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The butterfly effect
Are you allowed to change? Do you ever find yourself being told who you are because of who you have been? Do you find yourself in shame, relieving old habits or mistakes because it’s who you’re expected to be. How often do we all get trapped in our past because of these expectations our peers and family have of us? How often do our newly formed wings get plucked from our shoulders before we’ve had a chance to behold our transformation? Why aren’t we allowed to change?
Jade BacaPublished 4 years ago in MotivationOur Weakest Spots
“Nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spot. […] We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything—what a waste!”
Kelsea KnowlesPublished 4 years ago in MotivationTailor Made for You...
Growing up, my vision of what my adult life would look like was similar to that of most young girls. I wanted the large house with a wrap around porch, a farm sink overlooking the back yard and deck, a white picket fence, 2.5 children, a husband that adored me, a successful career, and a propelling, quickening, and stimulating church to be apart of. I'd worked out in my head just how my future husband would propose and that our first dance, after our 6 month engagement, would be to the prophetic words of Jesse Powell's "You". You see, Jesse was prophetic because he had made an entire song about the way my man would love me. My granddaddy would walk me up the aisle and give me away. My mother, sister, and other family members would sit in the front row in tears, simply awestruck by my beauty and my custom made dress. Our daughter would be a scholar, have no attitude with her parents, be active in the church, and practically run the family business after school. Our son would love his mother and father and protect his sister if we weren't in place. He'd take over the family business that my husband and I would start early on and end up marrying at the age of 25, the same girl he met in 10th grade. Our children would eventually move into the houses built alongside the family house they grew up in. We'd all live peacefully and happily. Life would be grand.
Andrianne AdamsPublished 4 years ago in MotivationWhat I've Been Reading About Codependency
I’ve been reading a book called The New Codependency. Help and Guidance for Today’s Generation. It is a good read from Codependent No More’s Melody Beattie. I’ve come to realize that blocking my mother on What’s App is a good solution as she picks fights on any Internet medium there is as a way to substitute picking fights in person. I realize through this book that I have to set boundaries by saying that I have to be treated a certain way or that person will not get communicated with. I will not tolerate being made to fight with this person for fun. It causes me stress, anxiety, and many a mental health problem blow out. I would go as far as to say that getting into a fight with someone triggers mania. Not even explaining that via a doctor’s note will sway my mother. Although I have contemplated getting my doctors to write letters to her, from primary care all the way down the list. I have tried time and again to set boundaries with my mother for goodness sake but nothing works.
Iria Vasquez-PaezPublished 4 years ago in MotivationHow to Defeat the Feeling of Defeat
Everyone has been defeated by something, an argument with another person, an argument with yourself, or life just hits the fan and makes a mess all over your new carpet. It's all perfectly normal. Everyone has been upset or uprooted by their defeat, whether you cry about it, get angry, or doubt yourself, it's all perfectly normal and it happens to everyone at some point. If you're like me, it happens all the time.
Siri OlïnPublished 4 years ago in MotivationThat Spark 2.0
Almost a week ago I came to the conclusion I’ve never felt home. The first sentence of the last paragraph was; "I've come along way from where I was." At the time, I barely grasped how well I have handled the hurdles. Whether I jumped them with ease or I was thrown at it.
Merichel SanchezPublished 4 years ago in MotivationCodependency
Back when I was trapped in my codependent friendships, I felt that I was doing way too much work, which is why I dumped the ex in the first place. An ex friend was busy relying on me (female), to meet all of her needs. I wasn’t getting much in return. I was all too willing to help her at first but then I realized just how very manipulative she was being towards me. This is why I dumped her as a friend. I was busy letting her continue her self-destructive behavior. I was raised in a dysfunctional and ill family, of course. This is why it went that far. I have massively low self-esteem I’m working on. I’m terrified of moving to Los Angeles and starting school, and being so overwhelmed by my feeling of inadequacy that I start drinking again. I feel guilty about feeling good because of my medication while my family doesn’t do medication at all.
Iria Vasquez-PaezPublished 5 years ago in MotivationDear 25, Welcome!
Years ago, I dreamt about this particular birthday. I'm not sure why; however, I just knew it was one that I looked forward to. As I am now days away from it, I wanted to write myself a letter as a source of encouragement for the 365 days to follow. For those of you who have a milestone birthday approaching, it might be beneficial for you to adopt this practice as well. It might help you navigate through the trials you will inherently experience in your coming year.
Erika HunterPublished 5 years ago in MotivationLearning a Martial Art:
Learning a martial art is this: Training reflexes and responses to physical attack. This is something I have personally had extreme anxiety over because of the training I received the first 18 years of my life. I had a lot of sneak-attack physical bullies, including my parents, and I was incapable to fight back. I learned to always fear being attacked at any moment, especially when my guard is down, and by people we are supposed to trust. When we are 2 years old, we can't even say, "Stop hitting me, grown man."
Zoe BonesPublished 5 years ago in MotivationMr. Rogers Therapy
The photo caption is dialog from the show Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood and it reads: Lady Aberlin: "I've got some very special news for you."
Zoe BonesPublished 5 years ago in MotivationTriggers, Fears and Surrendering
Triggers A touchy subject and one I acknowledge has more to do with me and my reflection vs others. A huge trigger for me is feeling and noticing others being dishonest and not truthfully & wholeheartedly expressing themselves. More specifically with those who are a part of my life.
Jordyn TaylorPublished 5 years ago in MotivationWorth It
Our relationship with ourselves is the key to forming healthy external relationships. The way we view ourselves is critical. It shapes how we view everything around us. If we see ourselves as an unworthy person, we will tolerate things that we shouldn't. We'll say yes to things that disobey our true selves. Although forming a loving and healthy relationship with ourselves, isn't a walk in the park. It is learning a whole different language.
Merichel SanchezPublished 5 years ago in Motivation