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When Narcissists Punish: How Getting Something Wrong Can Trigger Their Wrath

Surviving Narcissistic Abuse: Understanding the Punishment of Victims for Making Mistakes

By Mitchella O ErayomaPublished 12 months ago 3 min read
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Narcissists can be very demanding, controlling, and manipulative individuals who use a variety of tactics to control and dominate their victims. One of the most common tactics used by narcissists is to punish their victims for getting something wrong. This punishment can take many forms, including emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse, and even sexual abuse.

Narcissists are individuals who have an inflated sense of self-importance, and they believe that they are entitled to special treatment and attention. They often feel superior to others, and they have little or no empathy for the people around them. When a narcissist believes that someone has done something wrong, they will often become angry and lash out at their victim.

There are several reasons why a narcissist may punish their victim for getting something wrong. First, they may believe that their victim has failed to meet their expectations, and they may feel angry and disappointed as a result. Second, they may be using the punishment as a way to assert their dominance and control over their victim. Finally, they may be using the punishment as a way to create fear and insecurity in their victim, making them more dependent on the narcissist for emotional support.

Emotional abuse is one of the most common forms of punishment used by narcissists. This can take many forms, including belittling, shaming, and name-calling. The narcissist may use words like “stupid,” “worthless,” and “incompetent” to describe their victim. They may also make their victim feel guilty for making a mistake, and they may use emotional blackmail to manipulate their victim into doing what they want.

Verbal abuse is another common form of punishment used by narcissists. This can include yelling, screaming, and threatening behavior. The narcissist may also use sarcasm, criticism, and mocking to make their victim feel small and insignificant. They may also use the silent treatment as a way to punish their victim, refusing to speak to them for days or even weeks at a time.

Physical abuse is a more extreme form of punishment used by some narcissists. This can include hitting, slapping, kicking, and other forms of physical violence. Sexual abuse is also a common form of punishment used by some narcissists, and it can take many forms, including rape, sexual assault, and sexual harassment.

Narcissists may also punish their victims by withholding affection and emotional support. They may refuse to show any kindness or compassion towards their victim, and they may use the punishment as a way to create fear and insecurity in their victim.

One of the most difficult things about being a victim of narcissistic punishment is that it can be very hard to understand why it is happening. Victims may feel confused, hurt, and angry, and they may wonder what they did to deserve such treatment. The truth is that narcissists are often very good at manipulating and controlling their victims, and they may use punishment as a way to maintain their power and control over their victim.

If you are a victim of narcissistic punishment, it is important to seek help and support as soon as possible. This may include talking to a therapist or counselor who specializes in working with victims of narcissistic abuse. It may also involve reaching out to friends and family members who can provide emotional support and validation.

In addition to seeking help and support, it is important to set clear boundaries with the narcissist. This may involve cutting off contact with them entirely, or it may involve setting limits on the amount of contact you have with them. It is important to remember that you have the right to protect yourself from abuse, and you should not feel guilty for doing so.

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Mitchella O Erayoma

Writing helps me better understand myself and my experiences.

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