Apology

Some people aren't speaking to you because they owe you an apology. (Joker attitudes) (Freeman, M.)

This quote is accurate because we know someone is acting this way towards you. After all, they know exactly what they said and did to you and know they should and need to apologize for their behavior, but you already know that they will not. Most of the time, the person who does need to apologize to someone else is more than likely letting their pride get in the way of them doing so. Now, this doesn't mean that the individual is the wrong person. It could simply mean that their background has not shown them the correct way to apologize to others when they know they are wrong. I am not the kind of person to walk around with an S on my chest like I am bigger and better than the next person. If I know for a fact that I have said or done anything to someone else that I know may have verbally, mentally, emotionally, or physically hurt you, then I am woman enough to take the time to say I am sorry for whatever I have said or did to the person.

We all know there is nothing wrong with apologizing to others when you are wrong. The funny thing about all of this is that most people won't even get this lesson because they are so stuck on themselves that apologizing to someone is hard for them. I am not giving these individuals a pass for this because they have had experiences in their own lives with others that they know they should apologize for their behavior, and they still don't.

I have seen so many friendships go down the drain all because one or both parties involved could have simply taken the time to say look, I was wrong, and I want to make sure that we can fix this, but instead of offering a plan of action to fix the situation they both are angry with each other for something so small. They will destroy a ten-year friendship all because neither one of the parties wants to back down and apologize for what happened.

Some situations and people we all know we have to disconnect from for our own mental health, and this is hard sometimes because we all love helping others, but the real question here is what do you do when you know that the other person does not want your help anymore. The answer to this question is simply to stop helping them because if you don't, they will continue to take your kindness for weakness, and no one likes to feel like they are being taken advantage of. Life is too short to walk around giving help to someone who you can clearly see doesn't want your assistance.

Now, back to answering the question that I started out with. Why do we need to apologize? The answer is to regain your mental control and peace of mind. It is not for you to carry around someone else's negative mindset. You must know who you are inside and out and simply move on with your life. As long as you know that you attempted to fix the problem and genuinely mean you are sorry for your actions when you say the word you are sorry at that point, it is up to the other person to say whether you are good. Now, after you have done your part, nothing else needs to be done on your part. Simply keep moving forward because when you say you are sorry for something, you are at a place in your life where you are healing not only yourself but others in your space.