I often sit and listen to wives say things like “All my husband do is go to work and come home”. Im not sure if that gives them a sense of security that because he is at work, he is being faithful. It does not happen that way. Especially if he has been known to cheat before. He still is. Just at work. Eighty-five percent of affairs start at work. You probably have a work sister wife and don’t even know it.
We often hear people say their spouse is their best friend, and probably never question why. I am going to share today why my husband is truly my best friend. When I take away our children, grandchildren, romance and sex I can honestly say we are true friends. I met Michael Preston Sr. when I was 17 years old and weighing about 97 lbs. I had been picked on and laughed at by a lot of guys and told that nobody wanted me because I was skinny. Whenever a young man did express an interest in dating me, I pulled away. I subconsciously believed that eventually, he would tell me I was not woman enough because I did not have a lot of curves. The first time Michael came to my house we were sitting on the living room couch and he asked me to stand up so he could see how tall I was. In my mind I am thinking, "Here it comes, he's going to tell me that I am too skinny, so I decided to beat him to the punch.
Marriage is like an institution or you can say that marriage is a peaceful and beautiful bonding that needs utmost nurture and care. A couple in a marital relationship can often engage themselves in some sort of disputes but such disputes cannot be the reason for calling it a day. If you feel that your marital relationship is in serious trouble then what you can do is consider opting for the service of marriage counseling in USA.
The moment someone asked me who I would like to model my marriage after, I began to ask myself if I’m really ready for marriage. This made me consciously decide to go for counseling — something very unusual in this part of the world. From my parents to my siblings and even friends, there was no relationship or marriage worth emulating. Everyone had that “I am enduring” vibe.
I have 19 tattoos total, but this one holds a place in my heart because, to me, butterflies changed the way I seen the world. It was June 14th, 2019 and my husband at the time had begged me to take a day off of work for us to go fishing as a “date” without our children since we hadn’t spent any quality time together in a while. I agreed, took the day off and around 12:00pm we left our kids with their grandparents for our fishing date. To my knowledge he meant well and everything was fine and it was a normal date to me.. fast forward to us getting there and as soon as I stepped out of the car an orange and black butterfly flew to me and landed on my hand. I was excited because that rarely happens, but then it stayed. It would not get off of me no matter how many times I put it down. First it was my hand, then my foot, then my shoulder. (Mind you I was wearing no perfume, wasn’t sweating yet because I had just got out of air conditioned car, and was clean) Even as I casted my pole over and over it stayed on shoulder and refused to let my husband touch it. Then came a black and blue butterfly, and another. All 3 staying on me and coming back to me. None wanted near him. I thought the entire situation was off because that had never happened to me, and my husband barely spoke to me and didn’t even fish. So he huffed and puffed, I put the butterflies down and we left and went to another spot a few miles down the road. As soon as I get there, another butterfly comes to me, same occurrence in a completely different spot. He gets angry and decides he wants to leave. I knew something was off with him, but the butterflies have me such a feeling of warmth I can’t explain. Maybe it was just cool to me, I don’t know, but I felt protected. Silly I know. We get back to my parents’ house to pick up the kids and as soon as I step on their porch, nowhere near the fishing spots, a black and blue butterfly lands on my foot and stays. Shortly after that, my husband said I needed to take the kids home because he wanted to go fishing again, after we just went and he didn’t even fish! So I knew then he was going to see someone else. Two days later was Fathers Day that year, I made him breakfast among other things he requested and shortly after he told me he didn’t love me anymore and left me. I found out he did cheat on me the day we went fishing two days prior, and that is when our relationship of 8 years ended. The cruelty that followed only solidified the feeling to me that those butterflies were either trying to tell me something or giving me a sense of protection knowing the evil I was standing next to. Maybe they just liked me or the way I smelled, who knows. But I find comfort in that, and I always will.
Saving a marriage sometimes is not easy, because sometimes the parties are so busy with their own independent lives that they do not notice their marriage is failing. Once you recognize that your marriage is in trouble, you need to take steps to try to rekindle the relationship, unless you want the marriage to fail.
In today's society submission of a wife to the will of her husband seems unthinkable. We live in a society in which today's women have rights and women are exercising those rights daily. But this article is not about the rights of women, it is about the natural inclination of a wife to submit to her husband. It seems of ancient thinking that a wife should submit to her husband, but is it something of old to believe in the act of submission of a wife to her husband. I don't think so.
Six months has passed since I married my love, fellow introvert, foodie, and everything in between and I am loving every day of it. Being married is like having a sleep over with your best friend every night. That may sound cliche but it’s true. You go through each day with the love of your life and it becomes a routine bond, before you know it you are finishing each other sentences, you know what the other person is going to say before they even say it and you know what they are going to do before they even do it. You are one and completely in tune with each other, it is an unbreakable bond.
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