Your Spouse to Love You More

    Relationship Advice For Women - Tips on How to Get Your Spouse to Love You More:- Relationship Advice for Women can be extremely helpful. Especially in the current economy, it is important to know what to do when you are experiencing a rocky time. There are a lot of things that women can do in order to fix their relationships and have them become stronger. Some tips will help women avoid falling into bad habits, while other tips can make their relationships stronger.
  • Alesia Davis
    Published 2 days ago
    Single for the Holidays?

    Single for the Holidays?

    I've been single for over two years. I know right, it's crazy (wink)! I'm going into my third holiday season with no plus one. Is this something that bothers me personally? Not at all! But I understand that this can be a big deal and quite bothersome for some. The holidays are about love, being thankful and joyful, and many of us have a longing to share in these emotions and feelings beyond just our family and friends. We also want to have that special someone with us in these special times. But if this is not your life right now, like it isn't mine, I NEED you to know that there are still great ways to have the best time during the holidays without letting being single steal your holiday spirit!
  • Samantha Erickson
    Published 3 days ago
    Afterthoughts

    Afterthoughts

    Most of us start out the new year expecting a fresh beginning. This is the time to make a list of your new year’s resolutions and conquer them! Or in most peoples’ case just make a list. This year started out pretty decent for me actually. I was working full-time and going to school full-time as well. I was looking forward to graduating with my Bachelor’s degree in May. Thank goodness because I was pulling my hair out with all the stress from school. Literally, you could see clumps of my hair all over the house, but that could also have been from my lack of cleaning lately. Moving onto March, I started hearing more about COVID-19. They had begun to shut down certain businesses in Minnesota where I was living. There was talk around my work place saying that we could possibly get shut down because we weren’t considered an essential business. Later on, we got notice that we were essential. Who knew a book binding company was essential? Anyways, my company ended up laying off myself and several other employees for about a month. After the month, everyone got called back but me. I forgot to mention, my husband also worked at the same company. When everyone got called back and I didn’t, my husband started asking questions as to why I was still stuck sitting at home since I was the accounting administrator. My boss finally replied in a roundabout way saying they weren’t calling me back. That moment started my job search, which still continues to this day unfortunately.
  • A. C. Clementine
    Published 3 days ago
    I feel thankful for Quarantine

    I feel thankful for Quarantine

    I am thankful for the space that COVID has allowed me to take in regards to a toxic relationship. 2020 has been, well, unimaginable to most; feeling almost like a horror movie that hasn‘t ended yet. Maybe titled, ”The Silent Stalker: How One Virus Took Over the World.” Yes, we have been in this for 9 months now, the length it takes to carry a child to full term. That’s a perspective I can also hardly imagine.
  • Angel Diggs
    Published 3 days ago
    GET THE BALL ROLLING AGAIN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

    GET THE BALL ROLLING AGAIN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

    https://bit.ly/1000LoveQuestions In this day and time, it is easy to find yourself in a battle between your heart and mind. This can also be true with the battle between love and marriage. It is hard to value marriage at during these times, because people have adapted the concept that they are free to live and do what every they want without having to be in a committed relationship and even commit to marriage, in fear that they will get hurt or hurt someone else. In marriage some key goals to set is to make a list and to check it twice, Hell even edit that list to have it conform to the growing changes that you will face. This will help you sustain your marriage and allow room for healthy boundaries as well as leave room for honesty and openness. Below you will read some keys that have been put together to guide you on how to make this happen.
  • Idalia Cerna
    Published 4 days ago
    Interpersonal skills

    Interpersonal skills

    Interpersonal skills are especially important in the workplace. Some people might be wondering what are interpersonal skills and how can they develop interpersonal skills in the workplace; in order to avoid issues with coworkers, and staff members of the organization or the company you are working for. Interpersonal skills are very essential at any job where there are people that differ from you in beliefs, race, language, skin color, religion, culture, and ethnicity. Due to the differences in ethnicity, mainly, people from other countries have a different perspective of seeing things and way of thinking than a person who came from the same place where you came from.