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There is a simple fact about human nature that shows that we all want to be liked. Don't be afraid to admit it. If we think about it, behind many of our actions, we are really looking for ways to validate ourselves and satisfy this desire to be liked.
By gaozhen2 years ago in Humans
Over the past few days, I have attended a number of social gatherings where my interactions with others have provided me with some new insights. During these interactions, I began to notice a particular social pattern. A large proportion of people are not good at socializing.
Criticism is essential to personal progress. This is the most straightforward way to figure out what you should improve. However, taking criticism can be emotionally challenging. After all, we're only human, and who wants to hear bad things about ourselves?
Have you ever had a conversation with someone who really didn't listen to you? They act like they are, but it's clear they're not. The irony is that they may think they are communicating with you, but at some point you just don't feel like your voice is being heard at all.
A few months ago, I decided to end my financial dependence on my mother. I had 84 cents in my bank account, no place to live, and my only income came from a part-time job and several freelance projects.
I know I should say something, but the thought of opening my mouth scares me. I sat in silence, suffering alone. The longer I waited for him to notice me, the more excited I became. Feelings of anger, insult, and rejection spread through my body, heating up every inch of me from the inside.
My friend, writer and artist Christine Mason Miller once wrote in her book Ordinary Shining Moments that communication between people is like a ball - you have to throw it for the other person to catch.
My husband and I have been thinking about buying a home, but know we've hit some obstacles that might make it less likely. We contacted a loan officer who worked with us and gave us a positive opinion. We were very excited and started looking at houses.
I emigrated halfway around the world to escape my story. That's how desperate I was. This is a story of loneliness, rejection and depression. I blame my country of origin, my family and a string of bad luck.
As my multiple sources of income dried up, with no glimmers of opportunity, I quickly lost faith in my ability to create a sustainable life as a writer. The long hours of idleness solidified my career-induced depression, and I began to feel completely disconnected from my goals.
When I was a child, my family would travel long distances. We're from the Midwest, so we had to drive at least six hours to get anywhere. But we are ambitious. Six hours is a weekend trip.
During that awkward phase of high school, when you're as confused about what your math teacher is saying as you are about what your hormones are telling you, my life changed dramatically with the most terrifying experience of any school-age child - I changed schools.