essamey

Joined October 2017

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A self-help guide for people who understand Black Twitter references.

Navigating love, relationships, faith & lifestyle.

IG: es_journal

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Tough times never last, only tough people last
[From the archives circa November/December 2020 but modified to reflect the present] Addressing life after a hurdle of trials feels so exposing. The weight of shame, guilt and pain is uneasy. Prayer feels embarrassing and hopeless. You just want to curl up in a ball until enough time passes to feel some sort of healing.
By essamey3 years ago in Motivation
Category: identity
If you were asked the question “do you know who you really are?” in the words of JaBria, would your response be a confident “yeesssss” like my good niece?
By essamey3 years ago in Journal
One thing m*n will do, is embarrass you
Before anyone gets the wrong idea, this is not to bash men (unless the shoe fits ), but to call out behavioural patterns that have become normalised - but are rather destructive - to the experience of giving and receiving love from a woman’s perspective (at least from what I’ve observed).
By essamey3 years ago in Humans
When life gives you lemons
It’s funny the way Christians would go through testimony olympics to try and prove their radical faith for God. Pre-Savation: *insert all the terrible, sinful and life threatening events engaged in*
By essamey3 years ago in Motivation
My 2020 Wrapped Up!
I am a lover of reflection! Anything relating to the assessment, deconstruction, compartmentalising, analysis, and all-round making-sense-of self, 9/10 I am involved. As 2020 draws to a close, I thought to reflect on 10 random round-up questions I found on Google to assess the year and to use as encouragement moving forward:
By essamey3 years ago in Humans
Leaving behind Esther in 2020 ✌🏽
Plot twist: I am the ghetto in my 2020. The time for self reflection conveniently goes hand in hand with the year drawing to a close, and I have had a lot to reflect on, especially in this last quarter of the year.
By essamey3 years ago in Motivation
When a good thing goes bad
Having expectations is fine. Striving for the best is great. Setting the bar for what you feel worthy of is admirable.
By essamey3 years ago in Motivation
Potential vs. Reality
An existential crisis: “moments when individuals question whether their lives have meaning, purpose, or value” This often feels like my reality, like every fortnight. When the person you've imagined, exercised, educated and pruned hasn't yet manifested itself into your reality, it's frustrating.
By essamey4 years ago in Motivation
The Chronicles of being a Woman in an African Household
Growing up in an African household be like: "I didn't kill my mother so you will not kill me" "When I was your age I was cleaning the compound from 6 in the morning [continued rant]...”
By essamey4 years ago in Families
The Miseducation of Self-awareness
Is anyone like me, where you’re always in a headspace of self-awareness or are you normal? I can take several moments of the day in a daze dissecting my character, my behaviours, and every associating situation and environment I find myself in. I’m literally always being challenged by my reality, which causes me to never completely be living in the present. My mantra has always been to
By essamey4 years ago in Motivation
Is He REALLY that into You?
Let’s play a game called ‘He’s just not that into you’. Below is a set of scenarios in which you have to respond to with a yes or no to the following question: “is he really that into you?” Get a pen and paper to jot down your answers and reasoning behind them. At the end, we’ll go through my personal opinion and dissect these responses. Ready? 🤝
By essamey4 years ago in Humans
5 Steps to Getting Your Dream Job
If I received a $1 tip from everyone who's been looking for a new job, I'd probably have enough money in my wallet to actually be able to make a substantial withdrawal...
By essamey4 years ago in Journal