You Don’t Need a Relationship To Be Happy

Have you ever noticed how often society seems to push the idea on all of us that people are only happy when they’re in a relationship? No? Think about this blog the next time you’re watching TV.

Over the next week, notice each television series, movie, or even commercial that you watch. There are tons of people in relationships, attempting to find them, or worrying about the one they’re in.

Even when looking around online, many advertisements feature couples together. Let’s say you’re checking into resorts to stay at and clicking the activities they have at each one. Chances are, you’ll see happy, smiling couples running around together, parasailing, walking on the beach, hand-in-hand, etc. There’s a definite pattern here.

I think about the single people I know and it’s very common to see many of them lamenting about being single. I get it. Love is wonderful. Companionship is generally awesome if both people are good human beings and kind. Living alone can be a bit on the lonely side at times, I’m sure.

However, the need for society to elevate couples and make single folks feel left out or less-than is ridiculous. It’s perfectly ok to be single and to enjoy it. Some of the most secure, well-adjusted, happy people that I know personally love being single. Here’s why:

You’re Free To Do Anything You Want Without Needing Approval

In theory, every relationship should be this way. However, most of them are not. If I had the idea in my head that I wanted to go get shitfaced at a bar this weekend with my fellas, Guys Night Out, my Bride might be a little sad about that being what I’d prefer to go do instead of hanging out with her.

She’s exceptional, though. If I told her I wanted to go do that because it’s been years since I’d done it, she’d be supportive. I’d likely feel guilty about doing it and would bail out on my buddies.

Fortunately, we’re both complete homebodies. We work hard and don’t enjoy wasting our money barhopping when we can stay home for free, drink a glass or two of wine, and laugh at our TV shows together. I’m a silly fella when I have a nice wine-buzz going. I love making her laugh.

If you’re single though, you have no need to run plans of this type by anyone else. You’re free to do whatever you feel like doing without worrying about it hurting someone else’s feelings. Freedom is one of the most appealing aspects of not being in a relationship.

You Don’t Have To Worry About Another Person Mistreating You

My personal guess is that statistically speaking, at least 1 out of every 2 relationships is lacking. One or both people you see in a relationship is probably feeling unfulfilled or borderline sad/angry about their relationship and the person they’re with.

So they go through the motions. “Fake it ’til you make it”, right? Perhaps they’d rather be out on a weekend. Maybe they’re tired of the same routine and bored off their asses. There’s a reason that 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce. And why so many people cheat on each other.

This doesn’t even take into account how many people are in abusive relationships. Ones in which they feel there is no way out. Relationships where one is gaslighting the other and being shitty. Many people are trapped for financial reasons.

When you’re single, you don’t have to deal with those scenarios. Living on your own in peace is far better than sharing a home with a douchebag who treats you poorly. Or even going through the motions, pretending that life is wonderful when neither of you is having a good time.

You May Enjoy the Peace and Solitude of Living Alone

Some people feel pretty lonely when they are single and living alone. Without a person to talk with constantly, or sleeping in a bed alone without sex or cuddling, they can feel alone in the world. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Many of the single people I’ve known in life enjoyed having a quiet, peaceful home. Some of them never had children. Living in a home alone can be good for your soul. Others find joy in having a pet such as a dog, cat, bird, or another animal. I know people who love their plants. To each their own.

You Have More Free Time For Self-Interests and Hobbies

I’ve known people who are very passionate about their interests, hobbies, and careers. You’ve heard the term, “Married to Their Job”, right? Think about that one. Someone who is very passionate about their career often finds it more desirable to gain their fulfillment from kicking ass at what they love doing rather than the person they’re doing.

Writers are an excellent example of this. Artists. Photographers. Perhaps high-powered business executives who enjoy traveling for work. Single people in these fields and others often excel without having another person to take care of. Relationships take time and effort to maintain.

You Are Just as Awesome Being Single as Being in a Relationship

Most people have different sets of wants and needs. Due to our upbringings, places we’ve been, and things we’ve experienced, we’re all different. One set of rules or expectations from society doesn’t apply to everyone.

If you’re feeling bad about being single, please think about the things I’ve mentioned. I’d also love to hear from those of you who have been single for some time by choice and genuinely enjoy it.

I love being married to my best friend and we’ve been completely happy for 11 years now. Yet we also smile and admire our friends who kick ass on their own, who are happy living their best lives as single people. &:^)