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Are There People You Can Trust in the World?

Exist people in your life that you can rely on? It's always beneficial to have a few top-notch, trustworthy friends by your side. However, figuring out how trustworthy someone is might be difficult at times. You may want to have faith in them. But how can you be certain?

By Ahamed ThousifPublished about a year ago 6 min read
It takes time and effort to establish trust that can grow into a friendship or relationship.

It is believed that while trust takes years to develop, it can be destroyed in a matter of minutes. Because you can't blindly trust everyone in your life, it's only partially true. It takes time and effort to establish trust that can grow into a friendship or relationship. However, for some inexplicable reason, even after just a few minutes of acquaintance, you might start to trust and become friends with each other.

That's primarily because humans are much more emotional than rational beings, and our emotions frequently cloud our judgment, making us incredibly easy to influence, but we're too afraid to admit that. Making a good first impression and acting appropriately and kindly can allow you to gain the trust of most individuals in a matter of minutes. However, the problem with first impressions is that they can be exploited against you. It's conceivable that you already have a negative reputation.

Let's face it, it's hard to change people's perceptions of you since you're the man who can't be trusted due to anything stupid you did in the past. Read on to find out if you can trust anyone on Earth to give you some reality.

1. People Pleasing

The most shameless of humans is a people-pleaser. These nefarious characters will do anything to attract attention. Everyone must agree with them, particularly those in positions of authority, wealth, or influence. These individuals go over and above to put others at ease because they want to be liked.

They'll repeat your opinions, give you favors that are unnecessary, and stay on your good side for as long as they can. In other words, people-pleasers lack a personal code. People-pleasers define themselves by their social success, thus they hardly ever reflect on their principles or work to develop their integrity. Or, to put it another way, they live their lives according to the opinions of people they may or may not know. even though people-pleasers think they are moving up the social scale. Moving up the corporate ladder, they. They are creating more issues than they are trying to fix.

Many individuals are not happy with the way things are right now. People-pleasers want you to think that their lack of a sense of self causes them to live their lives in service to others. Pay attention to people who seem to be unusually giving. You might think they're a decent person, but a people-pleaser wants you to think otherwise. They strive to come across as charitable, compassionate, and altruistic.

They pose as your ally and buddy, but they aren't. They mostly can't be trusted because they only care about themselves.

2. Social Cruelty

Do you know someone who treats their friends badly? Perhaps you know someone whose character changes when they are alone. In public, dishonest people put on a mask and present two different faces. They are courteous and friendly. In secret, they can be harsh to the individuals who care about them the most, despite their outward smiles and laughter. They might be found making fun of their friends. They take pleasure in making their spouses or family members feel awkward.

Sometimes they brutally criticize their friends' flaws and make them the scapegoat. Look past someone's public character to discover who they truly are. Anyone can put on a phony grin and appear trustworthy, but reliable people don't alter who they are when they are alone. They don't treat their friends badly or criticize the people they care about. Be cautious if you know a double dealer because they shouldn't be trusted.

Stubborn Defenses

Do you know anyone who demands an explanation in all situations? This is a common occurrence with unreliable people. They dislike being questioned or having to defend their choices, which is usually a sign that they're hiding something. They might betray their secret agenda if they provide an explanation. Because they don't want to admit their genuine intentions, they become defensive.

Why should I be required to defend myself to you? Or you might hear them say, "Why are you being so nosy?" But you're not being nosy. They're trying to make you look guilty for the occurrence. They're making an effort to divert attention away from themselves. Since they have nothing to hide, trustworthy people aren't shy about answering questions about themselves. There is no secret goal or evil intent in play here. Consider the scenario where you're baffled as to why someone is late for work. An honest individual might say, "I overslept and came there as quickly as I could."

They may also be willing to own their errors and provide straightforward responses to inquiries. How about someone in whom you lack faith? A person that is unreliable won't take ownership of their mistakes. They won't be honest with you because they might have something to hide.

3. Breaching Confidentiality

Some individuals lack the ability to maintain secrecy. They reveal information inadvertently. When pressed, they falter and reveal your secrets. However, when it comes to disclosing your secrets, every terrible secret keeper has something in common. They are irate over it. They feel a great deal of regret. They tried to safeguard your personal information, but they were unsuccessful. Although they could have a largemouth, these people are usually trustworthy.

Your friendship must be important to someone who feels bad about betraying your trust, but what about those who don't feel bad? What about people who will divulge your secrets for fun sake? These people are hazardous and unreliable. They will pose as your buddy and inquire about your secrets, but the moment you leave the room, they will turn against you. They will divulge your personal information to everyone who would listen. Unreliable people utilize friends as a source of amusement.

They like creating drama and leaking secrets because it keeps their lives interesting. No one cares if you stop believing in them. They probably won't appreciate your friendship. They make use of your secrets to attract attention, cause conflict, and enhance their reputation. Nothing makes them happier than speculating about your terrible secrets.

4. Stealing Credit

Have you ever claimed credit for something that someone else did? A large majority of people have not. Perhaps you've never considered this idea before. Why would you try to take credit for something you didn't do? This is obviously unethical, but unethical people continue to engage in it.

They are only thinking about themselves. They typically claim credit for other people's accomplishments since they are only concerned with their own success. They are unconcerned with the people they are harming, and they always take the chance to shine, even if it doesn't belong to them. The same thing occurs when they fall short. Untrustworthy people tend to place the blame for their mistakes on others rather than on themselves.

They would do anything to maintain their reputation, and they never take responsibility for their errors. Be on the lookout for these dishonest people since they typically present themselves as if they did nothing and are successful on their own, despite the fact that you both know that's not the case.

You'll encounter them at work, in social settings, and on the dating scene; but, keep your distance as they will steal anything of value the instant you do

5. Second Estimating

Have you ever formed a bad opinion of someone? Your brain occasionally takes up messages that you are unaware of. Let's imagine that you are going on a date. When you experience a bad feeling in the pit of your stomach, you start to question their conduct. Despite the fact that they haven't done anything wrong, you feel an unexplainable skepticism toward anything they say.

Does this suggest that this person is unreliable? Not necessarily, but there's a good reason you feel bad. Many of the subtle signals that your mind is detecting are ones that you are not aware of. Your brain gradually develops the ability to recognize dismissive body language and emotional distance. These little cues are collected by your brain, which then forms an impression based on intuition and observation.

So how can you tell whether someone is reliable? Simply go with your gut. Though they may not always be precise, your instincts are often more accurate than you realize.

6. Ignoring Privacy

Unreliable people will invade your personal space if they borrow your goods without first getting your consent. When you're not home, they'll break into your home, or they'll ignore your cries for privacy or space. These people do not see the two of you as equals, to put it simply. Their mental lives revolve around you and your friendship.

You're here to assist or amuse them. They treat you as if you were their property, thus they violate your privacy and disregard your boundaries. These people are blatantly irresponsible with your time, money, and possessions.

Finally, Everything you own may be damaged or mistreated, but trust is more brittle than anything you own. If they are incapable of taking care of your belongings, they won't be able to safeguard your friendship.

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