healing

How to heal fully and properly.

  • Craig Braquet
    Published about 7 hours ago
    My Journey to Truly Understanding Love

    My Journey to Truly Understanding Love

    As a young person i would have said that LOVE was what one felt toward their Mother, Father, and Siblings, but I came from a pretty dysfunctional family and I wouldn't wish that love on anyone. It took me seven years away from my family before I could tell my partner that I loved them, because every time the word was about to come out of my mouth I thought of my father, whom I'd been told to parrot the words "I love you" to, even though I'd never heard them from him. I had to relearn the world LOVE under a non-familial context. I had to "learn" how to love again. After those seven years of relearning, I looked up definitions of the word: "A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person," YES, if that was love, then I sincerely felt it for my then partner of seven years. How about "a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend."? Well, I loved my mother, and though Jay and I didn't really get along very well at the time, I was fond of my brother, but again that "family love" got stuck in my throat when it came to my dad. I finally came to realize that, at that time in my life, "love takes time", and I was learning that I had to separate the idea of "familial love" and "non familial love". Once I made that distinction I could vocalize that I loved the person that I'd decided to share my life's journey with, my partner, and over time I realized that I could love other people too. That there were different kinds of love. I found out that the more I loved people, the more those old definitions of love fell away
  • MarisaKaye
    Published a day ago
    The Need for Constant Validation

    The Need for Constant Validation

    In today’s society, we sometimes look at others for external validation. Whether that validation is about our outfit of the day, Instagram posts, who we date, or bigger life decisions such as moving cities or quitting our jobs. When I first started therapy, I never noticed how often I was looking for outside validation from someone else that I was on the right “path” in my life. Once I started to really look within and understand my self-sabotaging behaviors, I started questioning my thoughts, and one phrase I repeated to myself often: “How is someone else supposed to know that I’m doing the right thing for me? The only person that can validate that I’m on the right path is myself.” I still catch myself with self-doubting thoughts, but for a really long time, I was at a point in my life where I couldn’t trust myself to make decisions, big or small.
  • Cheyenne Martinez
    Published 3 days ago
    Moving Forward

    Moving Forward

    So here we are. It was quite some time ago I wrote an article saying how I was going to try to do this—write more. In that time I wrote one (other) article. Trying to find your footing as an adult is hard. I recently graduated university, left an unhealthy relationship, and started doing the creative things I felt like doing. A part of the leap I took was understanding that when you leap, you fall. But you have to absolutely, pick yourself up again.
  • A_CONSTANT_THAT_EQUALS_ZERO
    Published 7 days ago
    Time Was Created By Humans, but so Was Heartbreak

    Time Was Created By Humans, but so Was Heartbreak

    The past, present and future seem to get along very well. The past being 5:05 PM, the present 5:06 PM, and the future 5:07 PM. A cycle, a mere projection of what humans stand for: Control. I do not know exactly if the making of time was the primitive example of how we like to control everything around us, but it is in fact one of the biggest amenities that now plagues our lives; or perhaps not plagues, but tangos with us, as we continue to learn how to live, and how to accept.
  • Dibbie
    Published 9 days ago
    The Key to Happiness Is Accepting It

    The Key to Happiness Is Accepting It

    For a while now, I've been dealing with depression.
  • Amy Neuman Proffitt
    Published 12 days ago
    BRCA1 Double Mastectomy

    BRCA1 Double Mastectomy

    And so it begins... the week of surgery I have been planning since February of this year, before I even set foot in my genetic counselor's office. After putting off that appointment for many years, letting "life" get in the way, I felt at 44 I should stop pressing my luck. Cancer runs rampant through my family, and I wanted to continue to see my babies grow up and be successful, and spend as many hours and days as possible with the love of my life by my side. Year 44 was the year for owning my health and my future.
  • Crystal
    Published 16 days ago
    Life Keeps Moving

    Life Keeps Moving

    There are moments in life when we change. It does not have to be physically; in fact, it can be mentally. There are so many ways that change can happen. In life, we go through events that will impact who we are. As humans, we all change differently there are times. We don’t like change. Change is scary, no one likes to change. When it happens unexpectedly, we try to fight change. To not let it happen when all we want is our life to stay the same. Yet why do we try to not change? When it is not a bad thing at all. Look back to the start of the year who you were. If you can look at yourself then you will notice things are different. Have it be something as simple as a hair cut to something drastic like losing someone. All life events impact people differently. Yet sometimes, we fail to see the beauty of change. The beauty of change is getting to grow into different people. You see, these life events, while some are easy, some are hard. Who we are today is not who we will be in a week, month, or even a year. If you go back even further to think about life, you can just see how much you have grown. That change is indeed inevitable, there is no way to avoid this. So, I think the best thing to do is be able to embrace the changes in life. Even when they are not wanted or hit us suddenly. To think that this moment can help to guide us in life. Life is not easy, and, in a way, it is like a roller-coaster, so hang on tight. Do not be afraid to fall off course because, in the end, it will all work out. You can see just how much you’ve changed mentally as well. The way we act and think is due to change. Life events also help to shape us differently. For we don’t go through the same changes. Some people can relate to others, but everyone changes differently. So, just know that you are not alone in this ride. That there will be highs and lows, but don't be discouraged. In fact, to try and embrace anything that comes our way. Change is nice and it happens because we can handle what is thrown at us. Never give up on life because change makes us stronger. It helps us to be able to see life in different ways. Just think, if change never happened, we as humans would be dull. In the sense that we would live life day by day being the same person. So, when you look back at all times you got back up and kept trying. Just know that it was all worth it. The change was worth it because nothing in life is free. Yet the experience we gain is truly amazing. So, no matter if we change mentally, physically, spiritually, whatever it is, know that it will all be fine. Then know that while these things will continue to change, so will we. Humans don’t like change, yet it can be beautiful even when it is not. We come out different depending on what the change is. Just know that, at the end of the day, change will happen. It is not something to fear, even when it seems like we should. Always keep your head up high and remember that you are not alone. Everyone goes through many changes throughout life. In the end, change is and always will be inevitable.
  • Rustie MacDonald
    Published 17 days ago
    I Was

    I Was

    When I was a little girl, I was to be a Rockette. Or maybe the next famous pop singer. I was to be rescued by a prince in my castle. I was to land on the moon or I was to dive deep into the ocean and take the most breathtaking photos ever seen. I was to be Jacque Custos sidekick traveling the world for PBS. I was to cook with Julia Childs and meet amazing people from all over the world. Each time I was standing under the moon, barefoot, and pretending. I was so many things. The world was a vast place of learning and I was going to gobble all of it up. I wanted to dance with the Stars, those on the ground and those floating in space.
  • McKayla Sillitoe
    Published 17 days ago
    It Controls How & Who I Love

    It Controls How & Who I Love

    Tonight I am in a state of consciousness that I have never entered into concerning any depth of my own emotions in my life. Tonight, unsurprisingly, here I am allowing my demons to play music with my heartstrings loud enough to numb the ache, but for once my eyes have been opened and I have discovered something new about myself that I felt the need to share. I write a lot about mentality because I am no expert in my dome, but nobody knows my dome like I do.
  • Balance Period
    Published 19 days ago
    ThisTimeLastYear (September 18')
  • Camilla Rantsen
    Published 21 days ago
    Issues Are My Favorite Shoes...

    Issues Are My Favorite Shoes...

    Issues are my favorite shoes.
  • Karin Bauer
    Published 21 days ago
    Getting Back on My Feet

    Getting Back on My Feet

    Life has its moments. Life's line does not always move in a straight line—more often, it goes in a squiggly line.