Xavia Johnson
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This Skin
I once had a conversation with someone about whether or not we were pro-black. Our race does have a lot of work to do to heal ourselves because nobody else will do it for us. But when it comes down to it, I know for a fact that I'm pro-black. Not anti anything else. Just pro-black. I want what's best for us an entire race. I have no shame in that. Other cultures can stand proud in who they are, and we don't just have that right. It's a necessity. We have to build each other up and work together.
By Xavia Johnson4 years ago in Criminal
Own Your Sex Life, Woman (Part 1)
You know what I find interesting? The fact that we promote an array of human rights and freedom to be ourselves, but sex still feels like a super taboo topic in 2020. Well, that may not be the case in some social circles, but as far as I can remember, when it comes to people in my surroundings, the topic of sex ruffles feathers, causes grown people to blush, and exposes a plethora of misinformation.
By Xavia Johnson4 years ago in Filthy
Rose Quartz
I once thought that what I was experiencing was a sexual trauma of some sort. I decided to look up the definition of sexual trauma to be sure. According to the Sexual Trauma and Abuse Care Center website, sexual trauma is defined as "any sexual act that is imposed on another person without their consent."
By Xavia Johnson4 years ago in Filthy
Clay Street
Before I write anything about my life, I often start off with a reality or a so-called flaw about myself. It's my way of working through my own patterns and behaviors and simply being as transparent as I can be as I navigate my relationships with other people.
By Xavia Johnson4 years ago in Families
I'm Single, I'm a Parent
It’s Okay That It Didn’t Work Out. Forgive Yourself Dating is extremely challenging. We all know that already. I can only speak for myself when I say that I spent my teenage years dreaming about love. I spent my 20s seeking love without doing the necessary heart work that would make me be a good life partner. Now I’m about two months away from being 31, feeling like I’m the best version of myself, and I am single with two children. I don’t say that in a negative way, but what I know for certain is that there is a different set of challenges that come with trying to date when you’re a parent.
By Xavia Johnson4 years ago in Humans
Finding Myself While "Confidently Lost"
Have you ever felt vibrations while you're listening to one of your favorite songs? It sends a pulse through your body, and whatever feeling it brings, you feel it so intensely! I remember the first time I heard "my song". It was almost instantly when I decided to inhale self assurance, persistence, and joy and then exhale doubt, unwarranted criticism, and fear of falling face first on the pavement of life. People told me that turning 30 would yield that very moment. They weren't wrong. Three decades on this earth was symbolic for me. Symbolic of resilience. I had a surge of confidence upon the very first utterance of "Happy Birthday."
By Xavia Johnson4 years ago in Beat
When Being Black Isn't Enough
I remember the stale look on my friends' faces when I told them that I wanted to become a teacher. I remember the dry response my mother made when I told her the same. This was no surprise to anybody that knew me. Not because they always envisioned me to be a teacher, but because I was as flighty and impulsive as can be. One day I wanted to be a counselor. I remember wanting to attend hair school. I can't forget about the time I was determined to be an esthetician. So, of course I would go to college for four and a half years majoring in Journalism and Mass Communication, only to decide during my super-senior year that I wanted to become a teacher instead.
By Xavia Johnson4 years ago in Education