I looked out the window, deep in thoughts as to why I would have the same dream over and over. Well, not literally the same, but it’s always about the same thing: Me getting married. It’s like my subconscious is playing a game with me. I don’t like marriages. Don’t get me wrong, it is nice when two people who love each other take that courage and decide to stay together forever. I like seeing people in love and it makes me happy. Happy for them because their happily ever after is about to start, and though it might be rough, they want to face it together. But for me, I don’t think it is there or if I will ever find it. In short, I want to see everyone I love happily married, but still stay a coward and not give it a chance. Yes, I admit that I am a coward.
This is for women. Women that are struggling to see what they need or what they want, but most importantly, what they deserve. “We don’t need no man”. That’s right, we don’t. We don’t need a relationship. But some of us still want someone there, someone by our side. We need someone that we can depend on, but not someone we depend on, not someone that depends on us. A relationship should be a factor in our lives that amplifies our happiness, not one that completes it. Please try to remember that when your parter keeps causing you pain. When they blame it all on you- don’t believe it. Don’t let anybody manipulate you into thinking less of yourself. It’s never wrong to work on yourself and a healthy relationship usually aids you in doing so naturally. It’s not easy to let people go that you love, so please don’t ignore the red flags. Don’t ignore the intuitive feeling that lets you know something’s not right. Because you don’t need anybody but yourself. You don’t need them to complete you- it might hurt, but you will be better off in the end. And it will end, sooner or later, and we can all agree that sooner is better than later.
Single. It is a "scary" word per se, but it is on all of our minds. Valentine's Day just passed and if that doesn't have you feeling in the dumps about your love life, then I am sure this season of The Bachelor does. It seems that we single people just can't get away from all of the couples.
I know for a fact that I'm not the only one who goes through this... Let's go through it together, shall we?
Real Simple magazine once asked what should be a really simple question, what was the happiest moment of your life? Well, was denotes the past, already happened, over. The tapestry of life is woven thick with happy moments: playing outside ‘til dusk with your best friends, first kiss, first car, college, marriage, or divorce perhaps, the birth of children, graduations, landing the job, all too easy and generic. The single happiest moment of your life? What if it hasn’t happened yet? What if you are still waiting for your moment?
You may think it's rather peculiar when I tell you that I absolutely LOVE Valentine's Day, but I'm not so keen on the idea of being in a relationship. Whilst I wouldn't consider myself to be a "relationship person," I love love; and I love food and all things pink, red, fragrant, and beautiful—and let's be real, that just about sums up February 14th.
SINGLES, LISTEN! “What’s Love Got to Do With It?” Yes, Valentine’s Day is coming AGAIN and you’re still single...You are going to be ok. This video speaks to everyone who is frustrated with the reality of remaining “single”—especially during the February love season. As a member of the over 40 singles crowd, I speak from personal experience and based on the rantings of my friends in the same category.
It seems the older I get, the more I am determined to not only unravel "Romantic Love,” but to understand why I need it so damn bad. The more I think about it, I start to feel that it really is all about validation. I grew up seeing many a failed, abusive, and dysfunctional relationships, and I'm quite sure this is what is behind me constantly looking to debunk the myth that is dancing around in my psyche: "Love isn't real."
From the time we enter high school we are constantly on the prowl for our future husband or wife, but what if we never find them? Usually, people will shrug it off as nothing and move onto college or University. By this time we are more mature and willing to take our time on who we choose to date. As we grow into our twenties, every time you turn around another one of your friends seems to be getting married, going through a divorce, or having a baby. As you grow into your late twenties the reality of you being single makes, you start to think that there might actually be something wrong with you.
Hey lovelies! My name is J.D, but I go by Jak. Today I am going to share my story of never being kissed.