Chai Steeves
Bio
I'm an eclectic guy - I like writing about sex, relationships, parenting, politics, celebrity trivia - the works. I'm happily married and a father of 2.
Stories (44/0)
One Of Our Oldest Couple Friends Stopped Having Sex. Can Their Relationship Still Thrive?
I went for coffee with an old friend yesterday. I don’t see her often these days, but she’d asked to get together because she was going through some significant transitions. She wanted to bounce some of them off me.
By Chai Steeves11 months ago in Humans
A Bisexual Superman
I have the honor of working with a woman who, quite literally, socialized Americans to gayness. Ok, that’s a slight exaggeration but it’s close — she worked with a fascinating non-profit whose mission was to help movie and TV producers create relatable gay characters. The goal — sensitizing average Americans to LGBT people. Their theory was that if people saw likable, relatable — gay — characters in their living room every evening, they would start to lose their animosity toward them.
By Chai Steeves11 months ago in Pride
Our Visit To The New Local BDSM Club.
Have you ever been someplace and you feel like you really like it, but you really and truly don’t want to be there? That was our experience last Saturday night. We, with a few friends, decided to check out a new BDSM club that had opened in our home town. We’re not a part of the BDSM community but we like to open ourselves to new adventures and we wanted to support a new sex-positive club that was trying to get off the ground, at a time when it’s hard for any business to get off the ground.
By Chai Steeves12 months ago in Filthy
She Had Mind-Blowing Sex With Another Guy When Her Husband Was Away
A friend of mine had her first experience in the swinging lifestyle last night. She and her husband had just started to dip their toes into the lifestyle and, unexpectedly, her husband had to be away for three weeks for work. They had decided that this would simply delay their first experiences. Then something a little unexpected happened.
By Chai Steeves12 months ago in Filthy
The Under The Blanket Sex Story Challenge
I issued a challenge to a few friends recently. Share a story with me that involved them having sex under a blanket. It could be whatever they wanted, but the idea was to give examples of kind of furtive or sneaky sex that they had to keep hidden.
By Chai Steeves12 months ago in Filthy
The Appeal of Having Sex in a Public Place
Pick up any decent book or article discussing ways to spice up your sex life — having sex in a public place, or in a place where you risk being caught, is always high on the list. It’s not something I’m particularly experienced with, despite the seemingly universal appeal, so I decided to ask a few friends whether they had tried it and what it was that appealed to them. But also, whether they had any misgivings.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
What’s Behind Your Fantasy About Being Paid For Sex?
The ‘sex for money’ fantasy came completely out of the blue for me. My wife and I and our closest friends were on vacation at a five star resort in the Caribbean. As my girlfriend and I started to make out, she whispered “we really shouldn’t do this — but I don’t have enough money for rent”. She started to undress, telling me that she knew she shouldn’t be taking off her clothes for me but she thought that if she did I might help her out. She asked if I would help her pay her rent that month if she did things she would never consider doing otherwise. She knew it was bad, but she really, really needed the money.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Do You Remember The First Time You Played Strip Poker?
There are some common rites of passage that, I am sad to say, I never experienced as a kid. I was a late bloomer. My first kiss came late. My first sexual experiences were — embarrassingly - late. So, for those who know me well, it would not come as a surprise that the first time I was invited to participate in a game of strip poker — under a pool table at a friend’s 14th birthday party — I ran upstairs and watched TV rather than risk having to get undressed in front of my friends.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
What You Learn When You Keep A Food Journal For A Week
My daughter is taking a health and nutrition course this summer, as part of her high school curriculum. What a great course. We’re all learning a ton about how to eat better, the role of nutritional supplements and other lifestyle tips that can keep us healthier.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Longevity
How To Set Yourself Up For a Sexy Family Vacation
Four of you crammed in a small hotel room, bickering on long car rides, dinners at Papa John’s Pizza — how hot is that? As we prepare for the summer vacation season, as parents we are all faced with the age-old question — how are we going to have sex with our kids underfoot 24/7? Seriously, family vacations are wonderful for all the reasons we include in postcards to grandparents — we reconnect as a family, we make wonderful memories together, we have long chats over dinner where the kids open up about how their lives are really going.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
How Tinder is keeping you safe from your next date.
What’s a first date all about? There was a time, not so very long ago, when you might go into a first date knowing almost nothing about the person you were sitting across the table from you. I remember — years ago — being bold enough to get a phone number from a girl I happen to sit next to on a chairlift at a ski hill. So, when we showed up for dinner the next weekend, the only thing we knew about one another was what we had been able to glean from 5 minutes of chatting on that one quick trip up the ski hill. I guess I also knew she looked great in neon ski pants. But, basically nothing. That first dinner was — what are your hobbies, where did you grow up, do you have brothers and sisters. The very basics of ‘getting to know you’.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
