Dating in my 20s sucked, but mostly because I was being rejected by guys I liked who didn't like me back. Now in my 30s, I'm being rejected by guys I like who do appear to like me back. Confusing, I know. Welcome to dating in 2020.

"You're so sweet, any girl would be lucky to have you."

While working the other day, an older coworker asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told her no, and she then proceeded to tell me that I better hurry because my timer is ticking. She told me I wouldn't be young and pretty forever...

Something is going on and I'm sure of it. There's gotta be something bigger going on because I keep going through the same thing and I keep hearing the same shit, it's tedious and it's really annoying me.

I will soon warn that this text is style those magazines of women half cheesy, but that everyone likes! Who can stand to live with a half-hearted love? I tell you, many! I myself have succumbed to “before accompanied by more than just”. Do you know when this ends? When you meet a man with a capital H, those who honor the pants they wear ... but that is a theme for another text (wait).

Translation to the image: "Almost 2 million women in the states of Selangor and Johor are unmarried."

I have a confession to make. I used to be one of 'them'. One of those people who think that, for an individual to be 'valid' and to feel complete, they need a partner. But now - at 38 and with several relationships behind me - my outlook has changed significantly. And why? Partly because of my own personal experiences but also because of the opportunities and freedom I have found that my being single offers... With three years of Singleton life now under my belt, I have no desire to find a 'significant other' or in fact even date.

I have received a lot of advice as a single woman in the last decade plus from many well meaning friends and family on how to transit into the 'taken' life, that included 'putting myself out there some more', 'online dating'...etc and I must confess that none of that advice really worked out.

Self-dating is set to be the hot new trend iin self-love, self-development, and empowerment. Learning to treat yourself with the same love and care as your partner is just one of the many reasons why singles should consider self-dating.

Okay, I'm witnessing something and it's getting harder and harder for me to date. Maybe it's in my head, maybe this is really happening, I don't know at this point so bear with me, please. Now, I know what you're thinking in case you clicked on this and you started reading. You probably think I'm just another angry straight guy who has a vendetta against people that's part of the LGBT community but I'm not. I'm not angry at all.

It's 9 pm, I'm sitting in a hot tub overlooking fantastic highland vistas after a meal of seabass and sparkling wine and some chocolate covered strawberries. Tomorrow I'm going kayaking. Sounds like a the perfect romantic getaway right?

I brushed my hand down my little black dress as I lifted myself up to the high bar stool. Why are these thing always so high, resting my elbows on the electric blue bar, I watch the couple on the other side of the club, Its like watching animals at the zoo, The male hunting his pray as she plays with her hair and drinks her fruity drink. "What can i get you?" the bartender brings my attention back to the real world, "Jack and coke, please" i reach into my small clutch purse on my lap and a strange man drops his hand on top of my own "I got this one" He pulls a 20 out his wallet and drops it onto the bar. "thank you but you didn't..."