Surviving Evil

This is my story on abuse I am writing this story because I want abuse to end. I am victim of abuse myself my green light was that I was able to get out and my abuser didn't stop me and I also got the help that I needed from a women's abuse center. I honestly can say it's really not a place that women should be in and if you can get out of that situation get out as soon as possible, I know some women can't leave their abuser because they love them or they are too scared or they have a child or children with the abuser. Women are never heard some people think it's the woman's fault on why she's getting abused, but it's not the abuser takes advantage and manipulates his way for people to think it was her fault why she got abused and usually the abuser isolates, manipulates, tries to control everything, takes advantage of everything the woman does. Abuse is so sickening and it's very wrong but women get abused every day. Most abusers act insecure to cover up the truth, in fact they are always bullies. The one thing they all have in common is that their motive is to have power of their victim this is because they don't feel that they have personal power, regardless of their success. To them communication is a win-lose game. Abuse happens within heterosexual relationships and in the same-sex partnerships, it occurs within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds, and economic levels. And while women are more victimized, men also experience abuse especially verbal and emotional. The bottom line is that abusive behaviour is never acceptable, whether from a man, woman, teenager, or an older adult. There are many signs of abusive relationship, and a fear your partner is the most telling. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around them - constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow up - chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Other signs include a partner who belittles you, tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation. Physical abuse occurs when physical force is used against you in a way that injures or endangers you. Abusive behavior is a choice despite what people believe, domestic violence and abuse does not take place because of an abuser loses control over their behavior. In fact, abusive behavior and violence is a deliberate choice to gain control. Perpetrators use a variety of tactics to manipulate you and exert their power, including: Dominance, Humiliation, Isolation, Threats, Intimidation, Denial and Blame. Abusers use a cycle in violence and domestic abuse which includes: Abuse, Guilt, "Normal" Behavior, Fantasy and Planning, Set-Ups. Recognizing the warning signs of abuse; It's impossible to know with certainly what goes on behind close doors, but there are some telltale signs of emotional abuse and domestic violence. If you witness these warning signs of abuse in a friend, family member or co-worker take them very seriously. People who are being abused may: 1. Seem afraid or anxious to please their partner, 2. Go along with what he or she says, 3. Check in often with their partner to report where they are and what they are doing, 4. Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from their partner, 5. Talk about their partner's temper, jealously, or possessiveness. Warning signs of physical abuse: have frequent injuries, with the excuse of "accidents", frequently missed work, school or social/special occasions without explanation, dress in clothing designed to hide bruises or scars, abuse can hurt in so many ways.