I am a single mom. If you've read any of my other articles, you already know this. After I had my daughter, dating was put on the back burner... for a long time. It never came first. Sure, there were dates, a couple repeat dates, but no one lasted long enough to actually matter in the long run. Perhaps that's my fault: I didn't look at any of them as serious relationships. I didn't trust them and I didn't try to trust them. Most importantly, I never even let them try to be near my daughter or any of my family. I made a rule early on that no one was allowed to be truly around my daughter until we had been dating for at least three months. Which is a good rule in some situations. No one I dated made it past the first month. I gave up quickly and I was not willing to compromise on anything. I'm sorry. Kind of.
Recently, I have started potty training my toddler. 'Recently' is a loosely used term. I tried a lot of different methods. I read three different books. I talked to a lot of moms who are doing the same thing and everything told me not to bribe her; that the only reward I should give her is emotional support. We struggled. The concept was not taken to and she showed no interest in learning.
The alarm goes off at six. I have about thirty minutes to get ready but the very first thing I do is start the coffee maker. I don't even bother putting on normal pants. I stay in my pajamas and just make sure my teeth are brushed and my face is clean as I go over the to-do list in my head and my thoughts wonder; start a load of laundry, need to wash the towels, need to wash sheets, wash... I need to wash the floors, but I should clean the counters first, the crumbs will get on the floor. Crumbs- dishes, I need to do the dishes. Am I spending too much time cleaning? I should take my daughter to the park. Why isn't she awake yet? Maybe we should have a screen-free day. If we have a screen-free day I will get nothing done. Maybe I can get something done during nap time. She doesn't nap often.
I am a major Harry Potter fan. I own all the books, all the movies, I even own the audiobooks because apparently I'm a colossal nerd. However, Harry is one of my least favorite characters. I'm not horrible. I obviously think that Umbridge is by far the worst. I like Voldemort more than her, but I think most people do. This article is not about her though. It's about Harry and why he's a horrible person and I think he would be annoying in real life. WARNING: SPOILERS AHEAD
There was recently a shooting at Mercy hospital in Chicago. I live in the suburbs, so this hit close to home. It also gave me a minor panic attack when I got an alert on my phone that there was a shooting at Chicago hospital and didn't say which one. Details are important and should be displayed on phone alerts. Anyway, as with most shootings, the topic of gun control came into play again. Living in a pro-gun house, a family member's immediate reaction was to ask me to get my concealed carry license. Believe me, with recent stories in the news, the thought has often crossed my mind. Honestly though, I don't feel safe carrying because I have seizures. I don't feel safe having guns in my house because I have seizures and a young child that lives with me. There's no reason for me, personally, to own a gun inside my house at this time. I've taken gun safety courses, I know how to operate a gun, I have my FOID card, and I love going to the shooting range. I am not a monster, I'm just someone who's explored their options and the legal ways in which to own and operate them.