3 Must-Know Rules for Understanding Men

Let's put your man knowledge to the test! Are these true or false?

• Men are less emotional than women.
• Men value looks above all from the other sex.
• Every 7 seconds, men think about you-know-what.

You're in good company if you responded yes to all three questions.

We all know that men and women are not the same.

Men are more competitive, whilst women are more collaborative.

Women have superior social skills, whilst males have greater spatial skills.

But most of us get the degree of difference wrong.

When comparing women to other women, you discover a much wider range of differences than when comparing women as a group to men.

Women and men share many more similarities than differences...

Except that our similarities aren't exactly front-page news.

"Men—They're Similar to Women!"

For example, just because a man does not express his feelings does not imply he does not FEEL them.

Men feel emotions equally as profoundly as women do (for example, they are more likely to fall in love at first sight). However, they are more prone to keep their feelings to themselves, leaving everyone in the dark.

Another difference is that men place a premium on appearance. They prioritize attractiveness above personality.

Researchers set out to put that widely held belief to the test.

Over 10,000 men and women from 37 cultures were polled to determine the attributes they considered most appealing in the opposite sex.

Surprise! The majority of men and women agreed.

The following are the most crucial attributes in a partner, regardless of gender are:

• Kindness and understanding
• Intelligence

Men valued looks more than women, but personality was more important.

Finally, the one thing NO ONE doubts is that men are more interested in getting physical than women.

According to one research, college-aged men thought about becoming intimate 34 times per day, while women think about it 19 times per day.

But here's the strange twist...

The survey also discovered that males think about food and sleep far more than women.

Conclusion: It's not so much that men have a one-track mind as it is that men pay a lot more attention to their physical urges in general.

So, if males are more like women than you would think, what does this mean for you?

3 Must-Know Rules for Understanding Men

1. Avoid making assumptions that begin with, "Just because he's a guy."

He might not want to see that movie with you just because he's a guy.

He prefers yard work over dishwashing just because he's a guy.

He only thinks about himself because he's a guy.

When you assume he's a particular way just because he's a male, you miss out on learning what HE thinks and feels.

Always ask him. Get curious about what makes him stand out.

2. Begin with your similarities.

When things get hard, the fact that he's a man can feel annoying.

He's such a man! It's no surprise he doesn't get you. His perspective is so MALE.

You can see to see all of your differences through the gender microscope. He's a guy. You're a girl. How are you expected to even make this work together?

But keep in mind what the research suggests. Men and women have much more similarities than differences.

So find your common points.

Look for areas where you both agree and start there.

Don't think that simply because he's a male, he won't understand or agree with you.

When you focus on your similarities, you'll find even more similarities, because what you focus on grows.

Yes, there is an entire course written on the differences between men and women. And it teaches you how to use that difference to your advantage in that course.

However, there is only one important difference amid a sea of similarities.

3. Look where he's looking.

Many of our apparent gender differences stem from the fact that we focus our attention on different things.

He sees details that you would overlook. You notice things that he overlooks.

Instead of believing he's blind because he can't see what you're doing, let your points of view complement each other.

What additional things can you pick up if you look through his eyes.

Your differences complement each other in the absolute best partnerships.

The fact that he has a different point of view does not imply that you are at odds. It suggests he's added a new layer of understanding to your insight.

When you realize that you're more alike than you are different, that you're a person, not a stereotype, and that you're on the same side...

The fact that he is a male and you are a woman does not imply that you are from separate worlds.

It creates companion plants that lean on each other as you blossom toward the sun.

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