There’s a problem that some of us have to go through in our lifetime, and that’s the fact of having to live with this simply complex contradiction: simultaneously loving freedom, and loving love.
Not only am I a love avoidant called Paula, but I'm also am a badass female to boot.
As I wrote in my best selling book, Hello Love, Where's Cupid? 2nd Ed and I wrote in the previous post, there are many reasons why you could still be single. Most likely you are sabotaging your chances at finding someone, based on your own behavior. Sometimes it's as easy as to NOT do the following when out on a date and when out looking for love. Here are 5 more reasons as to why you are still single:
Eight years of being single.
Relationships are hard to get through, and to make sure you're giving what is needed for it to thrive. Sometimes it works, and other times it doesn’t. I’ve talked in other pieces of mine about how to make it work, what is needed of each other, and packing up your lessons and moving on if it isn’t working.
“I hate being single!” or “Why am I so unlucky in love?” Do these sound familiar? If so, then welcome to Singlehood. I will admit, some people are really unlucky when it comes to love. I have seen it firsthand, but there are those who are still single due to those who are left in the “pool” while others are single due to being their own worst enemy. Then, of course, you have those people who call you “desperate.” Let's get one stereotype cleared up, though: I am not desperate because I am single. I am single because I am not desperate. There's a difference. If you are running from relationship to relationship, then okay, you are desperate, but if you struggling to find someone and you have your standards, you are NOT desperate, you are smart.
I am what some people might call a serial dater.
Everyone seems to be getting people down when they say they have no social life, or they’re single, and I wanted to make this article, especially for my fellow females about why being single and having no friends in real life is the best thing ever. It’s not something to be ashamed of, and it’s definitely not something to poke fun at others for. There are many pros to having absolutely no friends whatsoever, and no other half. This article will be split into two parts: five reasons why having no friends is great, and five reasons why being single is great. So don’t always beat people up for it, they’re doing it for much different reasons you are.
You know that moment when you lose your complete grip on reality and panic that you and only you, in the whole entire universe, will be the only person left who hasn't found their soulmate? That everyone else will somehow magically ensconce themselves in ultimate wedded bliss, walking around staring longingly into their partner's eyes and busying themselves with living happily after... like totes forevski ... and even people that are really mean, so mean that even their mother doesn't really love them anymore (although she'll swear down that she does, each and every single time), will incredibly find someone that loves them, as much as they love in return.
I know–this topic is cliché, and honestly, I don't blame you if you feel like gouging your eyes out. Seriously, don't though—I swear I've got some good sh*t to say.
Love! Who needs it? Actually, I do, but I won't get that anymore. You see, my love life is as dead as a 1,000,000-year old dinosaur. Yup, I have no love life.
So I find myself single again after three and a half years of putting up unnecessary bullshit from a man who didn’t know how to love me. During that time I made a million and one changes, as we as women normally do, to appeal to his sense of what I was supposed to be and look like to no avail. In the process, of course, I lost who I essentially am.