How to get over that person?

Have you ever met someone with whom you fell in love and considered very special to you, but you have not had the opportunity to start a relationship ?

Or, on the contrary, have you had it, but that person has decided to put an end to it?

The challenge of overcoming the person with whom you have fallen in love

When we live in a situation like this, breaking up with that person becomes very painful. Some people even feel physical pain, a very intense pressure in the chest or a lump in the throat that does not allow them to speak. The looping thoughts are always the same : “What have I done wrong?”, “Why don't you call me?”, “Why are you no longer interested in me?”, “How can I win him back?”.

Added to these questions is the need our minds have to combat how bad we feel when we think that person no longer wants us by their side, to find a moment in the day to be able to draw and fantasize about a different scenario. A scenario in which this person returns, tells us that he has realized that we are very important and asks us for an opportunity.

In this sense, our mind tries to find the balance to survive the negative emotions that we feel throughout the day. After all, it is not pleasant to get up every day thinking about that person, about what we had, and what he no longer gives us .

That moment of fantasy usually occurs when we go to sleep. We start our dream with a pleasant situation that helps us rest, but this only feeds the loop in which you are stuck and does not allow you to move forward. Why? Because when we wake up the next day, and see that what we would like does not happen, the pain, the frustration and the shock with reality, is more painful.

Tips to consider

What can we do about it to get over the breakup as soon as possible?

1. Think of that person in negative

When we are in love, we have the tendency to idealize the person we want to conquer. Their flaws and the things we don't like go unnoticed, becoming able to accept whatever is necessary in order to get their love.

Come down to reality . Stop thinking about all the good things you experienced or what he said to you. Focus on thinking about what you didn't like, what embarrassed you, or what made you feel bad. Focus on what doesn't give you in the present moment. Do you really think he is the love of your life? Was everything that it gave you so important that you invest time and pain in wanting to get it back?

2. Stop being aware of their social networks

Stop following their stories and their posts, so you will never get them out of your head!

3. Don't post every minute of your life to get their attention or expect a reaction

Anyone who wants to know about you and how you are doing will write to you without having to reply to a story or post you make on social networks. If he thinks of you, he will look for you.

4. Activate your social life

If you look around you, you will realize that you have many people willing to enjoy you and dedicate their time to make you smile. Take advantage of those friends, family or colleagues, who are present in your day to day, to make plans and activities that allow you to distract yourself and value the beautiful things that life has in store for you .

5. Talk about it if you need to but without it becoming the center of your conversations

Many people need to vent and share their concerns. This is very healthy if it helps you release tension and empty your mind a little of so many looping thoughts.

Some find answers or other ways of seeing the situation thanks to the feedback received from others, but your lack of love should not become the center of conversations in your social gatherings . Without realizing it, you will always be thinking and talking about the same thing. We unconsciously feed something that we must eliminate from our thinking.

6. Take physical distance with that person

Do not provoke encounters or frequent places where you know you will find it. Don't fool yourself . You know where you can find this person, and if they have already shown you that they have no interest in you, do not provoke encounters that will only cause you more pain.