Amanda Nicole
Bio
Hey I'm Amanda! I'm a writer, Podcaster and a pet sitter. I'm much more then that! Read my stories to find out :)
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Stories (69/0)
Is Monogamy Natural?
We've been taught from birth that out in the world is that one special person who we're going to spend our life with. We've been taught that they're going to be our best friend, partner in life and someone who will love us until death do us part. We've been taught that they'll be everything to us and vice versa. Sounds absolutely lovely doesn't it? Having one person to love and cherish you all the years of your life. Having a best friend you can confide in when things get rough. All of that sounds amazing. While that could be the case for some people. They may in fact find that one special human and they may be perfectly content. That's great!
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans
F*ck the Five Stages of a Breakup
Let me start by saying Breakups suck. There really is no other word to describe them. They hurt and they will for a long time. I cannot tell you how long it will hurt for nor can I tell you when you'll feel better. But what I can tell you is that you'll have to go through what is known as the Five Stages of a Breakup. They suck. But it's necessary. You have to go through each one. Why? Because they all teach you something different. And in the end you feel whole again. So what are these five stages?
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans
F%ck Giving Up
Giving up is something we've all struggled with at some point. Whether it's a job, a person or even a relationship. Whatever it is we've all struggled with it. I know I have. Why do we want to give up? Is it because we're impatient? Is it because we're being held back by someone or something. Or are we just scared? What I mean by that is that we all have challenges in life to tackle and things that will shake us up. We have to go through things that will make us stronger. When things get hard we sometimes get tempted to give up. We sometimes want to just forget it because we expect things to be simple and a clear straight forward path. But that's not life. Life is not a straight forward path. Life has valleys and hills. Things do not happen in a streamline. We expect things to just happen without challenges and setbacks. That's not realistic.
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Motivation
F*ck the Rules
Rules are everywhere huh? It seems like there are rules about everything. Rules about how we should dress,act, eat. You name it there is probably a rule about it. Rules have there place in the world. But when it comes to certain things like how we dress, eat, love, all that stuff; frankly rules should be done away with. My personal philosophy is that as long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone else go for it. Do whatever makes you happy. Do whatever you're passionate about and whatever motivates you to be better in all areas of your life.
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans
Sorry Texas
Dear Texas, When I heard about what happened I got very sad and my heart broke. I cannot imagine how you feel. I'm not sure I want to know honestly. But I do know this. I know that things need to change for real, I know that we need to keep people safe. I know this isn't funny and never was. I know that people need to do something to make sure this never happens again. I'm so sorry that this keeps happening in the world. I would never want to raise kids in a world like this. I'm so sorry to all the kids who have to deal with this and be scared of going to school. School is supposed to be fun and you're supposed to play with your friends and make fun memories. Not be scared for your life. I cannot understand why someone would think that terrorizing a school would be okay. I cannot understand why someone would think that terrorizing anywhere is okay.
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans
F%ck Mental Health
Mental Health is just as important as Physical Health. It should not have a negative connontation to it. As someone with High Functioning Anxiety, Depression, Panic Disorder and complex PTSD. I can certainly attest to the struggle of Mental Illness. Those with Mental Illnesses are not broken, disabled or unworthy of a happy life. I'd like to pull back the curtain on what it's like to live everyday with Mental Illnesses. There are so many things we have to cope with everyday. Let's talk about High Functioning Anixety to start with: You see someone who is detail orientated and hardworking and always on time. What you don't see is someone who is so afraid of messing up even slightly that we have to be detail orientated. Someone who is so afraid of being a minute late that they're always on time. For fear of getting in trouble. You also don't see someone who feels like they HAVE to work all the time otherwise we feel useless or not doing enough.
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans
F*ck Self Forgiveness
Self Forgivness is one of the hardest things we ever have to do, other then moving on. I think the real question is how can we move on if we don't forgive ourselves? We need to forgive ourselves for all the indiscretions of the past, all the heartbreak, all the times we held ourselves back and more importantly all the times we didn't treat ourselves the way we should be treated which is with love. Maya Angelou said it best "Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it"
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans
F%ck Moving on
Moving on sounds like the most daunting thing in the world doesn't it? It's really difficult. You have to change your routines, and uproot your whole life. This can be easy for some people but for some it's the most difficult thing in the whole world. But honestly sometimes it's what you need to do; and here's why. Sometimes being in a situation too long is unhealthy and it may actually cause more harm then good. You owe it to yourself to move on. It could be the best thing for you. And maybe just maybe you'll find yourself in the process.
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans
F*ck Expectations
Expectations are an essential part of life. You have expectations in your professional and personal life. All of which is okay! We need to have expectations in order to have a healthy life. We go through life encountering all kinds of people in all kinds of situations. And while that can be beautiful and enriching, it can also be shitty. People aren't all good. People are sometimes terrible. I had to learn that over the course of my life. I used to think that everyone was inherently good and trustworthy. I used to think that everyone was a friend and we should all love each other. I had to learn that the hard way. 1 abusive relationship later I'm now realizing that it isn't the case. Not everyone is your friend and while some people are lovely and could have a potentially life changing impact on you; we all can't be friends. We're all created differently.
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans
F*ck Finding Yourself
Finding yourself seems like the most daunting thing in the world. But you have to do it. The journey might be long and difficult but when you do it will be worth it. What could drive someone to find themselves? Well a lot of things. Maybe you just went through a beyond terrible breakup and you feel about 7,000 years old. Maybe you're just going through the motion of life and you feel like you're going nowhere. Maybe you just don't know who you are anymore. All of these things could drive you to want to find yourself. How would you do this? Well there are so many things you can do. You could plan an epic solo trip, you could write a book, you could get help from a trained professional. You could go back to your hometown and really take time to go back to your roots as a person. You could move somewhere new and really lay down roots and start over. Maybe you need a fresh start. Maybe you need to shed your old self and get to know the new version of you that is coming through.
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Motivation
Open letter to anyone whose struggled with Alcohol abuse
Trigger Warning: If reading about Alcohol abuse or suicide ideation makes you uncomfortable don't read this post. I struggled with a drinking problem at the age of 14 after a sexual assualt. (I'll post about that later on) but I drank everyday and all day. I didn't sleep a year and a half. I was trying to drink myself to death. I'm glad I didn't die though. I keep telling my story in order to help others. I want to be a voice for others that have been through similar things. So to anyone whose had a drinking problem: You're not alone. And you do matter. Also to anyone whose been sexually assaulted: You're not alone and you are believed and there is help out there.
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans
F*ck Your Future
Everyday people are always telling us "Plan for the future, make sure you have your future set in stone" And while that's wise advice to some degree, we also need to focus on the present. See if we keep worrying about the future we won't have time to enjoy the present. Yes it's wise to plan for the future and keep doing so! But also enjoy the present. Make mistakes, be an idiot, have regrets, be silly. Do it all. You're only young once and someday when you get older you'll regret the things you didn't do while you had the chance. So go travel, start the business, learn the lessons, fall in love with the wrong people. Get your heart fucking stomped on so you can come back stronger then before. Do all the things.
By Amanda Nicole2 years ago in Humans