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How to Get Ready for Sex When You're Not Having Sex
Does anyone else try to guess if someone is having sex or not? Just me? Okay, great. A new acquaintance. A co-worker. A stranger walking toward me in a mask in the middle of a pandemic while the elevator slowly closes.
I Heard People Having Lockdown Sex
I did it. It finally happened. Somehow, after twenty-something odd years, I heard other people having sex. Two people, to be exact. And not actors on a screen, either. These were hardworking, quarantining stay-at-home citizens as best I could tell. I could only tell so much. That's what makes sex so attractive if you're not part of the act.
Nights with a Highly Sexual Woman
This happened, but it's hazy. In some ways, I'm afraid it may never happen again… More than three years ago, in Los Angeles, found myself seeing a woman who adored sex. She said it, screamed it; she wore it like perfume across her neck. She told me so on only the second night I saw her, hands tracing the stem of a martini glass and up to the finite rim. I sat there, transfixed on a bar stool, breathing in the smokeless air at the base of the canyons in a city of expensive, half-hearted taste.
How to Stay Zen if You're Single at the Beginning of the Year
I don't want to admit it, but I grit my teeth when I meet new couples around the holidays. I force a smile around the punch bowl. I dump an imaginary vat of eggnog onto their blow-dried heads of hair.
Searching for Male Friendship in a Lonely World
A few nights ago, I met up with a buddy of mine here in Los Angeles. His fiancé had flown to San Francisco while he stayed behind with their dogs, who I sometimes look after. The two of us are close, but not too close. Sometimes I feel like I know his dogs better, and that's why I reached out to him.
I Relapsed After Not Watching Porn for 90 Days
The life of a porn addict is nothing if not confusing. Most days it's, at a minimum, haphazard at best. After giving up porn three years ago, I began the terrifying journey of getting out of it. After relapsing for three weeks in November, I now know what I must do to stay the course.
How to Approach Women With Authenticity and Confidence
In the coaching work I do, I often find myself in the middle of two groups of people that both want the same thing. One one side, there's men that wish they could stop making excuses and approach women. On another, there's women who want to stay open to men's advances, but have had one too many conversations with guys who had no idea what they were doing.