Okay ladies! 2019 is coming to an end and we’re just looking for a fresh start in 2020. We want this to be a year of greatness, success, self growth and so much more. But have we sat and asked ourselves what do we have to do to achieve these things! How can we make ourselves great and strong as women. Well I’m in the same boat as you, this yr as been a lot of set backs for me but Ik and I believe that 2020 will be a completely different year for me. I’m going to share with you some of my new yr resolutions and my plans to achieve these resolutions. Here we go.

It was 1995, and I was 5 years old.

Time and tide wait for no one. Geoffrey Chaucer

Supposedly 66% of Americans do not believe they have a good work life balance and frankly businesses aren't helping, unlike France who encourages employees to disconnect digitally from work and gives 25 mandatory vacation days a year. Most working class americans are working long hours, weekends, and holidays, not too mention making minimum wage.

So over the past two years I really feel like I've been in a slump, compared to others I'm sure I was excelling because that's always how I've been. I was just so down and hard on myself but now I see how great my life is, every single day I think how grateful I am to live in this gorgeous apartment with this man I am so in love with. I haven't ever gone hungry or cold. We've never missed a bill. I have an amazing life and it only makes me think how much better it's gonna get, I'm working hard every day to make money and save for my future and now I'm applied to college and registered for classes.

Everyone has been defeated by something, an argument with another person, an argument with yourself, or life just hits the fan and makes a mess all over your new carpet. It's all perfectly normal. Everyone has been upset or uprooted by their defeat, whether you cry about it, get angry, or doubt yourself, it's all perfectly normal and it happens to everyone at some point. If you're like me, it happens all the time.

Hello and welcome to Making It Happen, where I get to sit down with some inspiring individuals and learn about their stories—the many places they’re from, the incredible things they’ve created, and how their culture has influenced their lives today.

THERE ARE ONLY 2 THINGS YOU CAN REALLY CONTROL, AND THAT’S ATTITUDE AND EFFORT. HOW YOU APPLY BOTH, PRODUCTIVELY, WILL DETERMINE THE SUCCESS, THE QUALITY AND THE QUANTITY OF THE IDEAS YOU COME UP TO SOLUTIONS PROBLEMS.

The other day I was walking somewhere when all of a sudden I realized I was thirteen blocks further away from where I thought I was because “math” and so I hailed a cab that was stopped at a light and I was like ‘Can you just drop me at 40th because I’m lazy?’ and he was like “Sure it’s OK.” (when run-on sentences are a technique of your prose it’s OK).

Hello, I am Anti Clvtch. It's nice of you guys to drop by. I am an artist and brand owner, my Instagram is @anti.clvtch. If you would like to check out my page and watch my journey feel free to follow and keep tabs on the page. Now this acid box used to just be some complete and utter accident that I made the first day I decided to do a collage art-style, which is basically finding a bunch of pictures and making them come together to form something completely different or completely random. I choose to make it look psychedelic and trippy because I like making art that makes people just say "WTF" out loud.

Heyo guys! If you have ever played or watched Pokemon in your life, you might have realized what I'm talking about here. There is this giant Snorlax which sleeps in the middle of the road, blocking the path; and if you are playing it for the first time, then like me, you might have had no clue what to do, but you totally want to capture it... sorry to be the bearer of the bad news, but it's not gonna happen (unless you play some more and get a flute).

The words "morning routine" are all the buzz in the world of personal development these days. The most successful people are locked into their morning routines, and claim it is an important component of their success. People become obsessed with the morning routine of the successful people they look up to, but morning routines are not something that can be copied to achieve success. Morning routines need to be a personal journey for you in order for them to become a meaningful part of your day. However, there are three consistent actions that are required to help you start your day with success.

So you have just finished High school, got your results and looking to enroll into university or take a gap year. Either or, you have a lot of spare time on your hands till University starts and begins. So what do you do?

I do my best to do yoga every morning for at least 20 minutes. I typically use the Daily Yoga app. I find that the programs they design work for me.

When I was a kid, I loved to read the Baby-Sitters Club book series. I occasionally also liked to read some of the Goosebumps books.

My business is all about ghostwriting at the moment, and one thing I enjoy about one of my clients is the fact they're all about self-improvement. This has given me the opportunity to learn more about my niche and what sort of topics that are most important.

Publishing Triumph For Illiterate Self-Made Millionaire.

One of six children, Shirley Yanez was born and raised in poverty on a council estate in Leicester in the 1950s. She received no formal education, and would later discover that she was dyslexic. She would go on to use her innate confidence, unbreakable self-belief, and indestructible drive to escape her difficult start in life, finally reaching the top of the money and power mountain within the hyper-capitalist world of Wall Street and the City of London finance.

Time and tide wait for no one. Geoffrey Chaucer

So over the past two years I really feel like I've been in a slump, compared to others I'm sure I was excelling because that's always how I've been. I was just so down and hard on myself but now I see how great my life is, every single day I think how grateful I am to live in this gorgeous apartment with this man I am so in love with. I haven't ever gone hungry or cold. We've never missed a bill. I have an amazing life and it only makes me think how much better it's gonna get, I'm working hard every day to make money and save for my future and now I'm applied to college and registered for classes.

“I must create a system or be enslaved by another man’s; I will not reason and compare: my business is to create.”

I was once in one of those retreats that are meant to be life changing but which can also leave you with a funny taste in your mouth when you realize you have just been put, yet again, in front of your limits.

An elderly neighbor lady once told me a story about a vandal-plagued fence. The fence was in a park in her neighborhood and her district as a city council member. Vandals would destroy part of the fence and she would work to have it rebuilt. The cycle of destruction and restoration repeated many times, leaving her frustrated and angry. How can people care so little about their community and why do some people find happiness in destructive behavior?

A Bit of Background:

Everyone has been defeated by something, an argument with another person, an argument with yourself, or life just hits the fan and makes a mess all over your new carpet. It's all perfectly normal. Everyone has been upset or uprooted by their defeat, whether you cry about it, get angry, or doubt yourself, it's all perfectly normal and it happens to everyone at some point. If you're like me, it happens all the time.

Almost a week ago I came to the conclusion I’ve never felt home. The first sentence of the last paragraph was; "I've come along way from where I was." At the time, I barely grasped how well I have handled the hurdles. Whether I jumped them with ease or I was thrown at it.

*Trigger warning*

"If you can see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hands." - Bob Proctor

I'm constantly learning. One of the biggest lessons I've had to learn and am still learning about is confidence. It's hard to be confident, right?! Sometimes I find that I really struggle with this, and my biggest insecurity is other people disapproving of what I do. I'm especially sensitive to this, and I've always been worried about being perfect and meeting expectations.

I tend to be an over-planner. I used to make multiple plans for one weekend just to ensure that I never had downtime or stayed in on Saturday night. I would often tell myself that “I am a loser” if I spend a Saturday night watching Netflix alone. I’d rather have anyone to spend time with someone, versus time alone. This was really intimidating and would cause a lot of anxiety.

Okay ladies! 2019 is coming to an end and we’re just looking for a fresh start in 2020. We want this to be a year of greatness, success, self growth and so much more. But have we sat and asked ourselves what do we have to do to achieve these things! How can we make ourselves great and strong as women. Well I’m in the same boat as you, this yr as been a lot of set backs for me but Ik and I believe that 2020 will be a completely different year for me. I’m going to share with you some of my new yr resolutions and my plans to achieve these resolutions. Here we go.

25 years is a long time to spend being uncertain.

I have lately felt tired and overwhelmed.

Its 9:00 AM, you wake up, and immediately reach for your phone, scrolling through your social media: your Facebook, your Snapchat or your Instagram, as you do. Scanning through your news feed, you’re reading posts from celebrities or models, pausing to peruse it, envying their extravagant lifestyle. You come across a picture of said celebrity: nicely dressed, well posed, and standing in the middle of a walkway, in Milan or Rome, or even Fashion Week in NYC. Or how about, when you see the same person next to their Maybach, and during that moment it’s as if someone took the perfect snap shot of that fleeting moment. While you’re sitting there on your bed and you think to yourself “Wow, why can’t that be me? Why can’t I have a picture perfect life where people will take random pictures of me in public?” Does this story sound familiar to you?

So before anyone decides that they are going to freak out by looking at my title

I was watching the news today and they were discussing with some of the models from Instagram about how they became Instagram models. They were GORGEOUS! They were explaining how they make money and how they bare just enough skin to be sexy and intice their followers to follow them. This not only increases the amount of revenue they can earn but it increases the number of people following them on Instagram. They were up in the millions! Mind you most of their followers were men. I was really intrigued by this concept. They were not only beautiful women, but they also had brains and a plan to continue to be successful on Instagram. I was impressed. But I also became sadden. I became bothered not because these women are beautiful and have a huge following but I was saddened and concerned about what this particular perception of beauty is doing to our society today. For the men and women. Everyone cannot be a Kardashian. We all cannot look like these beautiful Instagram followers. Let's not leave out the male models on Instagram as well, we all can't all be Idris Elba. So how can we educate our society and upcoming youth on how to build confidence and be happy outside the gram and other social media sites? How can we teach them to be happy in their skin even if they don't look like these Instagram models? You are not social media.

Supposedly 66% of Americans do not believe they have a good work life balance and frankly businesses aren't helping, unlike France who encourages employees to disconnect digitally from work and gives 25 mandatory vacation days a year. Most working class americans are working long hours, weekends, and holidays, not too mention making minimum wage.

I am writing this to share behind the scenes of my first public on camera speaking video! Yes, you read right - I no longer want to hide behind the lens all the time. I want to inspire more creators to overcome the mental blocks that keep them from creating, speaking their truth, and being themselves both offline and online. Continue on for the gritty details and the THREE KEYS that helped me go from dream to doing in reality (this part is important).

One of the great debates particularly when my kids were young, was whether you could or should use a carrot or a stick to encourage them to “do better”. I was always in the carrot camp, but my wife was always in the perfectionist (stick) camp. She felt that it was better to “say it as it is”, although there was always a discussion about what standard that had to meet and what “perfection” might be.