Laws of Self Help

This post is a snippet of my copyrighted manuscript, “Laws of Self to Self Love”. I know that there are millions of people around the world, struggling with the acts of identity, boundaries, and healthy relationship choices. This guide that acts and serves as a guide to my daily choosing, is and will be published to assist many on their journey in self-love. I started writing this guide in the midst of an argument with a guy who was emotionally abusive. I thought to myself how can I prevent this from happening. It was revealed to innerstand myself, through my strength of writing to put my solution to abuse in a book, dedicating it to becoming the best version of myself. This book helps me, even while writing I find it to be my therapy outside of therapy, and I hope and pray that it is just as therapeutic to others.

Read below and tell me what you think.

LAWS OF SELF

To Self Love

By

Charelle A. Landers

This book is a dedication

I want to dedicate this book, first and foremost, to God because I am nothing without you, and all things are possible through your grace and mercy. I am blessed to have and possess this gift you have given me. You bestowed this upon me through your everlasting mercy, stronghold, and love. You are my rock and fortress, and I will forever endure, embrace, empower, and uplift your name in the many nations you take me to make me wholesome and noble. "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all". Proverbs 31:29

I want to dedicate this book to my children, Mi'Kele, Mi'Trell, Mi'Lei, Mi'Aah, Ryan Jr., and Ryeign, the six pentacles of my life. I've decided to start the self-healing process because I wanted you all to know that a person (me) only knows to love how they are shown, love. You can always become better only if you believe that through God, and only God that all of your troubles and worries are not meaningless but worthy of a testimonial breakthrough. I want you to know that his love is only the beginning of a neverending story for all your true happiness. As I am writing this book, I am on a self-recognizing journey. To love you better has been my declaration because I never want you to feel lost, hurt, or unaccepted, but you all must remember love, respect, honesty, and peace all start with self. What you give yourself will be easy to give to others if you do it with a righteous heart and mind. A mind is a terrible waste, so please use it as your life depends on it. I love you and am happy that you all make me smile and play Fortnite. I would not do anything differently because for you and with you, I have found a purpose to share and a love to give. I love you even when I yell, spazz out, and even when you're in trouble. You are the best things that God could have given me to cherish while living on his borrowed time. Love covers a multitude of sins, and with the chapter of my life heading into the chapters of this book, I want you to remember that greatness is not in the form of winning but in the form of knowing who you are, not who others want you to be.

To my siblings Valondra, Anniece, and Lautha, I love you all like a fat kid who loves cake. Vee, I wouldn't know where to start if it weren't for your drive. Anniece, if it wasn't for you being there on days I couldn't even understand, I wouldn't have realized how beautiful I am. Lautha, if it weren't for you telling me that I give the best advice, I would've never started this chapter. You all have always been there to work my last nerves, but I would not trade our friendship, relationship, and bond for anything in this world. I love you all with everything in me, and I am nothing without you three. I must write that it's humbling , walking and being raised and loved by humble beasts.

To my mother, oh, mother of mine, I can write a book about how your love has shaped me into the woman I am today. You are genuinely next to God; nothing can ever take that away. I love you, lady, and thank you for all you are and who you are and for always telling me to be myself and have the courage to love and give myself to myself. You are an example of all you need: a little passion and trust in the process of life to process my life. You laid your life for me, and I will stop at nothing to allow your love and light to shine through me. You are my moonlight. Thank you for the best support and encouragement you've ever had to offer and give; nothing goes unnoticed.

To my readers, thank you for reading and taking the time to support my dreams and for being a reason I truly have the strength to fulfill my purpose on this Earth. I hope you enjoy it. I also pray that you find closure and peace and understand that pain without falling is simply never

taking risks to see what's on the inside. I pray that God blesses everything surrounding you and that you dare to heal. Remember to walk on purpose, talk on purpose, love on purpose, and whatever you do, let it be on purpose because it's always on purpose.

Introduction

We often find ourselves looking for better and trying to become better, but knowing where to start brings a challenge within itself. Laws of self to self-love are simply a guide to healing, finding true love within yourself, and one day bringing that great gift to others. This book aims to simplify the things I learned I needed to heal while on my self-love, self-respect, self-motivating, self-gratification, and self-determined journey. How are we truly made whole if we first don't know ourselves? How can we generate any of the above-named to others if we do not offer it ourselves? We live in a world where monetary value is more redeemable than honorary morality. If we constantly find dealings or look for what we have in people and things, we will find ourselves in a hard-fought battle of conflict and insecurities that alleviates a cycle of abuse. Self-recognition is vital to life and doesn't come with your status or title. I learned that the meaningless battle comes from the one I am fighting within myself.

In this book, I will explain to readers thoroughly, through a handwritten guide, what to do with love and how to protect oneself against the barriers of self-love, and how to cope when others refuse to love you, and it seems as if hurt is the only transgression love brings. I will explain why rejection is only a mental disease propagated as normalcy by what we believe should be acceptable in society. Social norms seem to amplify how people love themselves in their world but forget to acknowledge the pain it brings while loving others. With the likes of socialism, it seems that everyone has forgotten about the golden rule of life: treat others how you want them to treat you. Laws of self to self-love will shed more insight into why following the leader always generates a loser. I want you to be a winner, and I want you to be a leader. I was hoping you could give your all to yourself so that you may, in turn, never count on anybody else to provide you with what you need, whether it be a therapist or medication. By faith, all things in life are possible, and I have faith that we can heal, love, help, and grow past the things we've declared that would never break us again. Always note that if it fails, it is to put you together. God has to deconstruct before he reconstructs.

This ten-step process is to open the doors about yourself; as you embrace every flaw, fault, and all of your pain, love, and affirmations all in one, with the desire for growth while unapologetically you. I hope this book helps you continue becoming the best version of yourself, and I hope that who you have become or will become after reading this book details boldness, beauty, and courage. Laws of self to self-love will give you more than a breakthrough. It will provide you with the courage never to allow hurt to reside in your heart, mind, or thoughts again, no matter the circumstance or person. My goal is to help you heal through positivity and manifest a breakthrough, instilling the covenant of God's promises in your heart. I say that before we can have others love us the way God sees love, we must first know what it is like to love ourselves as a desire. This book serves many brokenhearted, broken-spirited, and traumatized people seeking validation from a dry, torn web of people we love. Not only will it outline some of the most undisclosed feelings many refuse to bring to the surface, but it will also allow those implanted seeds of purpose, legacy, strength, and determination to progress.