It’s a sad fact of life today that we lose so many of the younger generations to drugs, violence, and suicide. In the town I grew up in, there always seems to be yet another death, whether it is caused by those reasons or some sort of accident, they always seem to be close in age to me. I've watched countless friends grieve over their best friends and family, but never would I have imagined it would be someone that I was close with. Early this year, this became my reality. My friend Andrew had passed away.
It started out innocently enough. I met him at orientation for the college program I had decided to take, when I decided to go back to school full-time. At 45. He seemed nice enough. A little quirky, sometimes a bit shy seeming, but nice enough. I didn't think too much of him beyond that. During orientation I hung out with him and with a girl who was also starting the program with us. The three of us became friends fairly quickly.
This is Addam, with two “Ds.” He and I were in the Army together in 2005 to 2006, stationed in Ft. Riley, Kansas. I didn’t really get to know him until several, several months after joining Bravo Company (🐠—that’s a barracuda). Eventually, we’re all (Bravo) going out and drinking together.
Let’s see. Living with your best friend may seem enticing, but it is not all that it is cracked up to be. Just as a quick note: Overall, living with my “bestie” was not bad, and I quite enjoyed it. The family that I lived with was quite generous letting me live there and all. Luckily for me, they also liked me before I lived with them, and somehow did not hate me during or after my time staying there. I was really worried that they would kick me out, because my family all liked to tell me how much of a mess I am and how I pretty well leave path of destruction and trash everywhere I go. However, I think that these comments, maybe true but also slightly hurtful, helped me become a good tenant. I constantly watched myself, and picks up the messes I left. Occasionally I am sure I forgot some things, but I tried my best.
You have probably heard from many people in your circle—mom, dad, teachers and peers—you are judged by the people you hang around. I heard it from my parents, and now, I repeat the same thing to my kids. While this might seem completely unfair and a bit “judgy,” this is actually more of a thing than you may realize. And, it’s not a new thing. Let me explain.
Coral and I have known each other since birth, practically.
Have you ever told someone a story about your day or just been venting, only to have them one-up you with the "oh yeah, well, what happened to me was way better or conversely, way worse?" It always seems that whatever the case, however it happened to them was more significant in some way than whatever happened to you. That, my friends is always the case with the 'one-upper'. It's as if the stories are somehow in competition with one another, or maybe somehow you both are, unknowingly? I'm sure we all have at least one in every group of friends. Whatever the story, theirs was bigger, better, faster, stronger, something to make it just somehow more than whatever yours was so that they stand out for either better, or worse. If you had a good day, theirs was better. On the flip side, if you had a lousy day, theirs was the worst day ever. They cannot seem to just listen to you talk without making sure theirs was somehow over the top.
Choosing good people to have around you is very important for your overall growth as a person, so it's important to keep people around that bring positive energy into your life. Even as an adult, choosing your friends wisely has a lot to do with how you think, feel, and behave. During adulthood it can be pretty hard to maintain relationships with people that you’ve come to know as you’ve grown throughout your life, and it can also be hard to begin relationships with good people. Here are some tips to help you strengthen the relationships you have with the people around you, and gain new positive relationships as well.
If you haven’t figured it out already, a “Fakeship” is basically a way of describing a “fake friendship.” Definition? In the most simplistic way, it’s basically a friend who never really was a friend. The ones who use and exploit you or your resources for their own benefit. Someone who might be nice to you one day, and low and behold, they’ll be gossiping about you the next. Those of you who have experienced these, will have definitely been in a Fakeship.
I was listening to music on my Spotify account when a specific song came on. I didn't remember adding it to my playlist before, but I remembered the song as soon as I heard it. It was "Everything I Need" by Skylar Grey.
“I will text you 50 times in a row and feel no shame. You’re my friend, you literally signed up for this.”
Choosing good people to have around you is very important for your overall growth as a person. It is important to keep people around that bring positive energy into your life. Even as an adult, choosing your friends wisely has a lot to do with how you think, feel, and behave. During adulthood, life is busy; it can be hard to foster and be present in relationships. Here are some tips to help you strengthen the relationships you have and foster new, positive relationships, even with a busy lifestyle.