Shocking Facts On Abuse Against Men

In today's culture, awareness is spreading. There are many cultural issues that were swept under the rug for decades, and starting with my generation, we are yanking the cover off them. LBGT rights and awareness, mental illness, global warming, and of course, abuse.

But there is one topic that people are overlooking. It goes hand in hand in something that is constantly in news, media, self-help videos cover it: abuse. But there is a whole group of abuse victims that are not talked about and it's time to shed some light on the subject.

About 40% of all abuse victims are men. Abuse against men is a silent epidemic across the USA alone. Here is a shocking number for you: In 2010 a survey conducted by the CDC claims that roughly 5,365,000 men experienced violence from intimate partners.

It's not that shocking to realize that the biggest violator of physical violence against men are women, and usually their intimate partners. What is surprising is the statistic that about 1 man dies every 10 days in America to domestic violence. Most of those deaths were women spouses using a weapon as a blunt force object.

But domestic violence probably isn't the most shocking thing about violence against men. It's the sexual violence against them that are shocking.

I hear a lot of misconceptions - a lot of women are under the impression that 'men can't be raped.' Their body reacts to stimulus and women assume that just because their bodies become alert an ready for action at the the stimulation of their more private areas - we forget that women's bodies also do the same thing, you just can't see our bodies natural reaction to stimulus like you can a man's.

There are two ways a man can be 'raped.' And that of course does not include the typical 'molestation.'

Let's talk about the differences between these things for a moment. Being molested is unwanted touch with hands or mouth. Being raped is having your body being penetrated by another person or an object without consent (whether that be unable to consent or doesn't want to).

There is also another kind of sexual violation that men are also privy to, and that is called 'made to penetrate,' or MTP for short. 1 in 14 men experience MTP sexual violation in their lifetime. They are forced to penetrate someone else with their own bodies or an object.

What could 'force' a man to penetrate someone else? The inability to resist for one. Being tied down, drunk or high. And the biggest MTP sexual predators are usually women.

And the most shocking thing about rape (the distinct difference: being penetrated rather than being forced to penetrate) against men: Most of their rapists are other men.

Another type of abuse against men: Being accused of being a sexual predator. 1 in 38 men will be accused of sexually assaulting someone when they have not in their lifetime. And 1 in 17 men are stalked or harassed by strangers in their life.

And the craziest thing about this is: 56% of all this will happen to men before the age of 25. In fact, about 81 million Americans have experienced intimate partner abuse before the age of 18.

It's an upsetting trend. And this is the gross facts about abuse on men in America. And we're primarily talking about intimate partner abuse. We haven't even broken into domestic abuse caused by family against them.

So here is the gist:

Yes. Men can be raped. And molested. And abused.

And we need to start talking about that more as a collective. I don't foolishly think I can solve every countries domestic abuse problem. But I can at least be a voice - calling out the facts in my own country - and spreading knowledge here.

And maybe if we all did our part - we can encourage those who are being abused to step forward and get help. Maybe we can fight against this monster invisible enemy. And change peoples lives for the better. One statistic, one person, and one phoenix at a time.

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If you are in an abusive relationship and you need help - contacts are listed below!

U.S. and Canada: 1-800-799-7233 – The National Domestic Violence Hotline

Violence Against Women

Call the OWH HELPLINE: 1-800-994-9662

UK: 01823 334244 – ManKind Initiative

Ireland: 046 902 3710 – AMEN

If you’re a gay man who’s being abused, you can also find support and advice from the following organizations:

U.S.: 1-800-832-1901 – Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project

UK: 0800 999 5428 – Galop