All of us have heard the old adage, “You can’t love someone else until you love yourself.” Yet, I personally know so many people who don’t even care about themselves, aren’t able to treat themselves with a healthy regard and respect, or are always looking for someone else to fill the holes inside of them. If there is one thing I can tell you now, I will shout it from the fucking rooftops:
Do you commonly feel like you’re mistreated, used, abused, or abandoned? Do you frequently ask yourself the question: “Am I really that bad?” If so, YOU NEED TO READ THIS!!!!! The bad news is that you tell everyone in your life exactly how to treat you, you choose situations repeatedly that reinforce these concepts, and then when it doesn’t work out you ask yourself why? Why wasn’t I good enough? Why couldn’t they love me? Why did they have to do that? What makes me so bad? Why do I deserve this? The answer is because that is exactly what you feel you deserve, but the GOOD news is that you can change it and I am going to attempt to show you how right now!!!
The purpose of these articles is, was, and always will be to inspire and motivate everyone to take their lives into their own hands, to stop living a life they have accepted, and begin to live a life of creation. How amazing would it be to live a life you chose? To have financial freedom and abundance, to be able to buy the car or motorcycle you’ve been dreaming of; start a company you know would give you happiness, fulfillment, and purpose; to finally have control over your existence? I have this inner urge inside of me to write about and help people understand their true potential and then go out and start living it! This is the reason I started Shock Therapy-Personal Development Service, this is the reason I coach, this is the reason I live! To me, helping people to actualize their dreams is the most fulfilling and rewarding thing I could possibly do for myself! To know that something I have done or said or even written has helped to push someone in a positive direction brings me that feeling of joy, purpose, and fulfillment that I am always talking about. This writing is literally a direct representation of me following through on the principles that I am always trying to share with you!
Have you ever asked yourself, “What is the best possible thing I could do for myself?” Have you ever felt the feeling of putting yourself before all others, of making yourself the single most important thing in your life? Think about it, what can you possibly offer anyone else if you are not taking care of yourself first? Do you sacrifice yourself for others? Give things that you don’t have to give, or try to help people out of some false sense of obligation?
Love can offer and accomplish a great many things in life, but it doesn’t fix broken people. Another person will never have the ability to heal the wounds inside of us. How many people do you know that believe they just need to find that perfect person, or find someone to love them, and then all of their old wounds will miraculously heal? How many people believe that they need to have someone else in their life to accomplish anything and to motivate and drive them? I can think of more than one of my closest friends who, no matter what I say, won’t do this for themselves. One of them actually believes that he must have a woman by his side to give him that motivation. He told me at one point, “I just don’t care about myself, but when I have someone it makes me want to be better for them.” My jaw hit the floor as I stood there looking at him with wild-eyed amazement. The fact is that this is an all too common way of thinking for many people. This specific example is obviously a case of low self-worth and image. My friend doesn’t value, respect, or really care about himself at all. He essentially believes that someone spectacular is going to come around and make everything that’s not alright, okay again. And he’s wrong, plain and simple.