Chai Steeves
Bio
I'm an eclectic guy - I like writing about sex, relationships, parenting, politics, celebrity trivia - the works. I'm happily married and a father of 2.
Stories (44/0)
Why We Are All In Love With the Three-Way
I had heard stories of ‘the three-way’ for months. It was our friend’s go-to sex toy. When we met this couple, we knew they had a pretty extensive sex toy collection. We were close enough to compare detailed notes, but of all the sex toys we knew our friend had, this was the only one we would hear about. We would get an occasional text during the day — ‘just took a little break in my bedroom with the three-way… best afternoon ever’ or, in the evening ‘xxx is going to bed early; I think it’s a three-way night’.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Our First Professional Erotic Photo Shoot
My wife and I have taken our fair share of sexy photos. Usually, it’s a few impromptu shots with our phones when we’re in a sexy mood; other times we’ll go to the trouble of getting out the SLR camera, dressing up, and trying for some higher equality ‘boudoir’ photos. But it’s always a little disappointing. The lighting isn’t quite right or our expressions aren’t as sensual as we imagine. These photos always look better in our imagination than they turn our to be on the screen of our computer once we’ve downloaded and looked at them.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Sex In A Park With Random Strangers — Is That Really A Thing?
When I was growing up, there was a park we were forbidden from going to after dark. It was notoriously known as a place gay men hung out and did ‘things’ with each. It seemed deeply mysterious and scary, but in reality I guess it was a cruising park. In the 80s, when most gay men where not comfortable being out and were not welcome at hotels and in one another’s apartments, they would meet up at parks and covertly have sex.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
When Adulting Gets Too Intense, We All Need a Sexy Retreat
It was a Friday night midway through one of the covid lockdowns. We were with our bubbled friends, doing a wine tasting at their home. Their kids and ours were eating dinner upstairs. We were talking about how hard it was to find alone, adult time. Between work and school from home, and tight social bubbles, the kids were never more than 50 feet away from us. And our kids are teens — they neither need nor want that proximity.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Why Do We Find Twins So Freaking Sexy?
Who remembers the Doublemint Twin ads from the 1980? Sexy blonde twins selling us chewing gum. Better yet, the Maidenform bra twins of the 1950s. And how many issues of Playboy or Penthouse, over the years, have featured twins as models. A quick google search for sexy twins comes up with 188,000 hits. It’s a bit of a trope — as a society, we love to sexualize twins.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Do You Remember The First Time You Played Strip Poker?
There are some common rites of passage that, I am sad to say, I never experienced as a kid. I was a late bloomer. My first kiss came late. My first sexual experiences — embarrassingly late. So, for those who know me well, it would not come as a surprise that the first time I was invited to participate in a game of strip poker — under a pool table at a friend’s 14th birthday party — I ran upstairs and watched TV rather than risk having to get undressed in front of my friends.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
Why Does Social Media Try to Sell Me Cheap Lingerie?
I was so excited last weekend. Just as we were getting ready to leave for the cottage, a courier package arrived. It was the matching gold bikinis I had ordered the week before, hoping they would arrive in time for the cottage trip with our sexy friends. Fast forward two hours — drink in hand, on the dock, with matching gold bikinis ready to be modeled. How very disappointing. They looked like a 4-year-old had hand-cut a plastic bag into a shape that vaguely resembled a bikini. They were awful. So cheap and tacky looking. And, I suspect it was really a 4-year old who had done it - so boo to child labor. Come on.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
How Is Your Relationship Weathering the Pandemic
I was out for a drink recently, with an old friend, talking about the toll that the pandemic is taking on people’s relationships. Almost two years into this thing - in and out of lockdowns, spending so much time at home with your partner. It introduces a new dynamic — to say the least.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Humans
Dipping Your Toes in Non-Monogamy
I can remember the first time it became 'ok' to share with my partner that I had sexual interests in others. Of course, I was always attracted to other women, but aside from jokes about hot movie actresses, it was mostly unexpressed. And then, one night, as my wife and I were watching an adult movie together — not porn, but kind of soft porn — and a threesome between two girls and a guy came on. The women were making out and playing together. It got pretty intense, and as one of the women made the other woman cum, my wife had the biggest orgasm. Like huge. She laughed and said, "I think I liked that."
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
When Does An Open Relationship Cross the Line Into Sex Work?
I don’t think of myself as a particularly naive person. I’ve known many people who dabble in the lifestyle — myself included — and a few people for whom it is a pretty full-time passion. And, of course, I know of people who engage in sex work and others who engage sex workers.
By Chai Steevesabout a year ago in Filthy
