Insecure young girl with big dark eyes falls for a vampire who wants to kill her. Insecure young girl with big dark eyes falls for a rich bachelor who wants to beat her. These are the brief summaries of both series that created a cultural phenomenon for very different audiences; “Twilight” by Stephanie Meyer, the one for insecure teenage girls, and “Fifty Shades of Grey” by E.L. James being the one for insecure sexually frustrated housewives. Much has been said and parodied about these two pieces of fiction. The questions I’m asking are, is the criticism valid, and if so, who is the lesser of two evils?
Anyone who hasn’t been living under a rock for the past few years, knows about the bitter separation and divorce between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. People know about the allegations made by Heard of physical and emotional abuse committed by Depp during their short marriage. In the wake of that, Amber Heard has become a spokesperson for the MeToo movement and organizations for the awareness of violence towards women. As a result of all of this, Johnny Depp has been destroyed by many in the court of public opinion, has lost jobs, not to mention he’s lost a huge fortune in regards to the legal fees all of these proceedings. Which leads to me to one question, why was it the world was so quick to jump on Johnny Depp, despite their being no evidence that he is the aggressor in this situation.
Labeling myself hasn’t been something I’ve given much thought of until a few years ago. Years ago, when it came to my sexuality, I considered myself a lesbian. However, in the last few years, getting into the relationship I’ve been, looking back, and the relationship I’m in right now, I can say without hesitation that I am pansexual. The reason being I don’t think much about the gender of the person I’m attracted to. I’ve been attracted to men, women, transgender women, and transgender men. I’m not leaving out non binary people; I just haven’t been romantically attracted to someone who identifies with this term. If I did meet someone who, they would just fall in with those I’ve been attracted to over the years. My point being, if there was a label I would go with, it would be pansexual because it’s a label that fits me the best. This all being said though, why are labels almost a mandatory thing in the LGBTQ community? Is it even mandatory? All of this comes from my person experiences, along with a little bit of research, so I’m putting that out there now. That being said, lets chat about labels.
These times have put the world through the ultimate emotional meat grinder. No one can watch the news without seeing something that hurts, or causes them to sink just a little deeper into the motions of the chaos. How do we find peace, when it’s so hard to look at the world without falling to pieces and asking what’s the point? Why should we find that peace? What’s the point when there’s so much working against us right now?
How is it a scenario that plays into our worst nightmare, ends up being one of the most successful formulas in story telling?
It’s been nineteen years since 9/11/2001, and it’s really hard to say what hasn’t already been said. I know I could say a million and one different things, and hope it sticks out among the rest. However, I won’t try to do that. I’ll just try to go through the memory of this awful event for what it is, something we can’t forget, even if the memory hurts.