Empaths Standing Firm Against The Toxic Cycle

Dealing with a narcissist who has lost you can be a challenging and painful experience. Once they realize they have lost you, expect their desire factor to increase, as they only want what they cannot have. Narcissists have a gaping hole in their souls and take the forbidden fruit effect to a different level. They long for the one that got away and will use hoovering tactics to suck you back into the abusive cycle. However, be prepared in advance to save yourself from pain, drama, and trauma because there is no time limit on the narcissistic hoover. It can be even after a decade.

Empaths often attract narcissists because they are genuine and show up with the best intentions, always wanting to see the best in other people. Narcissists could not care less about what is in your best interest. If you let them back into your life, they suddenly begin to change into the person you needed them to be when they abused you the first time. Suddenly, they will be on their best behaviour, doing and saying all the right things you needed from them in the first place, but not for long.

Thinking long and hard before relapsing into such destructive relationships is important because it only gets more complicated each time. If all their tactics, games, strategies, and schemes to get you back fail, expect them to send in the flying monkeys and little minions who are meddling friends, family, or whomever they can get. These people have a much-distorted half of the story and think they have all the information, people who want you to believe that they mean well but are offering advice from a very narrow perspective. Beware of these people and set healthy boundaries.

When all these tactics fail, tall tales, fairy tales, and false images emerge. All illusions, if they did not have it to give to you, they are not suddenly going to grow a heart and conscience and change into the person who has kindness, genuine empathy, and a moral compass and care to give to whoever is unfortunate even to be their next source of supply.

Do not fall for the notion that someone else is getting the love you did not get despite the illusions on social media. It is fake. After this, expect a full-blown smear campaign if you hold the line, stand firm, and refuse to accept them back into your life no matter what.

Even though they know full well that they have blown what is likely to be the best thing that has ever or will ever happen to them, they will still smear you because they are bitter, resentful cowards, and no matter how appallingly they have behaved, they will have to land on either the victim or hero side of the story. Hence, they make you the big evil villain.

They vilify you because you refuse to continue to accept their abuse. They cannot get through to you anymore; they can no longer manipulate, exploit, use, and target you, so now they go after your character, reputation, and any relationship you have with other people they can influence. They will say whatever it takes, no matter how untrue, cruel, unkind, and bizarre it sounds. They will say it to assassinate your character to anyone who will listen. This is the game they play, and it can be harrowing to be on the receiving end of this.

To work through this phase, you need a solid support system. They work to manipulate the perceptions of others about you. You need to work hard to rise above all of this. Love yourself and do what you must to take care of yourself.

It is important to remember that the problem lies with the narcissist, not you. They have a disorder that causes them to act this way.