A self-help guide for people who understand Black Twitter references.
Navigating love, relationships, faith & lifestyle.
Tough times never last, only tough people last
[From the archives circa November/December 2020 but modified to reflect the present] Addressing life after a hurdle of trials feels so exposing. The weight of shame, guilt and pain is uneasy. Prayer feels embarrassing and hopeless. You just want to curl up in a ball until enough time passes to feel some sort of healing.
One thing m*n will do, is embarrass you
Before anyone gets the wrong idea, this is not to bash men (unless the shoe fits ), but to call out behavioural patterns that have become normalised - but are rather destructive - to the experience of giving and receiving love from a woman’s perspective (at least from what I’ve observed).
My 2020 Wrapped Up!
I am a lover of reflection! Anything relating to the assessment, deconstruction, compartmentalising, analysis, and all-round making-sense-of self, 9/10 I am involved. As 2020 draws to a close, I thought to reflect on 10 random round-up questions I found on Google to assess the year and to use as encouragement moving forward:
Potential vs. Reality
An existential crisis: “moments when individuals question whether their lives have meaning, purpose, or value” This often feels like my reality, like every fortnight. When the person you've imagined, exercised, educated and pruned hasn't yet manifested itself into your reality, it's frustrating.
The Miseducation of Self-awareness
Is anyone like me, where you’re always in a headspace of self-awareness or are you normal? I can take several moments of the day in a daze dissecting my character, my behaviours, and every associating situation and environment I find myself in. I’m literally always being challenged by my reality, which causes me to never completely be living in the present. My mantra has always been to
Is He REALLY that into You?
Let’s play a game called ‘He’s just not that into you’. Below is a set of scenarios in which you have to respond to with a yes or no to the following question: “is he really that into you?” Get a pen and paper to jot down your answers and reasoning behind them. At the end, we’ll go through my personal opinion and dissect these responses. Ready? 🤝