While getting married is, often, one of the most fun and most exciting things you will do, it is also one of the most important things you will do. Getting married means so much more than just sharing a legal document together. Getting married is a promise to love, care for, and help each other, forever. While not every moment of marriage is always rainbows and sunshine, there are some things you can do to help make it a better and happier union. Below are the top six thing I wish I knew before I got married.
The domestic violence hotline website says that, on average, about 24 people per minute are victims of abuse, physical violence, and rape from their own partner, which stretches into over 12 million people in a year. Huffpost also states that about 38,000,000 women have experienced at least one act of violence or abuse from their partner.
I grew up as a young girl in the late 1960s and as a teenager in the 1970s. Most married women I knew were stay at home moms. They cooked, cleaned, took care of the house and children while their husbands worked. Even the couples where the wife had an outside job, it was normal to see the woman still do the housework and no one complained. I grew up with an understanding that marriage vows were sacred and spouses looked after each other. Recently, however, my 7-year-old granddaughter said something that troubled me.
There are a lot of books about marriage flooding the market today, and many couples are going to therapy and trying everything to save their relationship. In truth, there is one simple way to maintain Holy wedlock and that is for both people to choose to stay in the marriage. If one spouse chooses to honor the wedding vows and the other does not, there is no magical wand you can wave and change someone's mind. I know women who prayed, fasted, and begged God to save their marriage, but the husband wanted out, and he got out.
The horse trotted through the gate, saddled but riderless.
Isn’t it funny how storms can rearrange, alter, and change our plans? When we are faced with stormy weather, it’s out of our control. The plans we might have for a day exploring a new city might be abruptly shortened, not to mention dampen our mood and course of action. It can sometimes deviate us from our optimistic mood IF we choose to allow it. After all, everything is but a choice.
With our hectic schedules, we find it challenging to find time for friends and family. We may schedule a few drinks to catch up with our best friend, and go for a Sunday brunch to see our parents. But what about our marriage partners? We occasionally go on a weekly date night, but even that is not enough to truly relax and enjoy with your loved one. That is why everyone needs a romantic getaway. If you don’t have the time to go on a two-week vacation, a lovely romantic weekend will be a treat for both you and your beloved one. Here are a few amazing ideas for a dreamy weekend.
Being a newlywed is one of the most exciting and fun times in life. Growing and learning with your partner is an interesting and special time, especially in the beginning of a new marriage. For newlyweds not quite ready for children but looking for some kind of new adventure together below are just a few ways to spend some intimate time together before bringing kids into the relationship.
The sometime cynic in me made me write this. The once-in-a-while realist would have penned a lament. And the most-oft optimist was simply too tired of Tony Robbins to write a totally upbeat blurb on divorce. But before you begin reading, just know that I didn't take my divorce lightly. If only I'd have taken my marriage the same way.