Life's experiences are the best lessons. What we chose to take from those experiences is the medicine that can either cure us or just mask the symptoms that will eventually surface later down the line. Be wise in your choice.
Buying My Freedom
For the last ten years, I have been the property of the Department of Corrections, 18 months as an inmate in the Florida Correctional Institution and then as a probationer for the last eight years, five months and seven days...but who's counting?
What does it mean when someone compartmentalizes? Compartmentalizing is an internal process of putting your feelings toward someone, or some experience, in a box, and putting them on a shelf in the back of your mind to be forgotten, or stirred up when something reminds you they're there. It's a defense mechanism for those that are better at just pushing forward or moving on. It allows them to not deal with, come to terms with or even accept the issue at hand.
Face Your Demons or They Will Face You...
I am naturally introverted... and according to my mother, I have been since I was a child. I don't really remember these days but what I do remember is not wanting to be bothered with friends outside of school or sports. Writing stories in my journals that no one would ever have the privilege to see or read. I was outgoing but I wasn't. I was social but I wasn't. My mom was forced to get a second line in the house because of my sister...she was born with a phone attached to her earlobe, now I can barely get her to call me back. I didn't like the phone much and I am still partial to face to face conversations.
Forgiveness Is Not for Them...It's for You
I have worn hurt and resentment across my chest like a badge of honor. I have pulled the scabs off of old wounds myself just so others could see that I was bleeding. From the shadows, I would point in the direction of my offender and prosecute them over and over for a crime that they had committed years prior all because I refused to forgive.
Is it Love or Lust?
I remember hearing as a teenager that I was just in 'heat' as a reference to me liking a person. I remember the terms, puppy love and smitten. I even remember the word that I still use to this day, crush. (I have a crush on someone right now if we're being honest)
Why Courting and Dating is Important
How long does it really take to get to know someone? A week? A Month? Six? What's your time line? So quickly people fall in like with the idea of a person. What we see on social media, what we see in our dreams and even what people want us to see.
Children are Not Pawns
My mother left my father when I was just nine years old...then she came back. When I was thirteen years old my father left my mother...he never returned.
Your Partner is not Your Savior.
Savior: A person who saves someone or something from danger, situations and even themselves. I dated someone once who thought that I should be in charge of their happiness and who also thought that my happiness should be dependent on how happy they were not just in our relationship...but in life.