A sweetie pie with fire in her eyes
When is postpartum sex too soon?
I was watching a video on TikTok from one of my favorite creators and the content referenced a woman’s partner upset that she wanted to wait to have sex after childbirth. I chose to contribute to her conversation stating “Medically it’s recommended to wait a few months, 5-8 months to properly heal” (I meant ‘maybe she should wait a few months 5 to 6 months to properly heal’, but I was not going to edit on the go; plus deleting comments are always interrupted differently with each person when I was willing to converse without malicious intent ); and a woman saw my comment and stated “cite your resources”. I admit their comment without punctuation reads boorishly; although it could have been curiosity. I engaged with them and stated they should google more and more into other pregnancies. At some point during the engagement they stated they had 6 children and was fine. I was happy her pregnancies were good because I know not everyone gets to have them smooth. I had explained in limited characters about having sex too soon for a woman can become problematic and to completely heal 100%. They discussed 4-6 weeks or 8 weeks if they had a C-section. I began to refer to postpartum depression, postpartum psychosis, postpartum dyspareunia, postpartum hemorrhage & uterine infections; and even a study discussing painful sex after childbirth. It sounded like they were comparing their childbirth experiences as the only way to experience when I know women who were shredded during their pregnancy while another bounced up the next day to make breakfast; like it was nothing. I also explained everyone’s body is different. I finally ended it with an analogy about breaking a bone, sure there is a specific frame of when someone should heal from it but if you’re still feeling pain from the break that means the body hasn’t full healed. I also referenced an article about a study.
My Significant other slept with my parent
I love storytelling. I love listening to stories. Tiktok provides a lot of Reddit stories I like to listen to whether scary or drama, real or not. I like stories. With this said there is a story about a man who discovered his wife cheated on him while his mother in law was in the house staying with them. He slept with the mother in law for 8 days and wanted to talk about how amazing she was in bed; but the wife doesn’t know since they are separate. The mother in law left and moved to another state and he plans on divorcing his wife but hinted to the story that he may be trying to visit or hit up the mother in law whenever; this insinuates he wants the ex-wife to know he slept with her mother. Obviously this is revenge cheating but I see a lot of problems with that, not because of the female and I am a female; but rather looking at the situation as a whole.
52 Lock Up: Shanynthia Gardner/Postpartum Psychosis
Welcome back to 52 Lock Up, I am your Appletini Cadma of Bitten Apple TV. 52 lock up is a series I started to talk about one of my biggest passions of true crime. A new episode on every Cadmaniac Monday for 52 Mondays. Hope you guys enjoy, be sure to comment feedback, like and subscribe; Viewer discretion is always advised. This episode does contain information about harm and death of young children; again viewer discretion is advised!
52 Lock Up Orsolya Gaal & David Bonola
Welcome back to 52 Lock Up, I am your Appletini Cadma of Bitten Apple TV. 52 lock up is a series I started to talk about one of my biggest passions of true crime. A new episode on every Cadmaniac Monday for 52 Mondays. Hope you guys enjoy, be sure to comment feedback, like and subscribe; Viewer discretion is always advised.
Rebellious wolves are conforming sheep
Basic conversation has gone through the metamorphosis of connection to an exasperated battle of conformity versus amaurotic rebellion. Conformity as per the dictionary is an action in accord with prevailing social standards, attitudes, practices, etc. It is the correspondence in form, nature, or character, agreement, congruity or accordance. It was used to relation to being compliant and obedient but this was more used in an established church especially the Church of England. A rebel is a person who refuses allegiance to, resists, or rises in arms against the government or ruler of his or her country. A person who resists any authority, control or tradition. I find the battle between the two is a failing battle that expects both sides to be either black or white, and the solutions are to follow as well; when it is grey.
What do you gain from caring about what someone else thinks of you?
A friend of mine relinquished the idea that I was a “warrior of light”. I was discussing another friend’s toxic situation (with consent) and they asked if I was ever uncomfortable being around that deep level of negativity and toxicity; my immediate response was “no” because my friend is not toxic but their situation is & they need help. I find people describe me to me as resilient, courageous and incredibly strong; I normally do not perceive myself but I also do not think about those things frequently.
Social Media’s Futile Mata Hari
The art of conversation is dead. Over the years I have always paid attention to my surrounding and this includes my social media surroundings. It has always baffled me how people will utilize social media as a genuine gauge of an individual, without conversation or without being present; especially people who were not friends of mine or even enemy/neutral enemy. Social media is a form of expression, dare I say it is an “art”; but it does not replace genuine conversation. A true gauge of a person is when one can hear them speak and that does not provide a 100% reveal of who they are.
Friend Zone is Fake
The friend zone is a myth. No seriously, it’s a myth; so please stop laughing sir. It is a poor false amicable description of unrequited selfish affection. Frequently, this term is coined with women placing men in the “friend zone”; but why? Does having a vagina wield the place of punishment to receive that blame opposed to the impressive skill to take a pounding, push things out and bounce back to normal? That’s a lot more I can say about a stiff board, but I digress.
The Social Construct Brothers of Mayhem
Social constructionism is “that reality is socially constructed and that the sociology of knowledge must analyze the processes in which this occurs. The key terms in these contentions are “reality” and “knowledge,” terms that are not only current in everyday speech, but that have behind them a long history of philosophical inquiry.” (Berger &; Luckmann, The social construction of reality a treatise in the sociology of knowledge 2011) It is the internalized mental battle of what is perceived as facts as a shared thinking about the environment and groups of people.
52 Lock Up: Qasem Soleimani/Nika Nokubin
Welcome back to 52 Lock Up, I am your Appletini Cadma of Bitten Apple TV. 52 lock up is a series I started to talk about one of my biggest passions of true crime. A new episode on every Cadmaniac Monday for 52 Mondays. Hope you guys enjoy, be sure to comment feedback, like and subscribe. And just in case, viewer discretion is advised.
52 Lock Up: The Loss of Shad Rock Thyrion
Welcome back to 52 Lock Up, I am your Appletini Cadma of Bitten Apple TV. 52 lock up is a series I started to talk about one of my biggest passions of true crime. A new episode on every Cadmaniac Monday for 52 Mondays. Hope you guys enjoy, be sure to comment feedback, like and subscribe. And just in case for those curious, viewer discretion is advised.
Нет войне/Stand with Ukraine
Нет войне the chant of the people of Ukraine, Belarus, Kazakhstan and Russia. The afternoon was filled with pain, cries, anger and a bond that requires no language to comprehend. I joined to Stand with Ukraine. I listened to stories of a woman who threw a jar of jam at a government drone flying by. I saw the sunflowers planting themselves firmly into the ground. It was a beautiful sight of people allowed to protest this war crime; protest the lies of one man who has too much power for too long.