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Letter to My Younger Self

(But also to anyone who needs to read this)

By Gabriela Trofin-TatárPublished about a month ago 3 min read
Top Story - May 2024
Letter to My Younger Self
Photo by Lesly Juarez on Unsplash

“Have you ever thought about accepting yourself as you are right here and now? That you are good enough — perfect in fact — just as you are?”

― Hillary Allen, Out and Back: A Runner’s Story of Survival Against All Odds

My dear,

I take my pen, and words start flowing on the paper. There is just love. And I would like to share with you my biggest lesson of all. My biggest transition has been motherhood.

From my young self to adulthood, I finally got to understand that honoring ourselves as women is probably one of the most amazing gifts we have on this Earth. If we honor ourselves, then we can also spread our love and understanding to our family, kids, partners, and so on.

Please know that you are enough. There’s no need to struggle and work so hard for love and appreciation.

You are valuable just because you are.

You are a good mother.

Not perfect, not the best mother, but a good enough mother. Your children are and will be so cool, and you’ll be very happy with them by your side. And you will have peace in your heart, that you’ve done a good job with them.

You are beautiful.

Maybe you don’t see it now, even though you’re living your best years! But, trust me, one day you’ll be able to look in the mirror, and every time you meet your face, you’ll smile at it with admiration and love.

And you’ll say to yourself, “You are very beautiful!” with honesty and joy. You will see and be so happy with your face and your body, and you won’t want to change anything about yourself.

You are a better and gentler person than you think.

One day, your gentleness and kindness will be reflected in you so often that you will finally see them in you. And your inner child will thank you too.

You are not selfish.

I wish you were! If you had been, we would have arrived earlier at healthy self-love together.

They lied to you when they told you that you shouldn’t be selfish.

Today, you are allowed to start choosing yourself, for your own sake. Don’t confuse this with being unkind to others in any way!

You are normal…

…and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Everything you don’t like about yourself and will change in the coming years (but also what you won’t want or be able to change) are normal adaptations to the many abnormal situations you have been through.

***

It’s all normal,

everything you feel,

all your defenses,

there’s nothing wrong with you.

You have coped excellently so far,

you are a survivor.

And one day, you will not only survive,

but you will also begin to live fully.

***

My heart is filled with gratitude for the lessons I’ve learned and the journey I’ve been on. There is no better transition than this path toward a better understanding of the self.

I hope you see in yourself that life has so much to offer if we just take our time to reflect and experience it.

With love,

Me

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***I originally published this story on Medium.***

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About the Creator

Gabriela Trofin-Tatár

Full Stack Developer in the making and mother of 3 littles. Curious, bookaholic and travel addict. I also write on Medium and Substack: https://medium.com/@chicachiflada & https://chicachiflada.substack.com/

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Comments (15)

  • Andrea Corwin 10 days ago

    It is like a meditation- an affirmation for the mind and soul to pull in and keep and surround you in goodness!

  • Sweileh 88826 days ago

    Interesting and delicious content. Keep posting more

  • Sweileh 88828 days ago

    Interesting and delicious content. Keep posting more

  • Khanabout a month ago

    Loved this so much ❤️

  • Anna about a month ago

    Congrats on Top Story! Loved your positive thoughts!❤️

  • Ubah Henry more blessingabout a month ago

    Honestly I love women that are true to themselves, your words of courage has touched deeply inside my heart, please keep the work

  • Kodahabout a month ago

    Aww beautiful letter! Congrats on top story!! 💌🥳🎉🥳🎉

  • Esala Gunathilakeabout a month ago

    Congrats on your top story.

  • angela hepworthabout a month ago

    Amazing!! Nothing like showing kindness to ourselves. Congrats on TS!

  • Caroline Cravenabout a month ago

    So good! I think we could all do with following this advice and being a little less hard on ourselves.

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  • Cathy holmesabout a month ago

    Beautiful letter of affirmation a d acceptance. Congrats on the TS.

  • Belleabout a month ago

    Lovely 🥰❤️ I love how self-affirming this is, knowing how so many people don't hear this enough! Congratulations on Top Story!

  • Raphael Fontenelleabout a month ago

    This is so wonderful and heartwarming.

  • The Dani Writerabout a month ago

    An excellent letter and reminder to us all! Top story kudos!

  • Ainy Abrahamabout a month ago

    We all need support to grow and believing in ourselves is the biggest support we have.

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