Chai Steeves
Bio
I'm an eclectic guy - I like writing about sex, relationships, parenting, politics, celebrity trivia - the works. I'm happily married and a father of 2.
Stories (44/0)
Porn Choices
I'm guessing many couples have been here at some/many points during the pandemic. Another night at home, feeling kind of sexy but not super energetic. So, as a kind of low-effort way to have a sexy evening, one of you suggests putting on a little porn to get you both in the mood.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
The Case for Marriage
At the ripe old age of 50, a close friend of mine recently remarried. His first marriage was a bit of a bust. He married young and he married poorly. She was mean and controlling — something he kind of needed as an out-of-control 23-year-old. But at 43 years old, it was sad to see her controlling his every decision and demeaning his every choice. And she was no happier, as evidenced by the string of affairs she engaged in. So, 21 years into the marriage, they called it quits.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Humans
Would You Let Someone Tie You Up During Sex?
What is it that you sense, as your hands are being bound in soft but tight silk ribbons? You feel the collar wrap around your neck and are gently pulled over to the bed. The blindfold is placed in over your eyes and you have absolutely no idea what is coming next.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
When Does An Open Relationship Cross the Line Into Sex Work?
I don't think of myself as a particularly naive person. I've known many people who dabble in the lifestyle — myself included — and a few people for whom it is a pretty full-time passion. And, of course, I know of people who engage in sex work and others who engage sex workers.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Are Kids Allowed to Cancel Their Teachers?
It started with her math teacher. "She doesn't teach in a way that I can understand." Our daughter, who struggles at school, was having a tough time in math, and her teacher had a very traditional teaching style that was not working for her. We spoke with our older daughter, a great student who had had this same math teacher. She confirmed that she wasn't a great teacher and had a style of teaching that would be very hard for our younger daughter to keep up with. So, we spoke with the school, and they switched her to another class — our school is fantastic that way.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Families
Playboy TV
The first 'porn' my wife and I watched together was a Playboy Channel show called Sexy Urban Legends. It was on in the 90s. It was very softcore but really well done. The premise was two buddies in a bar, telling each other stories about urban legends, but with a sexy twist. So, for example, a sexy woman who lures men back to her apartment to have sex… and then steals their kidney. Or a hotel owner who seduces her male clients.. but it turns out she's been dead for 100 years. Of course, the plotlines are a bit/lot cheesy, but the show was well acted, well shot, and had super attractive actors. It was the perfect soft porn experience for our newbie sexual adventure.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Masturbation … a great hobby, but let's keep it in perspective
The website Kinkly.com has started to collect data on the masturbatory habits of Americans. Being a supporter of sound science and data, I did my part by filling out their masturbation habits survey last night. I've always been a fan, and keen partaker, of masturbation and I was curious to see how my habits compared with others.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Online Sex With The People You Love
Much is being said these days about the negative impact the pandemic has had on people's sex lives. Stress and anxiety seem to have tanked people’s sex drives. A poll conducted by NBC News found that more than half of respondents were having less sex with their partner than they had pre-covid.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Would you consider doing sex work?
A good friend confided in me recently that she'd had a male friend who would pay her to dress in lingerie and hang out at his home with her. It started like a very normal friendship. They had met in a yoga class or some such thing. She had a boyfriend when they met, so they became friends. They would go for coffee occasionally, meet for yoga classes - a guy and a girl who spent time together—chatting, having coffee—the usual.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
The Sexual Incarnations of Madonna
In his book Gatecrasher, gossip columnist Ben Widdicombe described Madonna as a near-perfect interview. She knows how to give the media, concisely and efficiently, precisely what they need to get a good story. He said other stars would try to be kind, aloof, or thoughtful. But Madonna was a rare breed who knew precisely the image she wanted to put out and the messages that would convey it. He said his interactions with Madonna were always brief but gave him precisely what he needed for a good story.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
