self help

Self help, because you are your greatest asset.

  • Amanda Doyle
    Published 15 days ago
    5 Ways to Motivate Yourself

    5 Ways to Motivate Yourself

    Why aren't you where you want to be in life? Did you not try hard enough? Did something go wrong? What causes you to feel like you're not moving forward, no matter how hard and fast you push?
  • Isabel Valencia Zuñiga
    Published 16 days ago
    OUTSIDE

    OUTSIDE

    Oh vitamin D, how I miss you old friend!
  • Cheryl E Preston
    Published 17 days ago
    Breathe in breathe out

    Breathe in breathe out

    I have always taken long walks even from childhood. Now that I am older I make sure to walk at least 2 miles outside of my home each day. During the past decade I’ve found an interesting way to keep myself motivated to keep moving. I take note of people in my day to day journey and realize how blessed I am. One day I saw an acquaintance who had gained a lot of weight and was riding in the motorized cart through the grocery store and using oxygen. Not long after this she passed away. As soon as I got the news of her death. I went for a mile walk through my neighborhood. On another occasion I went walking at midnight after having attended a funeral earlier in the day of someone younger than myself.
  • Rebekah Crone
    Published 17 days ago
    New Home, New Mindset

    New Home, New Mindset

    Let's jump right in: My four-year relationship crashed and burned right before quarantine, but I just moved out of my ex’s house a month ago. Frankly, I thought living with my ex would be less awful than living alone during a pandemic. I was very, very wrong. It was textbook-toxic. We still argued, acted like children, and hurt each other, even after we called it quits. I was angry, I was heartbroken, and I was under massive stress. No day was a good day until I gathered all the remaining strength I had and moved out. Waking up that first morning in my own space was a massive relief. The contrast was like night and day. Though I am broke and alone, I am also free, and that freedom from stress is worth it.
  • Shania Thompson
    Published 17 days ago
    Remembering Yourself

    Remembering Yourself

    Sometimes we just get so busy with our lives that we forget about ourselves. Between taking care of family, running errands for our spouses/partners, taking care of the kids, double shifts at work with a side of a shitty boss overworking you, bills on top of bills, and life overall just throwing you lemon after lemon, we barely have enough space to fit Me in. At least just for a day or the weekend. You look up in the mirror one day and you say to yourself “What happened to me? Whew,I look a mess! And I’m sooooo tired.”. I mean, when was the last time you got your hair and nails done? When was the last time you had a spa day? Went out with the girls? Treated yourself to dinner and a movie? Well, now’s the time to drop some of that weight you’re carrying and take a load off, ladies. Turn off your phones or put em on vibrate. Tell everyone “I’m taking care of me right now. I’ll call/text you back later.”. Or, heck, don’t pick up the phone at all if you wanna take the whooooole day. I don’t blame y’all for that one. There are times, ladies, where we need time off from being Ms. or Mrs. Everyone’s caretaker just for once and ditch all of the priorities and responsibilities. So what if others get upset? LET THEM! I mean, come on. Not having time to let your hair down every once in a while and have a little fun messes with our sanity!! And besides, some of us don’t like getting split ends in our hair or chips in our nails. What girl does? Having time for Me is like a breath of fresh air for us. Taking that deep breath, feeling nothing but hands lathering your beautiful locks, hands, and feet with every lotion and shampoo galore or just taking a nice hot shower night or day.....FEELS LIKE HEAVEN!! Sometimes we need to just say “You know what? I think I’m gonna take some time for me. She and I haven’t hung out in a while. Think I’m gonna do that today/this week.”. Another thing. Don’t forget about your dreams. We get so crammed in our lives, we forget them too. Your future achievements, who you are, what you are, who you want to be. They’re all just as important and you should include that with your day with Me,even if that’s only a couple times a week. Because remembering you is very unique. Especially for all independent, confident, beautiful women like yourselves. Much love to y’all. 🥰 Because we are all beautiful. And we owe it to ourselves to self-treatment for that. For all our hard work and being the women we are today. When is it our turn for our happiness inside out? When is it our turn to do something we want for a change? When’s it our turn take recognition in who we are? Our personalities,our likes, our dislikes, our favorite restaurants, what we like to do for our free time,what careers we want and what dreams we have? Whether it’s what we wear,how we do our hair, the way we dress, what hobbies we have and like to do,we should be able to should be able to have a break for all of that. We deserve it after all. Especially if some of us are in the house all day managing the house. Well,I say, it’s time for us to drop the role of a Cinderella for once and have a night being Shania Twain! Have a night to yourself or with the girls! Do you,boo! And feel good about it. Never regret a moment or a minute of it either. Have fun remembering you. And always remember you.
  • Karchye Aqui
    Published 19 days ago
    The Difficulty of Managing Emotions During Highly Emotional Times.

    The Difficulty of Managing Emotions During Highly Emotional Times.

    Emotions are running high this year. On a global scale, we’re all facing COVID-19. That alone has brought about so many changes that I’m sure we’re all going to have to permanently redefine what “normal” is for our families, our careers and our communities. On a National scale, the U.S. is experiencing a another racial justice movement which I’m sure will also change our perceptions of what is “normal” or in this case, “right”.
  • Simone
    Published 19 days ago
    How To Stay Sane When Everything Around You Screams Insane

    How To Stay Sane When Everything Around You Screams Insane

    Feeling overwhelmed? Run-down? Low on energy? Besides obvious reasons, the lifestyle choices we make every day add to our growing pains, and negatively affect our mental health. I'm sure you've heard it before – if your head isn't in the right place, nothing else works the way it should.
  • Mykyah Green
    Published 20 days ago
    A Spark Of Light

    A Spark Of Light

    Glow can be a very broad term with different meanings, but the same concept. As stated online and in dictionaries, Glow means " 1. To give out steady light without flame. 2.Have an intense color, light and shine. 3. Have a heightened color or bloom on skin as a result of warmth or health. 4. Feel deep pleasure or satisfaction and convey it through one's expression and bearing. Many people would take glowing as a compliment on their outer appearance, but the truth is, anyone can be outwardly beautiful, and as we age, sometimes our glow starts to fade. As Maya Angelou stated " Nothing can dim the light that shines from within." These truths only bring us back to our real question, what does it mean to glow from within? Not only this, but what are some ways that I glow from within as an individual?
  • Tammy Lee
    Published 22 days ago
    Learning To Surf

    Learning To Surf

    Life is like a wave. The ebb and the flow we experience is constant and inevitable. Things come and they go. Moments shift, emotions change, we feel happiness then sadness etc...One without the other is next to impossible. Everything has its polar opposite. For example, let's look at an actual wave...the water at the bottom (wave trough) begins to move upward into a wave crest. If neither the bottom or top of the wave existed, the wave itself would not exist. Make sense? There are the ups, the downs and everything in between. Learning how to navigate and find the grace and balance between the three, is where our work lies. This journey is something our souls crave.
  • Billie Gold
    Published 23 days ago
    Morning Panic Goblins

    Morning Panic Goblins

    Wake up, panic.
  • Twenties Girl
    Published 24 days ago
    The Expectations Of Being In Your Early Twenties.

    The Expectations Of Being In Your Early Twenties.

    There are many expectations that fall upon us in our twenties, Whether it is from society, Your family and friends or even expectations you have for yourself because of comparison to the people around you. We compare ourselves to people all around us,even strangers! feeling the pressure of going to university because many of your siblings have been and your friends are going and you don't want to miss any of the experiences.
  • Nicole
    Published 24 days ago
    Discovering Yourself

    Discovering Yourself

    Discovering yourself is a journey. It's a long road that's not a straight path. It has twists and turns and different branches and choices. You can continue on the highway or take the side road. It's all dependent on your choices.