Perfect Reflection
How bad behaviour is justified or The Blame Game - it's your fault!
I like to look at myself.
I think I see myself clearly.
I see what I want in the glass.
My perfect reflection.
I am perfect.
Always have been.
Always will be.
Amen. Hallelujah.
Let no-one else tell me otherwise.
*
I can do what I want
Because I'm perfect.
I can say what I want
Because I'm perfect.
I speak with impugnity
Because you have immunity
To everything I say and do
Because I am not hurting you.
*
Outsiders tell me I am flawed.
I am, but not in their words.
I recognise myself:
I know myself.
I am not what you say I am.
I decide how I am flawed.
I can use my personality filter
To sieve my behaviour
And when I look
Only tiny pieces of goodness are there.
See? I criticise myself
And I will remind you
That I do this
All of the time
But I don't really criticise.
Not truthfully.
I criticise you.
That is where the truth lies.
I make statements
And say them out loud
About myself and my faults
But they're not faults.
Not really.
They're caused by someone else.
They're not my faults.
They've been inflicted on me.
I've been hurt
And my flaws are the consequence.
*
I could choose to be different
But I am perfect.
Why would I?
I criticise myself
But you cannot.
I don't like what you say to me.
*
I am not flawed,
Not as you see me.
No.
The mirror tells me differently.
I am perfect.
Always.
*
I can act however I like.
People tell me I hurt them.
They hurt me.
Always.
This is worse.
I don't deserve it.
I am perfect.
*
I can speak how I find
And you'd better like it!
Don't challenge me-
Don't you dare.
My opinions are my own
And I can share them if I like
And you'd better listen
To my narrowness
And my anger
And the vitriol from my head
Created from rancour
And ignorance
And how I see things.
And this is right
Because I am right
Always.
*
I am perfect.
I will defend my perfection
At all costs!
Besiege, beseech -
It doesn't matter.
I will attack!
And I am right to do this!
Always.
I will assault you
With my vindictive grenades
And watch as they explode
Causing harm to all around.
I don't care for your hurt-
You don't hurt!
You don't feel it like me.
I'm only like this
Because you hurt me.
*
I will send out my emotional barrage
Of assumptions I've made.
You must accept them
Because I am right.
Don't contradict me.
Don't voice your conflict.
Don't try and reason.
I don't need to hear your view.
Love is in compliance,
Not in courage of conviction.
Don't question me -
That's not love.
How dare you speak up
And tell me what you think!
You are wrong
And I am right.
Your views are only designed to
Hurt me.
To think for yourself is damaging
To me.
Why would you want to hurt me?
Can't you just agree with me?
*
I tell you I get no pleasure
From this.
No.
I am hurting myself only.
My wounds are licked dry
And soothed by self pity.
But with my rough callous tongue
I reopen them with words
Sharp and severing,
Because you need to know
How I hurt.
You need to know about my tears.
You need to know that
You don't care about me.
But I care.
*
And it is hard,
So hard
When you are hurting me.
Why do you hurt me?
I am perfect.
Can't you see?
Why would you want to hurt me?
I care so much about how you hurt me.
Why don't you care?
*
I want to flay you
With my whipping words
And make you ooze
And cower
Because this is what you do to me
And you have forgotten:
I am perfect.
I will remind you.
Always.
You don't feel it like I do.
You can't
Because I am the victim.
Why can't you see it?
The mirror can.
Why can't you?
I am reflected back there as I see myself
As I am.
Perfect.
*
I love myself.
I am perfect.
And I want you to love me too.
Why don't you love me
No matter what I do?
I speak out.
I want you to love me.
I shout.
I want you to love me.
I aim meaningful pointed darts at you.
I want you to love me.
I tear you apart.
I want you to love me.
I make you squirm with the guilt I try to inflict.
I want you to love me.
Blackmail is emotionally derived as
There is my love behind it.
The biggest emotion of all!
Such strong love.
Always.
My love
Unconditional
As long as you agree.
Why don't you love me?
I don't understand.
I am not a bad person.
I am perfect.
I know that.
You need to see it
So that you can change
And we can be at peace again
Because this is not love.
Love is loving me
As I am
Because I am perfect.
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Sometimes, some relationships are like spirals: they just keep going round and round and round and at the centre of them is a person whose viewpoint never changes and never will because they cannot see how they act and believe that everyone else must be the cause of their unhappiness. They spin and spin, faster and faster, their mind trying to find avenues out of which they can launch their anger or frustration or vengeance, all because they are unable to see themselves clearly and believe their current state to have been caused by others. These people do not recognise themselves - ever.
I have dealt with many people like this in my lifetime and they sadden me. They never seem to see that they are the orchestrators of their own misery, even when presented with examples of this in their own life. There is no doubt that others influence our lives but I am a great believer in feeling that we have the choice of how we choose to respond.
I wanted to explore this idea from my experience and so the repetition of ideas and lines are meant to represent that spiral - the returning to the one idea that cements the viewpoint, in this case, being perfect - and trying to explore the psychology and thinking behind it.
I started out thinking of writing a poem for the Smooth Vocal Challenge about a mirror and reflecting but as is often the case, it morphed into something else which was less poem and more monologue. Besides, Sylvia Plath has already done that and who am I to try to usurp her?
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About the Creator
Rachel Deeming
Mum, blogger, crafter, reviewer, writer, traveller: I love to write and I am not limited by form. Here, you will find stories, articles, opinion pieces, poems, all of which reflect me: who I am, what I love, what I feel, how I view things.
Comments (2)
I thought of other people, specifically. Then I thought of all of us, generally.
The repetition definitely portrayed the spiral really well. At first I felt so sorry for them and then I was having second thoughts and felt like they were self absorbed. Loved your poem!