Stress is not just a state of mind; it can have an incredible impact on the body as well. I learned this firsthand, when I had a full-blown heart attack at the tender age of 32. My story serves as a cautionary tale: it is an urgent plea to seek help when you are overwhelmed, and a reminder to prioritize your self-care. It can literally mean the difference between life and death.
For the past few months I've been seeing someone new. I met her after we discovered our shared interest in poetry. She's loving, kind and caring. She really 'gets me' like no one ever has before. And dates with her have been a breeze.
Death of Self. There I said it. In all of its glory I bask in the word death. A word that modern society has placed such a dark and dirty connotation on. Ego death is a glorious, liberating and albeit oftentimes painful process of letting go. A rebirthing process. But what is the ego anyway?
For a really long time, I held a lot of guilt. I think guilt, or the Big G, as I sometimes refer to it, is a concept instilled in us as children. I don't want to come across sounding like Freud here but it is important to note the impact of your childhood on your outcome as an adult. In the household I grew up in, the pressure was high, so levels for feeling guilt on silly things, like missing a homework assignment, or spilling a drink, were astronomical. For me, the price of stepping out of line was more than renting a one-bedroom in any major city.
It’s always 3am exactly I get the wake up call. No matter how I try to trick it, what time I go to bed or when I have to wake up.
Hygiene is the practice to maintain health and prevent diseases especially through cleanliness. It can be practiced by cleaning our body, hair, teeth, trimming our nails, wearing clean clothes, putting a Band-Aid on scrapes and cuts and being mindful of what we intake etc.
Loneliness. Loner. Outcast.
Thoughts of who I used to be travel through my head at such a high speed, making me fall on my knees. Tears streaming down because the pain from the fall went right through my chest into my heart, making me bleed from the inside out.
Self-care is often thought of as a form of selfish behaviour, when actually it is about maintaining or improving your health. We aren't saying you need to stop thinking about your other responsibilities, however you should consider putting time aside each day for self-care.
If you’re like me, you have no idea what day of the week it is. You stopped caring that your weekly grocery bill is double what it should be because at this point, you just need to get out of the friggin’ house. You’ve started contemplating what constitutes socially acceptable drinking behavior, and are quickly becoming concerned that you may have a serious drinking problem. In this very moment, you’re wearing sweatpants whilst ceremoniously shoving cheese dust covered carbs into your pie hole. Welcome to COVID-19 quarantine, day ??.
Throughout the past week as more and more cities, states, and districts have begun to enforce shelter-in-place orders due to the COVID-19, I have seen something harmful unfold. Many people are out of a job and being forced to stay at home, while numerous influencers across all social media platforms have created videos and articles shaming individuals who are using this time to rest and practice self-care. Some influencers have broadcast how we need to use this time to be productive and “skill up” instead of being “lazy and watching Netflix”.