C.S Lewis got it right: friendship is born when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one!"
how to become interesting
We begin with the odd finding that there is a significant difference in the amount of oneself we feel we need to express around certain people as opposed to others. We tend to judge people based on how entertaining they are, but we run the risk of missing a more serious and pertinent issue when we associate certain people with being boring while others do not. When someone asks, "So, what have you been up to lately?" we positively brim with a multitude of topics, but when someone asks us the same question, we feel blank, dull, and almost inert. Why is it that when we are around some people, our minds quickly fill with stories, while when we are around others, we feel the very opposite? In order to understand the phenomen, we have to credit our unconscious minds with a faculty we might not have known we possessed during our contacts with people—we are always picking up on little details—that the same query will struggle to recall that we have ever even lived. indicators of how much our conversation partner is comprehending and valuing what we're saying when we bring up a specific topic How much of our reality can this person follow, how much of it lights them up, how much of it shocks them, how much of it they can take in stride, how much of what is prominent and complicated about us can they safely receive, and how much of our world would we have to hide from This simultaneously helps to explain how someone becomes a companion around whom people feel they have a lot to say. They do this by opening many rooms in their own minds, or if you like by saying. The answers to these multiple data points lead us, usually without even realizing we've done so, to a broad and active conclusion about how much of me this person is likely to get. Rather simply, the more the answer is a lot lot, the more we will have to say, and the more the answer is not so much, the more a cautionary instinct will form inside us telling us to remain quiet. A person will feel interesting precisely to the extent that they have become a brave and relaxed Wanderer inside their own minds that they have become familiar with and one could almost say at ease with things that are sad dark agonizing and potentially shameful when they are at home with their own anxiety grief strangeness and silliness. Of course, this is far from simple; many rooms of our minds contain very frightening things; areas of properly daunting loss pain horror and Chaos, which we can be forgiven for never wanting to go anywhere near. We will be able to comfortably unpack around them what they have felt comfortable investigating in themselves if they have talked to themselves. This provides us instruction on how to become the finest possible person in order to become a more interesting person for others. As travelers within ourselves, we must unlock as many doors to our psyches as we can, as doing so will concurrently subtly communicate to others that they can safely confide in us with all of their smaller, more personal, less frequently expressed insights and sentiments. Once we have the guts to speak up for ourselves, others will have a lot to say to us. Let's start with an odd remark. there is a significant difference in how much we feel we need to express about ourselves to certain individuals and other people. We tend to judge people based on how entertaining they are, but we run the risk of missing a more serious and pertinent issue when we associate certain people with being boring while others do not. When someone asks, "So, what have you been up to lately?" we positively brim with a multitude of topics, but when someone asks the same question of someone else, we struggle to remember that. How interesting does a given person make us feel? Why does our mind quickly fill with stories when we are around some people while it feels blank dull and almost inert around others? Since we are constantly observing minute details in other people's relationships, we must attribute to our unconscious minds a talent we may not have known we have in order to explain the phenomen phenon. Indicators of how well our listener understands and values what we're saying: how much do their eyes brighten when we bring up a particular topic? How much can they follow? How much of our reality can this person accept? How much shocks them? How much can they take in stride? How much of what's noted and complex in us can they safely receive? How much of our reality would we need to hide from them in order to spare them and ourselves? answers to these numerous data points, we often come to a broad and active conclusion about how much of ourselves this person is likely to receive without even realizing we've done so. Put another way, the more the answer is a lot, the more we will have to say, and the more the answer is not so much, the more a cautionary instinct will form inside us telling us to remain silent. This also helps to explain how someone becomes a companion around whom others feel they have a lot to say. They accomplish this by opening numerous rooms in their own minds, or if you prefer, by saying a lot to themselves, of course. this is far from simple; many of the rooms in our minds contain extremely frightening things; those are areas of appropriately daunting loss pain, horror, and chaos, and we can forgive ourselves for never wanting to go anywhere near them. However, someone will feel interesting to the extent that they have become a brave and at ease Wanderer inside their own minds, one could almost say at ease with things that are sad, dark, agonizing, and potentially shameful when they're at home with their own anxiety grief strangeness and silliness; by a beautiful principle of reciprocity, they will be at home with ours as well; we can follow them there because they have spoken to themselves and eager to discuss with them what they have felt comfortable investigating within themselves, we will be able to securely unpack around them. This provides us with advice on how to become the greatest possible version of ourselves in order to become a more fascinating person for others. We need to open as many doors to our psyches as we can because, as travelers within ourselves, we will simultaneously send out a covert signal to others that we will be a safe recipient for all of their smaller, more private, less often mentioned observations and feelings. Once we have the courage to say a lot to ourselves, others will have much to say to us.
The Virtue of Showing Emotional Restraint
In both professional and personal settings, criticism is an inevitable part of life. Whether it comes from a colleague, a friend, or a family member, criticism can be challenging to navigate but important to embrace if it is justifiable. However, it can be especially difficult when the criticism is unwarranted or unjustified. Therefore, it is crucial to show emotional restraint in these situations, even when it feels difficult, rude, or unfair.
Does true love exist?
Embracing Vulnerability A Dance of Hearts True love requires a willingness to be vulnerable, to expose the core of one's being without fear of judgment. It's a dance where partners share fears, dreams, and insecurities, forging a connection that transcends surface-level interactions.
In My Life I Loved Them All
I find myself in the late 50’s and early 1960’s this morning, transported by the Everly Brothers “All I Have to Do Is Dream”. Those days, when I was a boy nearing the age of 12. I found myself wandering about and around this thing called life.
Now these three remain: Faith, Hope and Love
When I was younger, I reveled at even the thought of the warmth of human connection; basked in the light of understanding and acceptance associated with love for my fellow-kind. Daily the opportunity to spread goodwill got me out of bed, thoughts of generosity woven tightly amongst my every action. From sharing the sandwiches in my lunchbox with the unhoused to arranging my soft toys in an even-handed way, I welcomed any chance for compassion.
In search of a greater perhaps
In search of a greater perhaps I stand here and moan, All I want to do is express my rage and groan Out of misery, anguish, anxiety, and disgust
Diving into human relationships finds one of its most compelling threads in the form of sibling bonds. Sibling relationships are multifaceted, encompassing shared joys, sorrows, and, often, the complexity of rivalry. This sibling rivalry, woven into the fabric of family dynamics, takes root early in life and undergoes a transformative evolution that shapes individuals and relationships over the course of a lifetime. In this exploration, we will delve into the nuanced layers of sibling rivalry, investigating its roots, understanding its profound impact, and exploring how it transforms as siblings navigate the journey from childhood to adulthood.
Treating people, even prisoners, with respect is what food service giant Bill Mouskondis is all about.
Bill Mouskondis is always smiling. He is the son of a Greek immigrant who started a food service company with an old truck and cases of dented cans scavenged from railroad cars. Bill remembers long days riding his bicycle as a kid, delivering restaurant supplies to local cafes.
- Top Story - February 2024
My best friend is not of this world. But he makes himself available to me at all times. He has heard all my stories, been with me through the good, bad, ugly, and has dried my tears. He has been my comfort when everyone else has left me.
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Wifelovers are turned on by women who are already taken.
Women who are completely off limits. Women who should want nothing to do with them — but are so attracted to them that she forgets her vows and gives into temptation.
How Do You Know When You've Found the One?
1. When you are comfortable in any setting with them. I encourage all couples who are interested in furthering their relationships toward marriage to explore lots of different types of settings before tying the knot. Spend time with your significant other's extended family. Try going to the mall together. Professional sporting events. Birthday parties. Go overseas together if you can. The more places that you are able to spend time together the better because you will be able to see how your significant other responds to his or her surroundings. Ask yourself, do I admire the way my significant other takes in the world?