Knowing Love

Every time singles ask me the question; how do I know my partner loves me? I always turn the question to them by asking how you know you are loved. I do this because I want them to see their responsibility in the whole love matrix. You should be more concerned about giving love than receiving love because true love does not look for its own. In one of our relationship programs, a friend answered the question by saying that she could not explain it or fully describe it, but that she could feel it. Hmmm, but is love something that you feel, see, or experience?

Love is not blind, it sees.

Most people say that love is blind and I wonder where they got that from. Love has never been blind. Love has eyes,it sees. Being loved by someone gives you strength but loving someone gives you courage. It’s often said that cowards can’t love because love is the privilege of the brave. If you are in love, you will know because:

You will become more sacrificial, more inclined to work for the happiness of the other than for yourself.

You will become totally vulnerable, allowing that other person to access you.

You are able to glorify God over and above other considerations in the relationship.

You are able to give without commensurate response.

You are not jealous or competitive.

You accept the other person as he and ready to cover his smelling wounds.

You can go through the motions of pain and joy that the person goes through. Sharing the moment as he does. In love, we sometimes get hurt.

You do not experience fear, anxiety, or guilt.

You have the courage to love in return.

Love Has A Replica

The name of love’s replica is infatuation. No matter how much you’ve been around, you can still be fooled by infatuation, as it abounds more easily about. You know it, because it’s there for all to see. Infatuation is that bundle of feelings that gets your heart pounding while creating pictures of fantasy and eroticism. It rides on promises coated with the most alluring adjectives you’ve ever heard; it’s quick and always in a hurry. Infatuation doesn not allow you any room to think out of things for yourself, because it says lets do it now.

Infatuation doesn’t grow; it just springs into bloom and takes you into a make believe world.

Infatuation also changes character easily. It can slip from one extreme to another. When it is provoked, it seeks for revenge and wants to give back in the same measure that it has been hurt. That’s why infatuation can transform into hate with the same speed as it came. Infatuation is selfish and it is always concerned about it’s own fate; it does not have the patience to understand and accommodate the other’s weaknesses. It doesn’t give if it won’t get back in return. When infatuation begins to eulogise you, it’s because it’s seeking for pleasures of it’s own. Infatuation will not bear pains for long and will not endure. Infatuation is persistent, but never consistent.

In contrast, love is slow and deliberate; it’s never in a hurry. Love grows and is not spontaneous. To quote that my friend again; she says that love is an endless act of forgiveness…a tender look which becomes a habit. Love is not always what you feel but something that you do. Love is passionate because when you love someone, you just keep loving him, because there is no end to it. Love is being honest to yourself at all times; having an understanding that is so complete. Love can erase an awful past, because it has the power to free us of the weight and pains of life.

Ultimately, love is what we all can make happen in our relationships. To love is a decision and everyone has the capacity to love, if we really wanted to. The golden rule is that you must find God, then loving someone becomes easier.the second rule is that it is more blessed to give love than to receive and the final rule is lovers don’t quit.