How to stop being co-dependent

It’s natural to want to help others, but if you’re not careful, your ability to be self-sacrificing can become a source of problems. The more you sacrifice for other people, the less autonomous you become and the less able you are to meet your own needs. This is called codependence—and it’s one of the most common forms of abuse in relationships today.

Fortunately, there’s a way out: learning how not to be co-dependent in your relationships is simple if you practice healthy boundaries with yourself and others!

Believe in your worth

Self-respect is the most important thing in the world. It’s not just about being “worthy” of love and acceptance, but about being worthy of yourself.

You can increase your self-respect by doing things that make you feel good about yourself. This might include taking time for exercise, going outside on a walk or having a cup of coffee in the morning—you get the picture!

Take care of yourself by eating healthy, getting enough rest and avoiding alcohol or drugs if they’re negative influences on your life (this one is pretty obvious).

Stop judging yourself and others in a co-dependent relationship

It is not your thoughts, feelings or body that is keeping you down. You are either not your past or your future. You are right now and what’s happening at this moment – including all of its ups and downs (like when you get into a fight with someone).

Judging yourself and others is the first problem in being co-dependent. It can be helpful to remember that we all judge ourselves at some point – even if it’s just slightly! So don’t beat yourself up over it! If there were no judgment involved in our lives then why would we have chosen to do anything?

Believe that you can handle things on your own.

You don’t need to get help from other people. You can make your own decisions and they don’t have to be the same as other people’s decisions, even if they’re in the same situation. Don’t let anyone tell you what to do—even if it’s someone who is close to you or who has been there for a long time and knows better than anyone else what works best for them (or not).

If someone tells me I’m doing something wrong, I tell them that I know better than them because my choices worked out well so far!

Set boundaries in a co-dependent relationship

This one is a good example of why we don’t want to use sections for takeaways. Setting boundaries is one of the most important things you can do for yourself and other people. A great way to set boundaries is by asking yourself if you’re willing to do something, but it’s not really in your best interest.

For example, maybe you want to go on a date with someone and then decide that it’s not worth it because they don’t respect your time or body enough.

This way, when someone asks if they can borrow your car keys or take over planning the next big event at work, there won’t be any confusion about whether or not this person has earned their right to have access to something that belongs only to them (or at least requires some effort).

Learn to say no

Saying no is a difficult task. You may feel guilty or insecure, but it’s important to remember that you’re not letting someone down by saying no. You’re protecting yourself and your time by saying no when necessary. If someone asks for something that doesn’t serve your needs or make sense for either of you in the long run, then it’s best to decline politely and move on with what does work for both of us (or just one person).

It’s also important not to say no when someone else tries to push further than what would benefit both parties involved—that includes friends who want more intimacy after being together for years but aren’t ready for marriage yet!

This can lead to an unhealthy cycle where one person feels like they have all these feelings inside them without knowing how exactly their partner feels about those same feelings; this over-thinking leads people down paths where neither person ends up feeling good about themselves as a result of their actions.”

Saying NO will not hurt always, it should be understood when you want to come afar from being co-dependent.

Practice self-care

You can’t be a healthy person if you’re not taking care of yourself. You know this, but sometimes it’s easy to forget that we all need time for ourselves, whether it’s going on a walk or watching a movie alone in our PJs with no one else around.

This can seem like such an obvious thing—and yet so many people struggle with it! If you find yourself constantly worrying about how someone else will react if they see you doing something “selfish,” then this is probably why: self-care is something that makes us feel more secure as individuals and as part of society at large (in addition to being good for our bodies). So what are some things we can do?

Develop your interests and friendships

• Learn to be comfortable with yourself.
• Don’t compare yourself to others.
• Don’t let other people define you.

It’s okay not to fix other people’s problems for them.

If you always feel that you are the only person to solve another’s problem, then you are strongly addicted to being co-dependent. You don’t have to fix other people’s problems for them.

It’s not your job to help other people through their difficulties, and it’s not your responsibility to make sure that they’re happy or fulfilled.

You can’t control how someone else feels, so if you try to fix their problems for them, it will only cause more drama in the long run.

This doesn’t mean that you should just let things happen and walk away from them; it just means that sometimes there won’t be anything anyone can do about what has happened until after the event itself is over (or at least until later). Co-dependent is not a wrong word to describe a person but when it spoils a relationship, it has to be stopped.

Conclusion

I hope that this short list of tips has been helpful to you. I know it can be hard to stop being co-dependent, but with practice and commitment, it’s possible!

The most important thing is your well-being, so take time out of your day for yourself and make sure you’re taking care of yourself in every way possible.