How much time do you devote to attempting to be the type of woman you believe men desire? It’s a LOT if you’re like most women. You spend so much time trying to make yourself look sexy and attractive.
All the while, you’re portraying yourself as amusing, interesting, worldly, and not in the least bit needy. You’ve spent all this time demonstrating how wonderful you’d be for him… What a wonderful future he’d have if he chose you to be his partner! It also doesn’t work. WHY?
Why do you put forth so much effort? And the guy in your life, if he notices you at all, takes you for granted? It’s probably because he’s immature, right? He can’t recognize a good thing until it’s gone.
Or perhaps… It’s because you’ve been all the work for him. Before I delve into the 3 things men desires, here are some vital facts that you need to be aware of:
If He Doesn’t Work for Your Relationship, He Won’t Value It
The things that men value the most are those that they have to work hard for.
If you hand a man a college diploma, he won’t cherish it as much as if he had to study and work for years to acquire it.
If you give a man the ideal girlfriend, he won’t value her as much as if he had to pursue her for weeks before she agreed to go together with him. This is why it is beneficial to play hard to get.
However, as you’ve surely observed, playing hard to get has a significant drawback. Once he has you, that strategy is no longer effective. When guys decide they’ve won you, something happens. It’s as though they’re thinking, “Game over.” Their thoughts are already turning to the next task. What the hell is going on?!
And what can you do to avoid it destroying your relationship?
It’s Not Just You — EVERY WOMAN GOES THROUGH THIS (That’s Why They Seek Help)
Many women have given up on finding love. They complained about guy who were blowing hot and cold, everything seemed to be going smoothly until something would shift in an instant.
A man who had before been warm, affectionate, and interested would turn distant. He wouldn’t have time for her anymore. He stopped smiling while greeting. He’d stop making eye contact. His kisses were a little rough.
Some women with this experience never got too close to a man again for fear of frightening him away.
Other ladies, on the other hand, take a different approach. They seek for help from experienced individuals or Therapist.
Some of these Therapists understood why these men were backing away. They knew what they needed and what they weren’t getting.
According to relationship coach James Bauer: One of the things that is lacking in most women is “The Hero Instinct.”
Most Women Do Something That Drives Men Away Without Ever Realizing It.
One of the most beautiful aspects of women is their inherent loving nature.
Take a look at yourself. You’re always willing to help your man. You look after him. You make time for him all the time. You’d go to great lengths for him.
You never notice it while you’re in the middle of it. You’re actually depriving him of something. You’re robbing him of his purpose. He wants to be your hero, you see. He doesn’t want you to be the hero of his story.
The fact is, he wants to be your hero, not the other way round. Consider how many grown guys continue to be enthralled by Marvel comics and superhero films. Every man on the planet has fantasized since he was a child growing up to be the kind of hero who would save the world while also getting the girl.
In their 9–5 occupations, most guys don’t get to explore their world-saving side. They aren’t in a position to take off their corporate ties and swing into action, showing their superhuman side. Maybe they can’t save the world. They can still get the girl, though.
For an ordinary guy with a superhero’s heart, getting the girl is a worthy quest. It demands a superhuman level of self-assurance. Superhuman enchantment. It’s as though you have superhuman pain immunity. All he has to do now is…
A young lady in search of a hero. Do you require the services of a hero? Let me make a guess…
That isn’t you at all. You’re a formidable opponent. You’re self-sufficient. You can repair a dripping faucet. You are capable of driving a stick shift. You are capable of looking after yourself. You’ll never make the Jerry Maguire error of seeking for a man to make you whole.
You, on the other hand, have a lot to offer a man. You’re a generous person, kind, loving and giving to the point of becoming a jerk. All you want is to meet a man who is ready to accept everything you have to offer.
That’s why you’re not seeing any heroes in your life. That’s why you’ve gotten so many takers instead. Guys who take everything you own and then abandon you. You need to advertise for a hero if you want one. Here’s how:
3 Ways You Can Invite A Hero Into Your Life, Starting Today
1. Ask a guy for help
Ask him for advice on buying a new computer. Request that he listen to the strange rattling noise that has started in your car. Solicit his assistance in reaching something on the top shelf. Then, with a wide smile of gratitude, thank him heartily. That does not imply that you are needy. It transforms you into a woman who has room in her life for a man.
2. Take pleasure in male company
Guys admire ladies who appreciate men for who they are. What if his apartment is a sports shrine? So what if he spends all of his time working on his fantasy football team? So what if the least wrinkled shirt is his concept of a clean shirt? He’s a gentleman. It’s all right. You don’t need him to be more like you because you’ve already taken care of the feminine side of the equation.
3. Let him earn your respect
Superheroes love challenges. They do not want a gold medal simply for showing up. They aren’t looking for your affection to be served to them on a silver platter. They want to work hard for it. Even more than a woman’s eternal and undying love, they yearn for a challenge. As a result, provide him with opportunities to demonstrate his worth. You don’t have to put in the effort to win him over. Allow him the pleasure of earning your admiration by sitting back and relaxing.
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