To start, I am alone. I am in college—freshman year. And just because I'm a freshman, don't you dare write me off as another homesick, bummer boy who's just crying about how he can't go home to mommy. It doesn't always work like that. This is my first piece of writing work on Vocal, so don't judge too hard.
Throughout school I always felt like there was pressure that you needed an army of friends. Friends that would back you in any situation, maybe even help avoid any bullying if that was to occur—the more friends, the cooler you were, right? You couldn't be more wrong.
Making acquaintances is a breeze. The real work is moving the needle towards something more than those surface level interactions. Whether it is with a new friend, potential love interest, mother-in-law, or sister, here are ten things you can do to cut through superficiality and actually get to know them in a real and meaningful way.
It's hard to accept the fact that someone has died and you never had enough time with them.
“Maybe some people just aren’t meant to be in our lives forever. Maybe some people are just passing through. It’s like some people just come through our lives to bring us something: a gift, a blessing, a lesson we need to learn. And that’s why they’re here. You’ll have that gift forever.”
When I look back on friendships and relationships that are not in my life anymore, I start to notice the signs and reasons why we had to go our separate ways. Throughout my life, I have had friends come and go and really question my self-worth. When numerous people who meant so much, leave, it does make you question their intentions in the relationship. The biggest thing I learnt within these friendships is when someone leaves you it does not reflect poorly on you, but that is what they had to do in the moment to survive. Another big thing I learned is that I have a hard time letting go of friendships that are not servicing me anymore. In particular, I’ve had a really good friend, completely ghost me and I’ve also had friends that I’ve had to distance myself from.
It's like that old saying your Mum or your Nan would say: "You can count your real friends on one hand."
I’m sorry I sat in your seat in English. Even though it wasn’t assigned, teenagers mutually understand how everyone has that seat you sit in, the same seat every day.
I often find myself meandering back to that cold January night... with the usual gaggle of characters in the Junior Ranks' Mess.
As the leaves fall and crunch under my feet, I can’t help but start lighting fall’s eve scented candles and curling up with my favorite scary movies. But I feel a bit somber this time of year, because part of me misses the halloweens of my childhood. Those crisp eves where I fought with my mom because I didn’t want to wear a jacket with my cool witch outfit while out trick or treating. I miss running around with my friends around the neighborhood that wasn’t usually this alive at this time of night. I miss those dads that got really into hay rides and ran one for their suburb. I miss the friends whose birthdays were around Halloween so they always got Halloween-themed parties and parents would make mud pie with gummy worms because it was more creepy.
We live in a world so full of negativity that I have made it a personal goal to spread some positive energy everywhere I go. Much like my last article, this is intended to showcase that while the world can be cruel, harsh place to exist in, its the bonds we form with others that often help us through life’s battles.