The Tactics Used by Narcissists and Controlling Personalities.

Narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths are individuals who often use manipulative tactics to control and gather information on someone who has gone “no contact” with them. Going no contact means that a person has made the decision to cut off all communication and interaction with a particular individual who may be abusive or dangerous to their emotional, mental, and physical well-being.

When a person goes “no contact”, it is often done as a form of self-preservation and to regain control of their life. However, for individuals with narcissistic, psychopathic, or sociopathic tendencies, this decision can be perceived as a threat to their sense of control, power, and entitlement.

These individuals may use various strategies to control and monitor their targets, including smear campaigns, gaslighting, ghosting objects, and stalking “flying monkeys.”

One common tactic used by these individuals is smear campaigns, which is aimed at destroying the reputations of their targets. They may spread false rumours, lies, and innuendos about the person in order to turn others against them and discredit their credibility. This can be an effective way of isolating the target and making them feel vulnerable and alone.

Gaslighting is another manipulative tactic that can be used to control and manipulate their targets. This involves denying or distorting reality in order to make the person question their own sanity and perception of events. For example, a person may be told that they are overreacting, that things didn’t happen the way they remember, or that they are crazy or unstable. Gaslighting can be extremely damaging to a person’s sense of self and can leave them feeling confused and helpless.

Another tactic is leaving objects outside the target's home or place of work.

This is to make the target believe that the person is still present in their life.

This can also include leaving or posting gifts addressed to them at their home or workplace. It can also involve creating fake social media accounts or sending messages from anonymous numbers in order to create a sense of constant surveillance.

“Flying monkeys” may also be used to gather information about the target’s whereabouts, activities, and social life.

It is important for people who have gone “no contact” with narcissists, psychopaths, or sociopaths to be aware of these manipulative tactics and to take steps to protect themselves. One of the most important steps is to cut off all communication and interaction with the person. This may involve blocking the person’s phone number and social media accounts, changing their contact information, and alerting friends and family members about the situation.

It is also important to document any instances of stalking or harassment and report them to the appropriate authorities. This can include contacting the police, obtaining a restraining order, or seeking legal assistance.

Additionally, it is important for people who have gone no contact to have a strong support system in place. This can include friends, family members, or a therapist who can provide emotional support, validation, and guidance.

When going “no contact”, it is common to experience feelings of guilt, shame, and anxiety. However, it is important to remember that taking care of oneself is not selfish but rather an act of self-preservation.

If you are experiencing stalking or harassment from someone with these tendencies, it is important to take steps to protect yourself. This may involve seeking support from trusted individuals, documenting instances of stalking or harassment, and reporting them to the appropriate authorities.

Therapy can also be an important tool in recovering from the trauma of being targeted by this kind of abuse. A qualified mental health professional can help you process your emotions, develop coping strategies, and learn how to set healthy boundaries in your relationships.

Some people may also benefit from joining support groups or online communities where they can connect with others who have gone through similar experiences and share coping strategies.

Remember that you are not alone, and there is help available. Don't hesitate to reach out for support and guidance.