Is Monogamy Natural?

We've been taught from birth that out in the world is that one special person who we're going to spend our life with. We've been taught that they're going to be our best friend, partner in life and someone who will love us until death do us part. We've been taught that they'll be everything to us and vice versa. Sounds absolutely lovely doesn't it? Having one person to love and cherish you all the years of your life. Having a best friend you can confide in when things get rough. All of that sounds amazing. While that could be the case for some people. They may in fact find that one special human and they may be perfectly content. That's great!

We need to be honest though, Monogamy doesn't work for everyone. Monogamy isn't a one size fits all approach. Sometimes multiple partners work better. Which begs the question: Are humans meant to be monogamous? Are we only supposed to love one person forever? I think the answer is no. That's almost like telling someone they can only have one best friend. Some people are perfectly fine only having one friend. And that's great! However some people need more friends. Which is okay also.

Think of it this way: No one person can possibly give you everything you need in life. Right? They cannot fulfill all your needs for you. They cannot always be there when you need them too. They can certainly try. They can certainly want to be there for you. But sometimes it's just not possible. Sometimes that person might need alone time or they may have a busy life. It's all okay!

Say you have a checklist of things you'd like out of potential partner, now you may find someone who checks off a few of those things. Or you may find someone who checks off half of your list. You could either settle for what you have and be content like society tells you to. OR you can find friends who check off the rest of your needs. Perhaps we aren't supposed to have only one partner, maybe we're supposed to have more then one. Maybe we're supposed to be monogamish, maybe we're not supposed to be with just one person forever. Maybe we're supposed to have multiple perfect matches. This idea that there is one person for everyone seems lovely but it's simply not realistic. We could find 10 people that we would be more then happy to spend our life with. So this idea of the "one" is crap.

Like I said earlier some people may in fact find that one person and kudos to them. But for others it's not realistic. Imagine this: Imagine a small group of people living together and sharing everything. Sharing food, resources and love. Maybe that's the way we're supposed to be? Maybe we're supposed to just love everyone. Maybe this idea that the one will come about is a bit niave. Maybe there's 20 "The ones". Who knows. Perhaps society needs to stop teaching the idea of the one.

Do I believe in Monogamy? Yes/no. I believe it can work for some people. But I also think that some people have multiple matches and are more meant to have multiple partners. Have you ever thought of that? Have you ever imagined a world were everyone shares everything including love? Maybe that's how we need to be. Let's think about that. Let's think of a world like that. Maybe that's what was supposed to happen all along? Have you ever wondered about that? Think about it.