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Things I've tried to get to a state where my life feels like everything is put together, everything is in order, and I never feel bad again:
By gaozhen2 years ago in Humans
Most of the books on my shelves are books I have read, or deliberately decided not to read after losing interest after a page or two. So it came as a bit of a surprise to find an understated book in the middle of various dog-eared novels I had not yet read - the power of flow.
These days, as far as I can tell, some people in the world are choosing medicine and distraction over introspection. Well, that's not you, is it? You are willing to do the work. You're willing to see ugly things and acknowledge that you can use some areas of work - whether it's emotional, mental, physical, moral, moral or any other type.
I was going through a bad patch not long ago. My self-esteem was at rock bottom and nothing I was doing seemed to be working. My relationships were in shambles, my work was faltering. I felt unhappy and unsure of myself.
From the time I was 18, any sense of personal security I felt was, to a large extent, a direct reflection of the size of my bank account. I was always after an arbitrary number that I believed would completely cover anything unexpected and leave enough room.
Not long ago, I found myself sitting around with a group of friends playing word games - where each person used one word to honestly describe the other person in the group. Everyone moves around until they are "worded" by someone else.
Right around the time I was in middle school, when my friends' presence and opinions trumped those of others in my life, birthdays started to represent more than just a day, and I might get all the things my parents refused to buy me for the rest of the year.
Being kind to myself doesn't come naturally to me. From an early age, I believed that I needed to be perfect to be any good person. It's probably A combination of my natural type A disposition and my home environment. My brother had a lot of problems as a child, struggled in school and often showed it. He is always in trouble.
In 2012, I needed to eliminate gluten and dairy from my diet for health reasons. I needed it, so I chose it. It wasn't life or death in the strictest sense of the word - my autoimmune disease diagnosis didn't require me to make any dietary changes - but after trying for a while, I realized that the diet did work on my condition.
I bought a lavender-scented candle on the way home to help create a relaxed atmosphere that I desperately needed to unwind after a terrible and emotionally draining week at work. I rummaged in my purse for my keys for what seemed like forever.
As a transformation coach, the most important challenge I face is to create sustainable change for people. This requires teaching them powerful and simple technologies that they can bring into the real world and use to make significant progress in living happier lives.
I clutched at my chest for fear that my heart would somehow burst out of it. I feel like I'm dying. I closed my eyes and prepared myself for death. It must be more painful than that.
