I have never been a huge fan of Valentine's Day. I believe it's a hallmark holiday and makes a lot of people feel bad. Some people celebrate it with their family, and our community center always does a daddy-daughter dance. Which is why I always try to do something fun for my daughter on Valentine's Day every year. Whether she has a Valentine and someone to go to a dance with or she's single, I want her to look forward to Valentine's Day. Granted, she's two, so I have a few years before these problems hit, but I still want her to look forward to it.
"I love you." It has been said and expressed to our parents, our siblings, our families, our friends and even our pets. So why is it so hard to say it to someone we look at in a romantic way? Most of us have said "I love you" to a significant other at some point or another in our lifetimes. There's a difference between saying it and meaning it. There's a scary feeling that comes along with it. It's a big step in a relationship and usually occurs at a significant moment. Trying to determine when it's okay or when the right moment is to drop the "L" bomb is nearly impossible. It's different for all relationships.
I am currently applying for jobs. I was at an interview recently and was asked a rather odd question that seriously made me think. They asked me this; given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you have as a dinner guest?
I am a single mom. If you've read any of my other articles, you already know this. After I had my daughter, dating was put on the back burner... for a long time. It never came first. Sure, there were dates, a couple repeat dates, but no one lasted long enough to actually matter in the long run. Perhaps that's my fault: I didn't look at any of them as serious relationships. I didn't trust them and I didn't try to trust them. Most importantly, I never even let them try to be near my daughter or any of my family. I made a rule early on that no one was allowed to be truly around my daughter until we had been dating for at least three months. Which is a good rule in some situations. No one I dated made it past the first month. I gave up quickly and I was not willing to compromise on anything. I'm sorry. Kind of.
Recently, I have started potty training my toddler. 'Recently' is a loosely used term. I tried a lot of different methods. I read three different books. I talked to a lot of moms who are doing the same thing and everything told me not to bribe her; that the only reward I should give her is emotional support. We struggled. The concept was not taken to and she showed no interest in learning.